fernie3
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I am a big softie and my children run rings around me (admit that freely lol) I dont think I could ever leave my baby crying because I think I would end up crying more!.
BUT sometimes I think that trying to create such a strict routine for a baby who is really still very young is just asking too much of them. I am one of these who thinks if a baby (not toddler thats a different kettle of fish altogether) is crying then pick it up and comfort it. I dont think a 4 month old can misbehave as such.
Have you tried ditching the routine all together? just feed her when she wants and let her sleep when she wants? In my experience with my first two (and the short experience so far of number three) little ones WILL get into a reasonable routine on their own with some gentle cues from you. For example both of mine started out as night owls waking mostly at night feeding more at night than in the day. For the first few weeks for all three now I have ignored this BUT when they get to about 8 weeks old I just introduced a bath time of around 5 o clock , nothing else just that 5 o clock was bath time. to be honest after that the whole rest of the evening routine fell into place on its own and then with it came the rest of the day. Our routine for our older two now is dinner at around 4 - 4:30 followed by tidy up time,. bath and into bed at 6 - 6:30.
now everybody knows that no matter what bath is at 5 lol.....although now with three bath time is significantly longer!
just a different perspective!
I am a big softie and my children run rings around me (admit that freely lol) I dont think I could ever leave my baby crying because I think I would end up crying more!.
BUT sometimes I think that trying to create such a strict routine for a baby who is really still very young is just asking too much of them. I am one of these who thinks if a baby (not toddler thats a different kettle of fish altogether) is crying then pick it up and comfort it. I dont think a 4 month old can misbehave as such.
Have you tried ditching the routine all together? just feed her when she wants and let her sleep when she wants? In my experience with my first two (and the short experience so far of number three) little ones WILL get into a reasonable routine on their own with some gentle cues from you. For example both of mine started out as night owls waking mostly at night feeding more at night than in the day. For the first few weeks for all three now I have ignored this BUT when they get to about 8 weeks old I just introduced a bath time of around 5 o clock , nothing else just that 5 o clock was bath time. to be honest after that the whole rest of the evening routine fell into place on its own and then with it came the rest of the day. Our routine for our older two now is dinner at around 4 - 4:30 followed by tidy up time,. bath and into bed at 6 - 6:30.
now everybody knows that no matter what bath is at 5 lol.....although now with three bath time is significantly longer!
just a different perspective!