Should I Let Hubby Go On Vacation at 7 Months?

[Mild Mango]

Every fall my husband goes out of town for an annual guys trip. This year's trip will be at the beginning of November, which is about 7 weeks before our due date (Christmas). He'll be a 2-3 hour flight away.

I want him to go and have fun one last time before the baby's here, but I worry about cutting it so close to my due date. My biggest fear is going into labor early and he misses the birth.

This is my first kid, and so far everything has gone just fine (low risk, no complications, normal blood pressure, etc). I don't have any medical issues, I don't smoke, and am healthy. So I have no reason to believe I would go into premature labor, but this is my first kid so I don't know what to expect.

If I was adamant about it, or if there was a medical issue, I'm sure he would stay, but he would be really upset about missing his trip. So I don't want to make him cancel unless I have to.

So I guess my question is, if everything continues going well at my doctor appointments, would it be safe to let him go? Does premature labor happen out of the blue, or are there signs, symptoms, or abnormal test results in the days/weeks/months beforehand? He said he would stay by his phone and hop on a plane at a moments notice if I go into labor early.

 

[DocMcStuffins]

Personally I'd have no issue with my oh going away at 7 months. Although spontaneous early labour can happen, it's rare. And even more rare in a first pregnancy that has been straightforward and without any complications.

I know I wouldn't have had any problem agreeing to it.

But it's a total personal preference. He sounds like he's being sensible about it, agreeing to make sure his phone is with him at all times and being aware he may need to drop everything and fly home at a moments notice so I really don't see the harm.

If it was 3 weeks til your due date I'd perhaps be a little more wary, but 7 weeks is a pretty long time.

I'd see how your doctor appointments go over the next couple of months and if everything is still looking fine then I'd definitely allow him one last lads holiday.

X

 

[GeralynB]

My hubby travels for work and I told him he can travel up until the beginning of Oct…I'm due Oct 28. After that I told him I want him to be here in case I go into labor early. So 7 weeks from my due date I would let him go

 

[Gingerspice]

My OH travels the world and is away majority of the time. If he isn't travelling he isn't earning. I won't be prescribing any set dates. If he's home for the birth and afterwards, that's great but I'm not telling him he must be home. It may result in turning down a long Contract. I will let him choose how best to manage his working.

He happened to be home for dd arriving then went away for several months when dd was 2 weeks old.

 

[Luvspnk31]

My last baby ( he's almost 4 now) I was due in aug, and DH went to visit a friend 7 hrs away in June. I think as long as everything is going well then it should be fine. He actually travels for work quite a bit now, so at some point we will have to discuss that.

 

[leahtaba]

I would let him go as i think seven weeks is a safe distance away

 

[TryinFor1]

I would be ok with it.

 

[Rickles]

Yes I would, and I am, OH is off to play golf when I am 34/5 weeks. It's in Spain so a couple of hours flight away. I figure if something happens, well, he could be stuck in London and still miss the birth. He's going to try and work from home starting around 38 weeks. (DD was born at 39) xx

 

[kimmy04]

I don't think there is much risk going 7 weeks before due date. If it was 7 days I would say no way, but 7 weeks is pretty safe

 

[Jinga]

I did have an early baby (36 weeks), but I had been put on bed rest due to pre-term labor so it was pretty obvious for us that my husband should be nearby just in case. As everyone else has said, assuming you are having no issues with the pregnancy, you should be safe to let him go 7 weeks before your due date. Since he'll only be a short flight away, he could likely get back fairly quickly if you did end up having something come up.

 

[Zeri]

7 mths is still pretty early. I wouldn't have an issue with him going at that stage. Late third tri - yes. Sounds like something he's looking fwd to, and there's no indication you will go into labour prematurely, so should be fine for him to go.

 

[sandilion]

From my personal experience, i wouldn't let him go! Hell no.

I had what appeared to be a 'normal pregnancy' then all of a sudden at just before 32 weeks i had a placenta abruption which turned into a 4 day painful ordeal, to finally give birth 4 days later right on 32 weeks. That night DH was out just at the pub with his mates, and that was bad enough.

So unfortunately 7 months is not only early at all as you just never know what's in store. I feel vacation trips should have been done in the earlier days of your pregnancy, if at all.

 

[notmommyyet]

Id let him go. Especially if he does it every year. 7 weeks is pretty safe. My due date OH had a dart party with unlimited free booze. I told him to go get wasted and if I end up going into labour have a quick nap or sleep it off or whatever. But dont miss your dart party "just incase" and he did go get smashed to the point of not being able to stand up lol I knew life was about to change for us in a big way and wanted him to enjoy his time before baby. I think it wouldve hurt him more then me if he missed the birth

 

[ttc_lolly]

I think the chances of you going that early are very low, and if all of your appts are fine and baby is doing fine them I'd encourage him to have his little trip before baby arrives

 

[ab75]

With dd1 I had a normal, healthy pregnancy, waters broke at 34+5 and she arrived 90 mins later.
My dh went away on his stag weekend when I was 32 weeks xx

 

[PumpkinBump]

I went into premature "rush" labor with my first 6 weeks before my due date. I almost didnt make it to the hospital, the baby came out within 30 minutes of me getting to the hospital. It was that quick. I wouldnt be comfortable letting my husband go.

 

[squirrel.]

I too would be okay with my husband going at 7 months. My husband is a musician and is playing lots of festivals this summer. The baby is due the 9th of August and he has festivals lined up for every other weekend pretty much throughout the summer, including the week before she is due. He'll be back 5 days before my due date. That one is a 3/4 hour drive away. I don't think I'd be happy with any further than that, but at the same time festivals are incredibly important to his career, so I'd have to weigh up the pros and cons if he wants to go further afield.