Single, Pregnant and dating

[letdoit]

Hi Ladies

But a background about my situation: I am 32 and was engaged to a 41 yr old
for 3 yrs then my fiance decided he didnt want to have children / get married. That destroyed the rel/ship as i strongly wanted a family. The rel/ship ended in mAY 2012 but he officially moved out of my place in March 2013 as he didnt have place to live.


I then decided to go on it on my own thru sperm donor in July 2012.I am now 12 weeks pregnant. I feel ready to be with someone.

On my way from work, this nice guy started talking to me on the train. Well, he asked for my number and i gave him. He has been calling me since then and he want us to go out soon.

My worry is that im preggo and not sure how i tell him about this and he will ask about the father of th baby.

what are your views about dating while pregnant?

 

[Dream.dream]

To be honest I wouldn't go looking for someone while I was pregnant , your going to have enough on your plate as is.

As for the guy, if let him know before you go on a date and see of he still wants to , he might not , it's a bit much for most guys to handle

 

[daneuse27]

First of all, congrats!

I dont see what would be wrong with dating in your position, provided you're comfortable with it and honest. I think the fact that you're doing it on your own is brave and awesome, and I think the no-baggage factor for the guy(s) you would be dating would be an upside to it too.

 

[Kate&Lucas]

I know a few women actually in relationships that started while they were pregnant. One has a child of 15 now and the guy has brought him up as his own.
I say go for it. Might not work out but It's nice to have a bit of fun. Not sure how you'd go about telling him mind... the bump might give you away soon enough

 

[gracexxx]

I don't see a problem with it at all. I think as long as you know what you want and are open and honest with any guy you start to date, then go for it!
I do think though that you need to be prepared to be knocked back Incase the guy isn't interested once they find out you are pregnant. But everyone's different and they might be alright about it. Good luck!

Ps I just wanted to say congratulations! And how brave And strong you are, I really admire you!

 

[Dezireey]

I think that straight away, you MUST tell any man that you date that you are pregnant. For two reasons, firstly, its just not nice to spring this on any man after a few months (and he will be looking quizzically at your stomach ) because he could get attached to you and then be very hurt if that is not what he wants out of life at the moment. And secondly and more importantly, there are your own, very sensitive feelings that could get crushed if you delay telling someone and you get attached to him and he leaves.

To be honest if you start dating a guy whilst you are pregnant and he wants to stay with you and be a part of your life and the baby's, then you have a keeper.

 

[letdoit]

Hi Ladies,

Firstly: I just want to clarify that I was not out looking for anyone. I am happy with my situation and enjoy being pregnant through artificial insemination. So, as far as Im concerned....i have no buggagge.

Just an update:

I met with a guy in question yesterady and we got on well. It was very hard discussing my current position but I had to break it. I explained to him my current position and to my suprise he appeared ok with it and mentioned that its not what he expected but respected my honesty.We ended the date and I was clear in my mind that I am not going to call him until I hear from him because I didnt want to put any pressure on him. He phoned me late in the evening to say he has thought about what I told him and hasn't changed the way he feels about me.

He has been in regualr contact with me today. So, I will just take things easy and see what happens.....

Will keep you posted......

 

[Dream.dream]

Sounds like a keeper to me

 

[Alexas Mommy]

Just take things slow...sometimes men get weird about things like that even if they did say they were okay with it! But it seems like a good sign that he wants to continue seeing you!

 

[beachgal]

That is great that you were honest!!
Good luck and keep us posted!

 

[jazzandru]

What happened? Did you see him again?

 

[letdoit]

Update ladies:

Hi ladies, ..

I have been in regular contact with the guy in question. He phones me everyday , which is nice and we even talk about my pregnancy. I just feel good that I told him from the beginning.

However , we have not been able to meet again because I have been unwell for the last 3 weeks. I had severe pain ...fibroids........and poor guy was so supportive and he was able to give me some space when I couldn't talk on the phone.

I will keep you posted....

 

[daneuse27]

He sounds like a very nice guy and definitely into you Hope you can see him again soon, and do keep us posted!

 

[jazzandru]

He sounds like he has potential! So pleased for you.x