scuffer
Mum to 3 lovely boys!
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My eldest son is 12 in January and loves going to visit his Dad, we always make an effort to get him most of the way there as we've moved away from the area he lives due to work. We try and combine it with a visit to family or something, it's about a 4 hour drive as we're in Yorkshire and his Dad's on the south coast.
We were due to go down yesterday, were going to drop him off then stay with my Mum for a few days, then bring him home again, so no effort from his Dad.
Anyway, I've had flu and am still not quite better so we didn't go, my son is understandably uposet, especially as he hasn't seen his Dad since the summer as he didn't go down at half term (he chose to stay home and do things with friend's, knowing he'd see his Dad at Christmas). I've tried making some last minute arrangements to get him half way by him getting the train with a friend who is getting the train to London and for his Dad to meet him. But he just won't make that effort. He also let it slip that he's concerned that when he spoke to our son earlier he sounded like he had a chesty cough, and he doesn't want the germs going down to them! I explained that he'd been poorly a week or so ago and it was just a little cough but he wouldn't budge.
It just makes me so cross, if it was the other way round I would have driven up and got him by now. How can he not miss him enough to make that effort? I try not to let my son know how angry I get with his Dad, hence coming here to rant.
I'm still feeling quite poorly and maybe I'm being unreasonable but I just think that sometimes you have to make adjustments and last minute changes to arrangements when you have children.
We were due to go down yesterday, were going to drop him off then stay with my Mum for a few days, then bring him home again, so no effort from his Dad.
Anyway, I've had flu and am still not quite better so we didn't go, my son is understandably uposet, especially as he hasn't seen his Dad since the summer as he didn't go down at half term (he chose to stay home and do things with friend's, knowing he'd see his Dad at Christmas). I've tried making some last minute arrangements to get him half way by him getting the train with a friend who is getting the train to London and for his Dad to meet him. But he just won't make that effort. He also let it slip that he's concerned that when he spoke to our son earlier he sounded like he had a chesty cough, and he doesn't want the germs going down to them! I explained that he'd been poorly a week or so ago and it was just a little cough but he wouldn't budge.
It just makes me so cross, if it was the other way round I would have driven up and got him by now. How can he not miss him enough to make that effort? I try not to let my son know how angry I get with his Dad, hence coming here to rant.
I'm still feeling quite poorly and maybe I'm being unreasonable but I just think that sometimes you have to make adjustments and last minute changes to arrangements when you have children.