So confused and don't know what to believe!

[moomin_troll]

i hope he hasnt cheated on u cuz 1 ur a nice girl n 2 she just seems like a right scum bag. but sayin that men tend to cheat with ugly girls wen they have a stunner at home.

That is so true! Should see the girl I got cheated on with. Shrek is not an understatement.

the "girl" my ex cheated on me with looked like a man lol n she was supposed to be one of my mates lol

 

[kayley_baby]

i really hope you find out soon! And moomin_troll is right your a really nice girl and your oh is stupid if he has cheated!!
If you ever need to talk im all ears! (or rather eyes in this situation) if your oh has cheated he doesnt deserve you and you deffinitly dont deserve to be treated like this by him or any one else!

 

[sparkswillfly]

Most women seem to have a story to tell about being cheated on and lying men. Men are crap!

 

[kayley_baby]

yeah men are twats!

 

[nightkd]

If your OH is telling you not to hassle him about it because you should 'trust him', then you need to tell him that you're pregnant, you do NOT want to deal with a situation like this and if she is lying- HE needs to talk to her (preferably with you present so you don't get more lies).

This slag is hassling a pregnant woman, she is clearly selfish, and you don't need even more stress on top of being pregnant, it's not good for you and it's not good for the baby. Your OH should be the man and deal with this situation, and if it turns out he did do the deed, I'd dump him straight away. You never know he might come running back, and that in itself will make you feel a lot better... He also might cheat again, so possibly not worth the hassle in the long run. That's your decision.

Make him work for you. If he's a real man, he will.

 

[sparkswillfly]

Make him work for you. If he's a real man, he will.

Thats a very good point. He shouldnt be telling you to leave it. Put your foot down. Hope it works out for you. x

 

[LilFlower08]

Well Hun, all the things are pointing in the right direction... And if you got a gut feeling then i hate to say it but you probably know its true.

Being a girl that has been cheated on and (dare i say it) played him at his own game and got my own back, that sounds like the kind of thing a cheater would do. Cover their own tracks by giving you a call at 1am...then pretending there at home tucked up in bed, when actually there sneaking off out to a preplanned rendevouz...

It also says guilty when they say that one liner " i dont have to prove my self cos im not guilty.." or " you dont have to ask me cos you should trust me"

I've used them and like soooo many others, it always meant that they were lying!!

Definitely have it out and say if he doesn't PROVE his innocence then your leaving...and yes, id def speak to ths girl more!

 

[nightkd]

One other thing;

If he talked to her on MSN, if it was on your computer, maybe you can find his conversations? If they were saved. Also, regarding the boxers, he might've just been wasted and dropped his pants, she might have taken that as an opportunity to have 'intimate information'.

You never know, but he should not be telling you to just leave it. If it were the other way round and you had been accused of cheating, but hadn't, wouldn't you be actively defending yourself, and dealing with whoever had accused you? Hope he's just being lazy and this girl is a lying slag.

 

[daniella00]

I cant believe he told you to believe what you want..he just makes himself sound guilty by not even trying to defend himself!!

My ex accused me of cheating on him all the time, i never did anything behind his back and then i found out it was him cheating on me, he was just trying to justify it by saying it was me cheating!

If your OH is cheating its putting your health at risk, you could catch anything!!

God men are horrid!

xxx

 

[nightkd]

If your OH is cheating its putting your health at risk, you could catch anything!!

xxx

Very good point.

 

[NickyT75]

Hope you manage to get to the bottom of this hun but I have to agree he sounds guilty.

This slag is a total disgrace!! if she is still with the father of her baby why is she sleeping around?? & if she doesn't want your BF why is she sleeping with him? and what would be the point of telling you?? surely she is expecting you & your BF to split up? plus it's very likely that the cheating will get back to her BF so she is jeopardising her own relationship as well

What a horrid little slag

I hope she is making this up but why would she do that if she stands to lose her BF by doing so?

So sorry you are being treated this way hun, you deserve better xx

 

[krissi]

Go Nicky!

 

[nightkd]

Hope you're okay and not letting this horrible woman get to you.

xxx

 

[mBLACK]

Just listen to your heart.

You will know who to believe.

 

[pennysbored]

Oh Sarahjane!
Well, I'm not sure what to say, or if you have figured any of this out yet, but there are a few scenario possibilities.....
a) He's a unworthy ******* who doesn't deserve a fox like you
b) this chick has issues
c) both.
I'm sorry you have to be going through this right now. You don't need this in your life, and if he isn't willing to talk this through with you, he doesn't deserve to be with you, whether its true or not.
I know thats a scary idea, but you are a smart girl. I've always thought so

 

[sparkswillfly]

Youve gone quiet. Everything ok?