Kitten-B
Mum of 2 gorgeous boys :)
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Found out at the weekend that we are having our second boy. Had kept saying I expected it to be a boy and that didnt seem to upset me, but it must have just been self preservation as I felt like I'd been kicked in the stomach when she said boy. Barely spoke for the next day.
We didnt find out last time and although if I had a preference it was definitely for a girl and we both thought we were having a girl, I dont remember feeling at all disappointed when Sam turned out to be a boy. Surprised yes but busy feeling proud of my wee baby and overwhelmed by the whole thing.
I decided I wanted to find out this time mainly because I couldn't stop thinking about it and wondered if I may be disappointed (but didn't know if I would even if it was boy) and need some time to get over it. But I had absolutely no idea at all it would feel this bad. Im now thinking that we shouldnt have found out as I cant imagine ever not feeling devastated about this.
We only planned on 2. We can only really afford 2. Im struggling being pregnant and not sure I could do it again. Maybe well think about it again in a few years but I dont think it would be right if I was only doing it for a shot at a girl. So right now this baby being a boy means Im not going to have a daughter. I just cant believe it. Its like the world has totally shifted suddenly every time I see someone with a daughter in anything, life, tv etc my stomach now sinks. And it might always be that way now. Hello, bitter!
I only ever wanted a girl. Ive wanted a girl since I started saving my Barbies for her when I was about 7! Now Im looking at all the junk Ive accumulated over the years, including photo albums and my wedding dress and thinking that I may as well dump it all.
Its not as bad when they are babies and toddlers but hate the idea of living with all these men / boys in a few years. Feel like well have nothing in common - i'll just be cooking while they watch football with DH - and I dont really know any boys who are actually close / friends with their mums when they grow up.
Totally obsessed now with looking at ultrasound photos on the internet and hearing stories of how boys turned out to be girls. Trying to convince myself that its the cord between the legs... this isnt fun! May post on here but dont want to hear any definitely boy etc!
Feel so so upset and so so angry. I even feel angry with the baby and just dont want anything to do with it. And dont want to talk about it with anyone (especially DH who keeps banging on about how happy he is, totally oblivious to me avoiding the topic) and even if I did its totally taboo and Id feel guilty admitting it out loud.
Sorry, far too long, thanks if youve kept reading! No point really either, just so gutted. Can anyone tell me if its gets any better?
We didnt find out last time and although if I had a preference it was definitely for a girl and we both thought we were having a girl, I dont remember feeling at all disappointed when Sam turned out to be a boy. Surprised yes but busy feeling proud of my wee baby and overwhelmed by the whole thing.
I decided I wanted to find out this time mainly because I couldn't stop thinking about it and wondered if I may be disappointed (but didn't know if I would even if it was boy) and need some time to get over it. But I had absolutely no idea at all it would feel this bad. Im now thinking that we shouldnt have found out as I cant imagine ever not feeling devastated about this.
We only planned on 2. We can only really afford 2. Im struggling being pregnant and not sure I could do it again. Maybe well think about it again in a few years but I dont think it would be right if I was only doing it for a shot at a girl. So right now this baby being a boy means Im not going to have a daughter. I just cant believe it. Its like the world has totally shifted suddenly every time I see someone with a daughter in anything, life, tv etc my stomach now sinks. And it might always be that way now. Hello, bitter!
I only ever wanted a girl. Ive wanted a girl since I started saving my Barbies for her when I was about 7! Now Im looking at all the junk Ive accumulated over the years, including photo albums and my wedding dress and thinking that I may as well dump it all.
Its not as bad when they are babies and toddlers but hate the idea of living with all these men / boys in a few years. Feel like well have nothing in common - i'll just be cooking while they watch football with DH - and I dont really know any boys who are actually close / friends with their mums when they grow up.
Totally obsessed now with looking at ultrasound photos on the internet and hearing stories of how boys turned out to be girls. Trying to convince myself that its the cord between the legs... this isnt fun! May post on here but dont want to hear any definitely boy etc!
Feel so so upset and so so angry. I even feel angry with the baby and just dont want anything to do with it. And dont want to talk about it with anyone (especially DH who keeps banging on about how happy he is, totally oblivious to me avoiding the topic) and even if I did its totally taboo and Id feel guilty admitting it out loud.
Sorry, far too long, thanks if youve kept reading! No point really either, just so gutted. Can anyone tell me if its gets any better?