Sick and BLOODY WELL tired of it!!!

[tinymumma]

All these mums, my mother, my next door neighbour, my friends... They all think they can tell me "now, this is how you be a mother", "why do you want a car seat? That's stupid, you will NEED a carrier", blah, blah, frickin' BLAH!! THIS IS MY BABY!!
Most of my friends who are mothers annoy me the most when they say things like this because in all honestly, none of them will be winning mother of the year awards any time soon They're the kind of parents that as soon as bub wakes up, change them, feed them, then lock them in their room with the baby gate, then sit on the couch and drink, smoke weed or whatever it is they do. It makes me so mad. Especially when they tell me that they can't wait for our bubs to have play dates! LIKE HELL! I don't want my child in an environment like that!!!
I'm just becoming so frustrated with it all. Everyone telling me how to "be a mum", especially with what to buy! I don't want to have to spend extra money, just because they say it's what I SHOULD do. URGH!! I just want to rip my hair out >.<
Sorry guys, rant over

 

[tinkerbelle93]

Haha I do know what you mean, it really annoyed me when I was pregnant but now I have my LO I find myself doing it to pregnant friends Just in a trying to be helpful way with recommending what to buy etc! Everyone has their advice and opinions to give once you're pregnant and when you've got your baby for some reason, best to just smile and nod even if you don't want to hear it.

 

[tinymumma]

I know everyone is just trying to be helpful but it kind of just makes me feel like they think I'm inadequate in some way? Before I feel pregnant, everyone I was encountered with that had children, always gave me this odd stare when I was interacting with their children. Always followed by "you're going to be such a great mum"! Or "why don't you have a baby yet"?! Now that I've actually fallen pregnant, everybody seems to think I'm incompetent or something.
I know that isn't really the case, just how it makes me feel

 

[skyesmom]

it can be frustrating indeed, especially depending on how they come through to you, the tone they use and if they are kind of "insisting" that you're doing it the wrong way and don't respect your choices.
but as the pp said, even if they are a bit inconsiderate like this, i believe these people just mean the best, mean to offer an advice and help, just that they don't understand how a person may feel or how their words sound in your head.

they have nothing better to offer than their coping strategies and their parenting skills, i'm sure they don't mean to offend you or assume you're incapable, it is just that a pregnant woman is a magnet for advices and stories, and both advices and questions that cross the personal borders.

but it's just a part of it - annoying part - but it is there. like complete strangers feeling free to touch your tummy and cuddle the baby, or people who ask if your twins were natural or IVF (!).

so yes, just unplug your ears and nod your head and then do what ever heck you find is right to do for your baby!

 

[x__amour]

For the weirdest reason family, friends and strangers seem to think that you having a baby means they're having a baby and will force every single opinion on you! Do what you want for you and your baby!

 

[mayb_baby]

Ignore
You know the best for your family.
I'm still getting this and I have a 3yo, people think they need to remind me how to look after a baby.
I have been living on my own for 4years.

 

[tinymumma]

Thanks ladies. I know people mean well, I just needed to have a bit of a rant about it OH and I will have our own place soon, so that will make things a lot easier, not having all these other "better parents" around us all the time

 

[blamesydney]

I still get this to this day! I try my best to ignore it. Sometimes it leaves me feeling inadequate, but a quick chat with her dad about how WE choose to coparent OUR child always make me feel better.