Single mum how to cope?

[Happy]

My husband left me 5 weeks ago and I found out less than a week ago he had being having an affair for the past 6 months. We have been together 5 years and married for 5 months so he married me knowing what he was doing.

I am having to move out of our family home and I am looking for somewhere new to live, everything is so hard at the moment and I have no idea how I am going to cope. I work 30 hrs a week, LO is going into nursery and I have a four bedroom house to clear out. Please someone tell me it gets easier soon?

I never thought this would happen to me

 

[AbbynChloe]

It does get better.... I won't lie and it is incredibly hard work, but at the end of the day we have very little choice in the situation, and all you can do is take it a day at a time.

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[emlubu]

My husband left me 5 weeks ago and I found out less than a week ago he had being having an affair for the past 6 months. We have been together 5 years and married for 5 months so he married me knowing what he was doing.

I am having to move out of our family home and I am looking for somewhere new to live, everything is so hard at the moment and I have no idea how I am going to cope. I work 30 hrs a week, LO is going into nursery and I have a four bedroom house to clear out. Please someone tell me it gets easier soon?

I never thought this would happen to me

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Your story is like mine....
we had been together for 5 years we got married and 6 months ago he cheated on us and i moved out with our daughter 5 months ago.... it HRAD very hard your loving husband that u thought had dne the terrible terrible thing and your world falls apart.

6 months on im at the stage of ...not liking him but need to do all i can for my daughter i work full time and just got a letter to say i need to move out my rented home grrr if things couldnt get worse....

chin up its hard but u will get there...i am doing i still have along way to go but us women carry on...

 

[Seraphim]

In a way, for me, the deception has HELPED.
It's horrible, but it's made moving on so much easier.
I don't want to be married to the man he is.

It doesn't seem kind to say 'focus on the bad things' - but maybe just the kindest way is to be honest with yourself.

I know most of the things I broke my heart about losing were hopes and dreams of how things would be in the future, or they weren't real because he hadn't told the truth. In my case, accepting (at the time of his leaving) I didn't have it to lose, helped.

I'm still very sad for where he let it go astray, but that was his choice.

Be kind to yourself. You don't have to be super human, and allow yourself the odd day 'off' from coping.