Single Teenage Mum To Be,

[LittleAngel_x]

Hey, I'm Alannah, I am 17, from Australia and I am 37w pregnant with my first bubby.

FOB and I were in a relationship for two years and we broke up due to stress, him not helping financially, emotionally, physically, basically him doin his own thing, being immature & childish and still wanting me to be there for when he wants to get intimate -__-

He has been helping out every now and again but not neaaarly as much as my mum and stepdad has helped me. LO still needs things like a bouncer rocker or a swing and he knows but he won't buy it at all, he would rather go spend time with his friends.
My mum paid for half of my pram, has bought 90% of things LO has and the carseat. (I think she loved going shopping for pink since I have 5 brothers and she hasn't shopped for pink since I was little haha)

Any who, what I am really after on this post is;

Have any of you mummy's had a csection and how did you cope with no FOB?

My LO is breech still but was engaged at 34w but has decide to be like her dad and be breech. I had a scan yesterday confirming that she is breech and I will most likely end up with a csection but I am awaiting a phone call from my midwife when she gets the results (should be tomorrow)!
LO has decided she is going to have fun and play with my sciatica and not move at all besides to kick me in my cervix which is a tad painful. Tbh, I just want a date so I know when this LO is out of me and I will have my ribs back but I loooove being pregnant cos LO and I usually get along so well and she is such a good baby.

I'm not overly big, -I can still touch my toes, feet together legs not bent I still manage to be able to touch them :s I always get told that I'm big but I don't feel big. I get plenty of sleep, no cravings no nothing really it's just like I'm not pregnant really!

It will be upsetting when LO is here because she wont be connected to me or anything like that, like other people can hold her and she will grow up sooo quickly!

FOB will be there for the birth and at the hospital for how long he chooses to as we do get along as people and we are working on things so we can be together but not for LO, for ourselves. When I get home from hospital I won't have his help 24/7 like I will while he's at the hospital an by the midwives. I will have my mum and stepdads help aswell as my brothers and bestfriend to help me out but they won't ALWAYS be there and I will be left alone at night to get up to LO and I will find that hard while trying to recover so I was thinking of asking my bestfriend to stay a few nights to help me out when she doesn't have her year 12 exams. FOB and my family do not get along at all, but FOB caused the trouble with my family so it will be extremely hard to have him here to help with LO all the time.

Gah, I think I'm just worrying myself more then I should be!
I guess it's just because my mum has had 2 csections and I know how much I helped her out and I'm worried I won't have that much help when I need it because people are busy.

But please, any advice would be lovely.

-how to cope when I'm alone at hospital at night when FOB isn't there.
-how to cope for the first few weeks at home at night with no one to get LO for me.
-how to bath LO by myself when people are busy while in pain.
Etc, and any advice on what I can do to recover from the csection, (way around things. Eg, hair drying the scar, using a pillow to support LO so she isn't straight on my belly)

Thanks

 

[emeraldbaby]

Hi there!
Im sorry I can not give you any advice regarding a csection as I've never had one.
But I wanted to let you know that you aren't alone. Im 35 weeks with my first baby and I have been alone for a few months now.
This board provides good support and im sure you'll get the answers you seek.
Congratulations on the baby

 

[LittleAngel_x]

Thank you
It really sucks not having fob around since the last 2years it was always him and I and I basically lived at his house and it all changed when I fell pregnant /: we just completely fell apart and he showed his true colours and how childish and immature he really can be. :/ life's not easy I Spose.

Congratulations of your LO aswell

 

[ilovemybabies]

Ive had 2 c-sections and their father didn't help at all with my first one, and left me when i was still preg with 2nd. honestly just relax, im not sure how it works over there, but in the hospital when i needed to sleep the nurses would take the baby for a while. that helps a lot. they give you pain killers, when you are still in the hospital see how much you can take so your not in really bad pain, but your not messed up. They gave me so many pain killers i couldn't even hold my baby. Find the right combo for you. When you get home don't do any heavy lifting, you will be able to pick the baby up. As for baths. get a little baby tub put in on the counter next to the sink that way you don't have to bend down over the tub. The scar usually heals up in about a week. But be careful you can rip it open for about a month after cause its not healed All the way..(yes i did that a few times) Sleep when the baby does, who cares if its the middle of the afternoon. Just don't freak out. as for the scar, clean it often cause it will smell. Just don't wipe it with like a rag or towel, that can rip it open too. just pat it dry. Don't worry about being alone at night if fob isn't there, trust me it will be the farthest thing from your mind. Try not to laugh or sneeze or cough.. if you do keep a little pillow around to put pressure on your stomach or it will hurt really bad. im not sure if i covered everything you asked, if you have more questions feel free to ask!!

 

[MommaAlexis]

Hey! Yes push something against tummy when you sneeze and get a wrap/carrier as it keeps your hands free. Don't sit in low seats/beds cause you won't be able to get up without help. You may be better to cosleep once you're off the medication for a week or so because it's really hard to get up. Try to avoid lifting the carseat if possible and have someone there at all times. I rang the nurse whenever she needed to be changed or handed ti me as I couldn't get up on my own for the first two days. Tylenol. Lots of tylenol. Two before bed or you'll wake up in paaaaaain. Watch for them kicking your stomach!!! Ouuuch. If you FF, boil a huuuge pot ofwater and keep it in a jug on counter. No need to spend a bunch of time cooling bottles down. If you BF get a bfing pillow as it will keep them off your scar. I didn't have the nurse take her once, I just coslept as soon as the oxy wore off and kept everything to change her on my bed. (I put change pad, diapers, etc where the second pillow would be) so I never had to get up.at night. If you forget to pee it really hurts. If you sit too low with them in your arms you will get stuck. I was pinned to a couch for a half hour lol. Get out of the house with them while they still sleep a lot. I went to get tea like once every couple days cause she slept sooo much.

 

[rebeccalouise]

I have no advice on the csection hun but I do know what it's like to be a single parent. I had my mother by my side whilst I was in labour & she was fab. there wasn't a single moment I felt alone, even now my baby is 5 months old I never feel alone. it's so great that your mum is supporting you, that's what you need. I'm 18 now, had my daughter when I was 17. I know exactly what you're feeling, I worried about so many things. if you ever need a chat then feel free to message me, you're never alone!