so angry and upset...no help from mw!!

[kazimotto]

i called the epu again (this follows from early scan thread cos of bleeding), and told mw spotting has returned, with pain in right side. she said well dont know why u been told bleed is harmless after sex cos its not, and dowsnt look good as no bleed should have happened, and that the baby may have died and will take weeks to come out, and to stop doin pg tests as my hormone could still be up even if pg not viable so no point, just sit and wait. not willing to scan before tues as i only 6 + 1, so no point and even if she did the baby could still die few days later!! so hacked off at nhs!!! why the hell have mw up to now been sayin it could be normal to bleed after sex as more blood at cervix??!! i am so angry. my dh just saying to stop worrying, its not him who's expecting to see the fetus come out everytime he goes to loo is it!! xx

 

[Feanorous]

Hi there

I am so sorry you are having to go through this rough time. I just wanted to let you know that I was reading one of my pregnancy books last night and it said some bleeding after sex can be totally harmless as its just your cervix is more inflames and the penis wouldn't normall touch it so much. I think its called something like Cervix Erosion. Sorry I can't be more specific but I just read it last night.

Everything crossed for you that its all fine!
x

 

[missamoo]

i hate it when mws are so insensitive. they're not normally but every so often they come out with something like that!

 

[sparky32]

If you called the ninewells epu i know exactly who you spoke to! The same mw that told me i was getting in a state over something that hasnt even happened yet, bearing in mind i've had 3 m/c and we are at the assisted conception unit. Of course i'm gonna get in a bloody state cause i've been here many times before and it has happened. She made me question why she works in epu. I hope you get your private scan and the reassurance, thinking of you xx

 

[littleblonde]

my midwife and infact every midwife and doctor i have ever seen has always said bleeding after sex ver common. I bled myself after sex twice. Very scary but common. When i had bleeding the 1st thing i was asked was have i had sex. As for waiting for a scan i can understand your frustration. I had to wait for a scan as well. I spotted after an early scan and had to wait 2 weeks till i was over 6 weeks to see if a heart beat was present. It was and then had to wait 5 days after a heavy red bleed as they couldnt get me in sooner. It was awful but i decided to think that at least after waiting if things where ok then i new they would be ok. Where as having a scan straight away may shows things ok but maybe about to end. In your case if you are under 6 weeks then you may not be any the wiser as no heartbeat will be present. That said that midwife should not of spoken to you in that way. The epu i have used where always quite negitive but i dont think they should of spoken to you like that at all, you are clearly worried as i and anyone would be. Hiopefully when yoiu go back a different midwife should be on

 

[kazimotto]

hi sparky, yes it was ninewells. i realise their job sees this kind of thing everyday but its not routine to the ladies that are going thru it, they should be more sympathetic. i will def look into the private scan, 25 pound is nothing if it puts mind at rest, and maybe i will finally get some sleep.

littleblonde, i understand what u are saying, i am 6+ 2 today, so by tues i am hoping a heartbeat will be present. its just not nice the way she spoke i am out of my mind with worry. on one hand i know what she's saying but until i know either way of course i will worry.

but thanks girls, appreciate ur reply xxx

 

[jodz1984]

I've had bleeding pretty much constantly from about 6 weeks, well apart from 2 days where it stopped completely. Everytime it became really heavy I rang up my GP and got seen by Doc, then got reffered up to the EPU the next day, and was given a scan, each time (had 2 so far) and both times there have been a heartbeat hammering away. I've had pain with both heavy heavy bleeds to, and everything *touch wood* is still okay. Fingers crossed its the same for you to. I think I'm just gonna be one of those people who bleeds the whole time during pregnancy.

 

[kazimotto]

thanks for that, it does give me some comfort. heres hopin all will be ok, its so hard to think positive, especially when the mw at epu is so negative. i guess she has to do the worst case scenario but its still very frightening..x

 

[xpinkyperkyx]

hey, really feel for you, i would def go for private scan and also bloody complain to this ninewells-if you can, refer to midwife's name so she can be shown letter. i was treated really badly with 1st pregnancy that ended in mmc, the staff were so insensitive and unfeeling and there really isn't any need for it at all, if anything, they should be over-sensitive! anyway, i'm keeping everything crossed for you all! x