Should we refrain from dtd?

[Mrskg]

Hi ladies

Bit of a personal question here but just wondering about sex x I never thought to ask my doc an next app not till 20th of jan but should we be refraining from it till 12 wk's x I don't even feel like dtd but not sure if this is down to being scared x I have read that it can't harm baby but after 3losses I don't want to take any risks x would just love to here you're opinions or what you've been advised by docs xxx

Thank you xxx

 

[Embo78]

Hey mrskg! I haven't asked my consultant whether it's ok cos even if he said it is, I wouldn't do it.
With all three of my angels I spotted after dtd and the upset and worry just isn't worth it. This is only my opinion though!

 

[Mrskg]

Thanks embo I think I agree with you x just wasn't sure if this was normal xxx on a positive note just got 3+ on digi super excited n it showed up in 30secs!!! Xx

 

[Embo78]

Woo hoo!! You got yours same day I got mine I think it would've come sooner cos mine came up so fast too!!

 

[Mrskg]

Absolutely delighted was keeping it till new yr eve my mmc due date but totally got a poas urge lol so glad I did it now xx least I know my hcg over 2000 an I'd magine with quickness a bit more than that xxx woohoo xxx cant stop staring at can tell I'll not be sleeping anytime soon lol xxx

 

[filipenko32]

Im with embo here, I just can't live with the risk which is probably all in my head! My poor hubby... we are funny us three with our 3 + celebrations! 3.... Is the magic number! It will be interesting to see, for me anyway, whether it means anything. X

 

[Mrskg]

Thanks fili x lol yeah my 3+ made me delight just praying it's not false hope x lol at our poor hubbies can't get enough when ttc now they can't get any! Xxxx

 

[Lara+sam+bump]

Much to my OH's discontent we will not be dtd till at least 12 weeks if not longer. With my son I was 19, he was 21 and we had an extremely!! active sex life from start to finish, but after the loss I just want to ensure I do everything within my power to keep this LO safe. So zero caffine and alcohol, rest as much as possible especially in bed and no sex for the foreseeable. It'll all be worth it when we have our baby with us safe and sound xxx

 

[filipenko32]

Will you go for an early scan Lara? I'm just so nervous I haven't even booked mine yet, I just can't ace it, it makes me feel sick with fear!, but I know i can't forever!

 

[SabrinaKat]

We haven't had sex since we found out I was pregnant, due to first, the 12wk worries (after a mc and two possible chemicals) and then when fooling around at wk14, I discovered I had a very tender cervix and had a little bleeding -- the scan was fine, but I had to get an anti-d injection as I have O neg blood, and now -- don't feel like it at all (too big, too tired, etc.), so as much as I have apologised to my DH, he's rather we play it safe anyway....our ob/gyn said it was okay to have sex, but I am a worrywort, so nope....

(so cannot wait for baby to be born!)

best wishes

 

[filipenko32]

Ahem do you think ahem we should buy our dh's some cough cough ahem... Magazines!? As a nice gesture??!

 

[Lara+sam+bump]

flipenko, I have a private scan booked for 9+2 weeks on jan 28th. I was told by my GP that I pretty much just had to get on with it as I have only lost one baby. I had a MMC so I argued that it was better to carry a dead baby for 2-3 weeks rather than 6 weeks like before. But she didnt see my point insensitive cow. I wanted to wait till 9 weeks as we can only afford one early scan and I dont want to go at 7 weeks and not see a heartbeat but hold out hope and pay for another scan 1-2 weeks later to find the baby had already died. So at least at 9 weeks we will definitely know either way. But I feel really positive about this lil baba so im adamant that in August il be holding my new baby. When do you think youll book your scan for? xxxxx

 

[filipenko32]

Hi Lara, completely understand you! Can't believe the gp would not understand that! Not care more like! Sheesh I think that even after one that's enough and you should be given an earlier scan for peace of mind alone. I mean there was no way I could have gone to 12 weeks after my first mc. 9 weeks is a great time to go,sort of in the middle. I hope someone has told you that you're very very unlikely to mc again after one expecially with a previous live birth. Im an expert on mc's now unfortunately! Lol! I'm sure this pregnancy will all go perfectly for you but I know it doesn't stop the worrying! X x x oh I'll probably have one around 7 weeks ish. Tbh I'm so scared I'm just going to go on impulse. My gp will get me in when I'm ready. I've seen her so many times now she knows what I'm going through. She said when I'm ready to go see her and she will get me in within 2 days max. Just got to pluck up the courage! Petrified!

 

[SabrinaKat]

I went at 9 wks, as had had my previous mc at 7-8wks and needed mentally to get past that 'milestone', my OH came with me and I burst into tears when we saw healthy little baby -- it was such a shock after previous hell....

best wishes

 

[filipenko32]

Ohhh I hope I get to be like you Sabrina! X x

 

[Mrskg]

thanks ladies xx

lara i could have wrote your post x i'm now past the chemical stage but the mmc is a worry i had really really bad sicknes right up to 12wks an my baby had stopped growing at 6 how cruel can your body be eh! it took till i was 15wks to pass was the hardest longest most emotional 3 wks of my life x so i knew id have to have an early scan because of this x i'll be 8/5 was thinking same as you want to be far enough along so there is no uncertainty x

sabrine i cant wait till i only have 9wks to go seems like forever away xxx hope the next 9wks fly by for you do you know what you are having xxx

fili im sure the courage will come soon xxx an once you've had that scan an seen wee beany you'll be on top of the world xxx

 

[Wildfire81]

Honestly, and this is just me, I was to afraid to dtd after my loss. At my 20 week appt I found out I had a complete previa, and was put on pelvic rest for the whole rest of my pregnancy! I have not dtd for 24 weeks! I think I forgot what sex is. You just have to do what you think is best for you.

 

[Lara+sam+bump]

oh and my digi with conception indicator turned up this afternoon and I got 3+ so that made me real happy xxx

 

[Mrskg]

Oh that sounds awful wildfire x I think the fact I had to ask tells maim not sure so think I'll leave it can always use my wifey duties lol xxxx

Lara congrats it's a great feeling eh! Xxxx

 

[filipenko32]

Great about the 3 + Lara! X