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[c-demers]

Thank you all! It's really reassuring It definitely is in our nature to question every little thing we did to see if it had an impact on the outcome. The hardest thing for me is that I tried so hard to do everything right, I completely gave up caffeine, all junk food, you name it, and then to see women still binge drinking and smoking and carrying their baby to full term makes me livid!

 

[Megg33k]

Ugh... I agree! Not that I would ever do it or condone it, but it almost makes you think that it's the way to go! I mean, all these people on drugs, drinking heavily, smoking like chimneys... they have 5 kids! Me? I don't drink, I've never really done any drugs, and I don't smoke... ZERO! Also, if talk shows have taught me anything... the more abusive the man you're with the more fertile he is! Apparently rage and sperm count are related somehow? Too bad my husband is wonderful!

 

[puppymom32]

I'll give u the abbreviated version of my long story. Was having pains in 03 and went to the dr he thought it was a cyst or tumor did exploritory surgery turns out it was a tubal that they had no ideal how long had been in there this was on my R side. Dr very suprised tube did not burst he was able to save the tube still not really sure how. Then started to really want to try to have a baby but nothing happened until Oct 07 + test followed by sharp pains and masive bleed at 7 weeks thought it was another Ectopic but turned out to be a MC. Had test ran all came back fine. Had another MC in May 08 7+3weeks tried again nothing until April 09 found out had another ectopic in the same tube as before. Had surgery on the same exact date 6 years earlier to remove my tube. Fear it would keep happening if left in. Waited 3 mo to try again and had a chemical in Aug 09. Since then have quite all the meds clomid metformin and so on and just letting nature take it course. Turned 33 this month and so ready to be a mommy. DH and I have been married for 13 years in March.

 

[4everhopefull]

hi girls, my name is candice im 26 and i live in devon. im currently ttc after 3 losses the first was twins at 6 weeks, the 2nd was twins at 9 weeks and the third was my beautifull baby girl at 22 weeks. unfortunatly i lost her due to incompitent cervix . im hoping to ttc as soon as humanly possible because i feel like im about to go into battle....first hit 9 weeks, then hit 12 weeks then have the stich to keep baby in for a good amount of time!
all of the best ,
and huggs,
candice XX

 

[Megg33k]

Candice!

 

[jennyellen13]

hello everyone!

my names Jenny im 21 and my OH danny is 23. we have been together 5years.
Feb the 2nd 2009 i found out i was pregnant, i was in shock as i came off the pill about 3weeks before and wasnt actually planning on getting pregnant. i suppose i was the lucky one that got pregnant straight away and i was on the pill for 6years before that.
everything went fine until i got to 25weeks and realised i hadnt felt the baby move, dan said she must be asleep, so i left it till the next morning and then went up hospital to be told she had gone to heaven the worst day of my life.

Been trying casually since, only used opks last month and think i might have had a early miscarrige at 5weeks, but never did a test so will never know.

just hope my time comes soon, and all you lovely ladys get everything you deserve
Pma is the only thing that we can try and do xxxx

 

[4everhopefull]

im so sorry for your loss jennyellen13

 

[boomer]

Hi all, not sure if I should post on here as my loss has just happened so not ttc just yet.

We've been ttc for over a year now, and early last week I was a week late and just knew this was it!! Was so happy for 3 days as I felt so complete. Got my BFP on Tuesday night, was just over 4weeks, we were estactic.
I'm 36 and OH is 44.
On Thursday, I started with cramps tried think nothing of it as I'd been having them on and off for a few days, but these just felt different.
Thursday night at 6pm, I had a wee and when I wiped there was bright red blood.
No more blood all night, just extremely bad cramps that kept me awake. Friday am when I got up and went to the loo, i passed a blood clot, and just knew this was it. Been bleeding heavy & clots since, but pain is starting to wear off.
I know I was only 4 and half weeks gone, and if I hadn't been symtom spotting I would not have even known, but I still feel so empty now.
Haven't taken test since, really seems no need, all my symptoms have faded.
Trying to look on the positive side that this means there is at least hope for us, this has meant things may work.

Should I go the doctors, I've read there's nothing they can do, but not sure if this should be put on my notes for future...??

Hope all works out well for me and all us lovely ladies on here.xxxx

 

[beadyeyes]

I'm so so sorry to read all the heart ache and losses on this thread


My story is a short but eventful one, so far. I'm 26, husband is 25 and we decided to start TTC last September (09) as my mum had cancer and we decided that the time was right for us and also because we very much wanted to give my mum her first grandchild. At the start of December 09 OH and I got married in the same church as my parents did almost 33 years earlier. 1 week after the wedding mum was admitted to hospital but was generally fine - just needed some fluid draining. 18 days after the wedding my mum died very suddenly and unexpectedly, despite having cancer. That was 2 days before Christmas. Her funeral was exactly a month after our wedding, again in the same church. I must've conceived around that time and we found out on the 18th January and were convinced it was a sign from my mum. Sadly, only a week later I started bleeding and a trip to A&E confirmed I was having a miscarriage. I know I was only pregnant a week but to us it was a baby, our future, and a message from my mum to say that everything would be ok and we could look forward. Now we feel as if that's been snatched away from us. The bleeding's almost stopped now so we're starting to try again. We've taken some comfort from the fact we know we can conceive - just hope next time it's a sticky one.

 

[stephwiggy]

I guess people may know this but here goes

ME....

I have one son, Kieran who is 4 and a half, amd i had a rather problematic pregnancy with him, i had 2 blled which we diagnosed a threatened miscarrages and alos i had severe spd so much so that i was in a wheelchair for the majority from the begining of the second tri!!

I didnt recover fron the spd and needed a huge operation to repair the gap in the front of my pelvis including bone grafts and a metal plate (x ray in my journal) and have since been diagnosed with a pregressive condition with my spinal cord!!!

Well we decided sept 2009 ish to ttc number 2 !! we got pregnant in december but miscarried in feb 2010, the hardest thing i have ever been thru !!

Well we are now almost 12 months on and nothing, other than longer cycles !!

On the pluss sisde i have blood test last week to see if anything of out of whack (docs words) so we shall see !!

 

[Dannib247]

hi, im sorry for everyones loses xx
my name is danielle my partner and i have been ttc for 4 and a half years im 23 in aprl and hes 29, we finally were blessed with a buba in jan 2008 went for 6 weeks scan to check everything was 'perfect' heart beating away and everything a few weeks later cramping and fresh blood came i also passed tissue. had to wait a week for scan to confirm m/c was confirmed, been ttc ever since which is extremely difficult as partner in the army based at the other side of the coast so only able to come home at weekends. was refered to fertility specialists who 1. said because partner was away all the time we were b'd to early or late and 2. because we concieved naturally in jan there is not anything worth investigating :'(

 

[shaerichelle]

to you all.

I am 31 DH is 36. We both have children from our previous marriages. In Sept a month after we married we decided to ttc. Halloween I was raped, so I had to take Plan B which has messed up ttc tremendously. I finally got a period Nov 18. and I had a 65 day cycle! During that cycle I ovulated and didnt know it. at 16 & 17 dpo I got faint positives on the hpt. I was happy ..finally. I felt symptoms for days. Sadly the next day I had extreme pain in my uterus and that not spotted and then by midnight had a full AF. I still cry. I was barely pregnant, but I miss the feeling of knowing there was life in there.. A baby we have been wanting badly.

 

[Lincoln Girl]

hi im sarah im 26 and hubby is 24.

we have a beautiful daughter who is nearly 3 and started TTC no 2 on honeymoon in september. Nothing happened until end nov 2009 when i got a faint BFP . This was only to be for a while as 2 weeks later i miscarried

this hit us both hard, hubby more than i actually thought. He said he didnt want another baby but i finally got him to talk and it was the MC that scared him that it just wasnt meant to be..ever! Be we had a chat and have decided that we will be TTC again in the summer

 

[tabbicles]

I am 29 and my OH is 38. Lost our 1st last Sept at 12 weeks exactly while on holiday in Vegas Had an early scan at 7 weeks due to cramping and saw the heartbeat so it died soon after that. Had my 1st proepr scan booked in on the day I got back so dont know whether it would have been worse what happened or finding out it had died at the scan. Must say though, I really appreciate the NHS after seeing how much the healthcare was in USA!! Thank heavens for Travel insurance!!

 

[Mum2pinks]

Hi
Im Heather, im new here but i have lurked for a while.
I am 30 and my OH is 39 we have 2 DD's 12 and 4.
I had 2 losses in 2008, first was just over 6wks and the second was a mmc found at just over 12wks (had stopped growing at 9-10wks)
The second was a horrific experience where the ERPC didnt remove the loss and i ended up hemoraging 2 weeks later at home, was blue lighted to hospital where i had my ^i^ manually removed while in an A&E cubicle followed by blood transfusions to save my life After which i had to undergo another ERPC.
I also had a chemical pregnancy in early january (3 days of + tests, 3 different brands) which has made me determined to have a successful pregnancy.
I have PCOS which meant my 2nd DD took many years to concieve.


I try to remain positive
to you all that have suffered losses x

 

[dollydingle]

hello everyone
I am also new to posting but old to lurking!
I am so glad this forum is here - it is so needed.

I mc my first pregnancy in Aug 09 at 11 weeks. I literally missed a couple of pills to fall preggers I was so lucky!
I'd had a normal scan with fetal heartbeat and little baby hand buds at 7 weeks - told everything was good but something obviously went wrong.

I lost lots of blood and spent the day in A&E. Horrible horrible horrible.

Now we're trying every month really hard but nothing, nothing, nothing.

My periods are all over the place. I had a scan a few days ago which just showed 'pre-menstrual' endometrium (I've been bleeding now for 2 weeks!).

It's so frustrating. It's mostly all I think about. I try desperately not to keep talking about it with everyone. I'm sure OH will think I'm going nuts - his attitude is 'everything is fine' 'it'll happen'.

But I want it to happen now!!!! arrrgggghhh!!!

 

[magnolia09]

hi everyone. my first pregnancy i lost twins at 7 weeks and 11 weeks (sept. '09). it was a roller coaster ride of emotions and doctors not knowing what was going on for awhile, and then it took over 3 months for my hcg levels to go back down to zero. got my first af after mc jan 7th and my hubby and i decided to try again. usually had a 32 day cycle after i got off the pill, so i'm waiting until monday to test. not feeling all that optimistic this month, but hoping for a bfp soon!

 

[BebeIn2010]

I am 24 years old and I have been married for 4 years. I miscarried in the 1st month of my first pregnancy in July 2006. I ended up getting pregnant in June 2008 and it was an ectopic pregnancy which almost killed me, resulting in the lost of my right tube. We tried and tried with no success since then and on 1/7/10 I did a HSG which showed my left tude was good. I didn't get my period in January and I just thought I was skipping my period this month because in july I also didn't get a period. So, on 2/4/10 I decided to test just to make sure and it was positive. I counldn't believe it so I woke my husband up and he was like wait for the doctor to confirm it. I called my doctor and schedualed a blood test and I was told to come in that evening. I got a urine and blood test done with both having positive results. There is hope ladies so keep your heads up and pray as this helped me very much. I'm praying for a healthy 9 months as I am cramping a little with no bleeding. My beta hcg level was 840 on 2/4/10 and I am schedualed for a sonogram on 2/9/10. There is hope ladies.

 

[doddy0402]

Hi I am Donna. I have been with my wonderful partner for almost 6 years and we have a beautiful 3 year old son.
I wanted a couple of years gap between Dylan and his brother/sister so was going to start ttc in sept 09, only to find that I was already pregnant! A bit of a shock but definitly a good one. unfortunately I mc at 7+4 weeks. absolutely traumatising and we took a couple of months to get over it. conceived again on xmas eve 2009 and was incredibly worried that history would repeat itself, and unfortunately it has and we have lost this one aswell, the day after my 25th birthday.
I want to try again as soon as I can this time. I want my boy to have siblings and I would love to have another baby. I obviously would much prefer to have not lost the ones that I have, but I have to believe that our bad luck will end and we will get our healthy baby soon. x

 

[TripleB]

Thought I'd bump this thread for the new ladies... x