Silent Miscarriage:(

[kermie219]

What is this all about??? So it started out at 6 weeks which was 3 weeks ago. Passed 2 small blood clots and freaked out and ran to A & E. They gave us a scan the next morning and we saw what was called a strong heart beat The baby measure at 3.9 mm that morning. Anyway we went back today for our dating scan and the baby would be 9w4d. Found out it stopped growing most likely the day after our last scan because it measure at 4mm this am. My problem is why is the sac still growing if the baby has alreay died?? this is so horrible. She said I've started to "show" because my sac is still growing and I'm having all this horrible sickness because I'm still pregnant She also said the hormones will just stabalize but not decrease yet because of the growing sac. I hate this. She said it is the most common kind of miscarriage but how crappy is this for the mother???? I'm carrying my dead baby inside me for how long? And I know it's not that dramatic but it's how it feels to me. I'm so frustrated I don't know what to do now.

So now we have options but I think I am going to try and wait it out a week or so and see if my body will naturally do what it is supposed to. Sorry for the rant I think this is just crazy. I was watching for all the symptoms that never came and end up with the same horrible result...so unfair.

 

[nervouspains]

Im sorry i dont know what to say hun, but didnt want to read and run.
So sorry to read this xxxxx

 

[rachjim98]

Sorry for your loss, xoxo

 

[RobenR]

I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my baby at 16w and they took her out at 18w, and if they hadn't I still would have gotten bigger and carried her to term. It is a terrible thing to go through and I'm sorry you have to go through this.

 

[dan-o]

Oh goodness, I am so sorry sweetie.

I was in exactly your position almost 3 weeks ago, I waited.
Unfortunately, in my case, nothing came so I have a D&C booked for tomorrow at 12+5.

If there is anything you would like to know, ask away, we are all here for you.
Sorry again for your loss xxx

 

[Peach Blossom]

So sorry for you loss hon.

This happened to me a fortnight ago. I went in for a scan at 10+5, having seen the HB 3 weeks before that, only to be told that there was no hb and the baby had stopped growing. It is a horrible feeling knowing that your baby died inside and that you've been carrying it around blissfully unaware for however long. It is such a cruel twist of nature. I feel like my body knew how much I desperately wanted our baby and clung on in vain.

I personally couldn't face waiting for the mc and opted for a private erpc the same day that I found out. Everyone is different though. I hope things happen quickly for you so that you can start looking forward again. My heart goes out to you.

 

[Chilli]

I agree with what Peach says above. I had the same thing happen and it is a terrible feeling. You're very brave to wait. Iwasn't given much info but researched a bit and discovered that amongst other things: you are less likely to bleed and have as much pain from op and more likely to concieve quicker again after. I'm no doctor, but that was what I gleened from other people. Having said that I totally respect your choice and hope things aren't too tough for you

 

[Baby-Cakes]

Hi Kermie219,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, I too have been carrying my dead baby for 4wks now and didnt know a thing until my 12 wk scan yesterday, I'm booked for ERPC tomorrow morning would of been 5 wk + 6, it's horrible.

I'd never even heard of this type of MC before and although every MC is awful I believe this type to be the cruelist, I had a 'normal' MC at 7 wks 2 1/2 yrs ago and I knew what was happening - I had pain and bleeding and was prepared but this is totally out of the blue.


I'm thinking of you

 

[rachjim98]

When we went on vacation I thought my baby was still alive my famly was all rubbing on my tummy and the whole time she was already gone. Had alittle shower while I was up there got alot of gifts. So cruel. so cruel. Our bodies can be so cruel, again so sorry for your loss

 

[Shelby2007]

to you.. im sorry for your loss

 

[pennypoptart]

Hey kermie... so so sorry about your news. I know how you feel, as this happened to me last week, and I had my operation this Wednesday just gone.

When you find out, it feels like someone has taken all the air out of your lungs, and then given you a good kick in the stomach... you are that devastated. My husband and me were just completely shell shocked.

I opted for the operation, as they said that it could be weeks before "nature" took her course. I had started bleeding by the time they did the operation- but hadn't passed the baby. The whole experience was emotionally draining, but it's given me a point where I can draw a line, and move onwards. It's the only way that I can cope.

I too had some strong symptoms- especially being v. tired. However, in a funny way, these started to decrease rapidly after they told me the news. I think my mind now knew I wasn't pregnant, so I stopped feeling it.

We're all here if you want to chat about how you're feeling- you're not alone. Take time to be with your partner, and family x

 

[kermie219]

I have decided that this is all too much and the only way to heal and start over is to get it all out. We are on our way back to the hospital now I just feel like screaming.

 

[babybuffy84]

Oh love am sending you a ton of ,am so sorry for your loss i recently went through the same thing but we are all here for you.

 

[kermie219]

Well all done now.....that was an experience and may have been one of the most painful things ever. But at least now we can begin to heal and move on. We are picking up the babies remains next week, the same day as my scan, then going to bury him and plant a tree in his little memory. I think that will help me a great deal. I actually feel better now...not sure if it's because I don't have him in me anymore and i can really begin to heal myself or possibly because I am VERY drugged at the moment. Either way I am feeling positve at the mo. Thank you all SO MUCH for your lovely words made me feel better when nothing else could.