Should I find out what team we are on?

[besty]

My husband would love to find out if we are having a little boy or girl. I'm undecided and my scan is today. We didn't find out with my daughter and the surprise was magical. I'm not sure why I'm so undecided as I always said I'd keep all babies a surprise! Hmm not sure what to do. Any advice ladies?

 

[cait]

If you don't feel strongly against finding out, and he really really wants to then maybe you should. I think if one partner is indifferent and one feels strongly then it's fair to go with who feels strongly.
If you feel strongly that you want to keep it secret then that makes it much trickier!

We both really wanted to keep it a surprise first time round, and although this time I don't mind either way OH would like a surprise again so that's what we're sticking with.

 

[Sophiemccall]

I personally wouldn't but that is my personal opinion as I didn't with my first and I'm not for this one either. To me it doesn't make any difference what gender it is, it is our child and we will love it whatever it may be. Also, it only changes what colour things you buy.......it's such a lovely surprise to find out once you've had your baby to know what it is, it is like you say magical ! AND alloy of midwives say women push better when they don't know what it is ! Xx

 

[lm3898]

We are not planning on finding out. I have friends who have done it both ways and honestly I'm just excited about friends/family guessing & the old wives tales and all that. I don't want to not have that. I also hope the excitement will help get me through labor lol.

 

[x Zaly x]

We didn't find out with my daughter and want to stay team yellow with this one too, I just loved the guessing and excitement. Also as the pp said, I feel it will help me get through labour lol x

 

[mad_but_glad]

We found out with our first and will be this time. I didn't want to at first with either but honestly for the sake of planning and buying it's just a lot easier to know. If either of you wants to find out I don't really think it's fair to say no.... Especially when your can't decide if you want to or not. Just my opinion though! Good luck today!

 

[MaMaRed1012]

I agree with cait. If you don't feel strongly against finding out and hubby wants to, than I say do it. We both want to know early as it's already a surprise---and will be easier to plan for!

 

[GH081012]

My husband would love to find out if we are having a little boy or girl. I'm undecided and my scan is today. We didn't find out with my daughter and the surprise was magical. I'm not sure why I'm so undecided as I always said I'd keep all babies a surprise! Hmm not sure what to do. Any advice ladies?

If he wants to find out and you don't then let the ultra sound tech write what your having on a paper and give it to him or let her whisper it to him. That way you'll both get what you what. Him knowing and you not knowing. That way if later you decide you do want to know then he can tell you.

 

[joeyjo]

I didn't find out with my first two but did this time - several reasons

Main 1 - I kept all the boys stuff but left it at my mums when I moved overseas, she is going to bring a case or 2 over on visits and as this is our last she needs to bring or sell (it's a boy again so she's bringing everything!)

2 - other people! Sick of being asked if we were hoping for a girl so now hopefully I can prevent the questions, advice etc etc by saying its a boy straight off!

It feels very strange knowing in advance though, not sure I like it!

 

[hardd2011]

We tried finding out what we was having but now the ultrasounds are inconclusive (girl girl boy girl boy) So we are team yellow. I have an ultrasound every two weeks and I just want to know but I told him to stop looking as it stresses me out. I am excited to actually know the results at birth which is 100% accurate. It more of a guessing game now.

 

[besty]

Well we asked what we were having and the tech said she couldn't tell us as baby had its legs crossed so that solved it for us haha baby wants to be a surprise till its born

 

[JerseyRose]

Haha looks like the baby chose for you!

We are finding out for our first two and then I want to keep it a surprise for the last one, just to experience it. I find that so many people like to have their opinion though and I've found that especially the older generation! The first question I get asked if I meet or talk to an older person (say 50+) Oh you're not finding out are you! And I say yes and they all do this head shake and stick their nose up and look the other way. And then they say you're not supposed to find out. They all do the exact same thing! Even my in-laws refuse to know. Sorry everyone but this is my baby and I call the shots! I just tell everyone it's a new generation. I think it's great that people stay team yellow, I just don't have the willpower I'm way too excited. But I also respect their decision, because obviously they have their reasons for making that decision. I just hate it when people judge you on your decision, like they even deserve an opinion on your baby!

For us we mainly want to know the gender so I can buy more gender related things for the baby, I am super organised so I want to have everything ready at my disposal when the baby is born. Just things like super cute pink beanies and headbands if it's a girl, or decorate the nursery with a truck theme if it's a boy (DH is a truck driver and that would make him super excited).

Sorry for hijacking your thread lol. I just hate getting judged all the time for our decision when it doesn't affect anyone but DH and I. I love that people have their opinions but I wish they would respect others opinions as well!

Good luck with your bub honey!!

 

[MonyMony]

Baby's choice...I like that!

I'm still in this quandary. Hubby wants to know and I don't. It's our last and we found out with other two, so seemed like it could be a nice surprise this time around. But we're having such trouble with boy names, and we'd like to decide which offers of clothes to accept, and I'm having a little bit of a hard time bonding...so now I don't know if it's worth keeping a secret. Doctor's office knows for sure because I had a CVS, so all I have to do is pick up the phone and ask...

It helps to hear that lots of you found the surprise worth waiting for!

 

[MaMaRed1012]

Aww, baby made the choice to be a surprise! I love it!

 

[Misscalais]

I didn't find out with my 1st but found out with the last two. I prefer to find out personally. I bond better with them and hate calling bub an 'it' our boys are super excited to know they are having a brother and keep asking if he's growing well and when he's going to come, if he can sleep in their room etc. it's awesome. I personally really like knowing.
I would have cried if this baby didnt open his legs 1st part of the scan he had them crossed and I was convinced he was a she! Lol.
Looks like baby had other plans for you

 

[x__amour]

Aw, guess baby made the choice!

 

[AussieChick]

Baby decided, thats cute

My OH is desperate to find out! He wants to be organised & ready for bubs arrival. Majority of my family are all "Oh noo that ruins the suprise!" which I hate hearing. At the end of the day its our decision, I just hope people respect that!

I have to wait until 20wk scan at this stage on 5th Feb.. soo far away

 

[cait]

Too cute that baby decided for you! You can tell who is gonna be boss in your house....

 

[besty]

I'm so pleased the baby decided for us. I'm looking forward to the birth now I think it's all preference I hate when people have an opinion on what's right as wrong. If you find out people think you have ruined it and if you haven't found out people think your crazy for waiting! Oh well! Thank you for all the comments

 

[proudparent88]

If he wants to know and you don't have them write it on a card and put it in an envelope so he can open it and know and you still get your surprise. That way you are both satisfied.