I know exactly how you feel.
I had Sophie on 14th March at 27 weeks and she is in neonatal 60 miles away. We have been going up every day to see her and I feel exhausted as well as emotional, because I'm not giving myself a chance to recover from the c section but I just can't bear not to be seeing her.
It breaks my heart to see the tubes etc and when they do her blood gasses and so on I could cry watching the little soul having blood taken from her foot and clearly being in pain
I have only seen that once - I used to try not to watch but the other day I was beside her when they started doing it, and she was wriggling and her little face was all screwed up in pain and i just could not leave her, I just held her little hand and stroked her and told her that when she comes home, I promise nothing nasty will happen to her, she will just get cuddles and wear beautiful soft clothes and have all the love in the world and no more nasty things. When I came home I cried
It felt like it physically hurt me to see her in pain.
Today we had a day at home, the first day we have had at home together since the end of February, and I am missing her so much. I feel really emotional and I was just looking through the pictures we took over the weekend. When I came to the ones of the first cuddle I ever had with her, I started to cry. I am missing her so much it hurts.
It's lovely when you see new steps being taken - she came off the ventilator and has been on cpap and they tried her off that at the weekend and she breathed on her own for ages - but they said she started to make a fuss because she has been used to the feel of the air up her nose! They are planning to wean her slowly off it though. She has put on weight (was 1lb13.8 at birth 3 weeks ago) and is now 2lb4), has been out for cuddles, we are allowed to change her nappies at last and her feeds have increased - all these things make us feel loads better but then I start to feel really down again because of not having her at home.
I don't know if you feel like this but it's almost like she is not my baby, having to watch her being cared for by other people and having to be invited to change her nappy or give her a cuddle etc. I know she is in the best place but you have all the hormones of having had a baby, the tiredness of having to get up to express every 3 hours through the night etc but then she isn't here at home...if that makes sense.
I try to stay positive but it's really hard. At the same time though I am so relieved that she is here and doing well, because we could have both not made it if they hadn't done the emergency c section, so for that I will always be grateful.
I hope you are ok, if you need to chat with someone else going through the same thing, pm me.