Seriously, is it THAT hard?

[AppleBlossom]

Grace's excuse for a father has yet again proved he is never going to win a parent of the year award. He used to live in Liverpool which is about 25 minutes drive away from mine. He brings her back at half 6ish and she goes to bed at 7. So I was expected to bath her and get her ready for bed inbetween that time. He has since moved nearer and so I asked him today if he could start bathing her and getting her pyjamas on so she is ready for bed when she gets back and I can spend half an hour with her properly before she goes to sleep since I don't get to see her all day. He said he couldn't because he still has to travel for 15 minutes. I said to him that it takes 5 minutes to stick her in the bath and give her a quick wash and 2 minutes to stick some pyjamas on her. So he used the old failsafe "Well I'll try." It pisses me off because he causes so much uproar about all these parental rights that he thinks he has, having her overnight, keeping her for longer during the day, even though he hwas the one that left US so actually he walked away from most of those rights. Yet ask him to take any parental responsibility and he will make every excuse under the sun not to take any. I'm just fed up of him using her as an accessory for him to flaunt around his friends (pretty much all of his friends are gay and aren't that likely to have a baby of their own, but he does so it's something he can 'show off', that's the way he has always treated her from the minute she was born) Grace deserves more than to be used like that. And she absolutely adores going in the bath, she's so funny in it and she loves being in there. He wouldn't know that because he won't get off his selfish lazy arse and do something FOR her rather than just WITH her for a change.

Sorry, rant over!

 

[purpledahlia]

ugh thats annoying, He will maybe realise as she gets older. I say if he cant do it then he should bring her home earlier so you can... x

 

[xJG30]

He really doesn't deserve to spend time with her, what a prick!

 

[AppleBlossom]

As I suspected he brought her back without her having had a bath and she was still in her clothes

 

[sweetlullaby]

If he cant do one small thing for his own daughter and your losing out on time with her id get him to bring her home half an hour earlier so you can do it.

 

[expecting09]

Maybe he thinks giving her a bath is a chore, and he only wants to do the 'good' things with her, if that makes ANY sense lol. I'd tell him that his parental rights means he has to bath his daughter too!

 

[AppleBlossom]

^^ that is exactly right. It's been like that from day one. He never did a night feed once, he never bathed her, changed her nappy, put her down to sleep, gave her a bottle, he point blank refused to help wean her. But he was ok with taking her to see his friends or whatever. He thinks he is an amazing father because he takes her out places. That's not what a father is at all. Unfortunately he thinks it is