shared custody...?

[CaptainMummy]

Anyone else?

My daughter is 15 months, and stays with her daddy 3 nights a week. It is very hard for me but I have a job on the nights he has her, which helps take my mind off things and of course the extra money is good!
Sometimes i feel like i'm failing her, because really I would rather have her every night(who wouldn't?) but as I am not there all the time, I just feel like im letting her down. She is well looked after and has great fun with her dad, but its still hard for me to be away from her so much. (wehave been split for almost 2 months now)

Anyone else have shared custody of LO, and how do you find it?

Ps. None of this is through courts or anything, we both decided ourselves and have stuck to it.

 

[jemmie1994]

no i have full custody FOB doesnt even have visitation (his own choice) and tbh im so glad i would be absolutely crushed if i couldn't wake up every morning to see her smiley face

 

[Yorkshiredad]

I have my little boy 1 week and his mum has him the next (Her choice so she could "have a life" in the week I have him. Her words, not mine). I hate it but, with her being "the mother", she has more say in how things work than I do.

 

[Jinty]

I guess i have shared. Not through court or anything. We just split and left it as that. Although he has same rights as me hes decided that 2 hours of 'supervised' (his parents) once a week is enough for him and LO. Guess it benefits me more

 

[Joyzerelly]

I have full night time custody of our LO (20 months) as I'm still breast feeding him and also I think he's too young to be away from mummy for 24 hours. Dadda comes over and helps get him ready for bed a few times a week and then he has him on sat and sun but always brings him home for bed. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to let your LO go for three nights a week. I'm just so relieved to have breast feeding to keep him close. Another good reason for full term breast feeding.

 

[Laura2919]

FOB only has the twins every other weekend but if he is a caring dad and he loves spending time with LO then I don't see a problem. If he however isn't bothered then I wouldn't like it.

Your not failing her, your trying to give her the best in life.

 

[Ginger84]

Your definitely not failing her, your just doing your best. It tears me up sometimes that i can go days with only seeing my son for an hour or so a day, with working and visits to his dad. But i have to do it to earn money and FOB wants to see him. Our arrangement is that he see's him every weekend on either the sat or sun and every other weekend he has him overnight on the Sat too. It works for us at the moment, a mutual decision between ourselves.

 

[lizardbreath]

I have shared custody with fob

I get them every Monday & Tuesday
He gets them every Wednesday & Thursday
I get the Friday
He gets the Saturday
We alternate Sundays

I get them a lot more then him though as I come home from work and pick them up from the sitter on my nights and his nights and I have them til 915 on his nights even though 9 is bed time and on Saturday I wake up with them then have them til 630 and on Sundays that he has them he will drop them off to me at 11 and ill have them til 530 so he next to never sees them even though we "share" custody

 

[angelpkj]

aww hun i can imagine it upsets you but just think if like u said shes ok seeing her dad then shes benefiting fully from having a mummy and a daddy
it gives her time to miss u aswel!