So f*cking upset with OH.

[jozylynn896]

I just really need a rant.

I'm so fucking done dealing with his parents. They are so selfish and pathetic I can't stand them.
They know we need to save money for our fucking baby but they make him pay them the money he earns for no reason, pay their phone bills and buy shit for them! OH hasn't been able to buy a thing for our fucking son. I don't work I've been trying to find a job and nowhere will hire me. They know we really need money for the baby but they take all his money for themselves.
Why am I mad at my OH?
BECAUSE HES 19 FUCKING YEATS OLD MAKES A GOOD AMOUNT O MONEY IS IN SCHOOL AND JUST OVERALL HAS A GOOD HEAD ON HIS SHOULDERS AND REFUSES TO STICK UP FOR HIMSELF IN ALL OF THIS!
They act like they're so entitled to all of his money and they don't care that we have to save for the baby.
I just wish he'd stick up for us and our family you know?


It breaks my heart but I'm ready to just move back in with my mom. She wants me back and I know shed never charge us a dime for living under her roof.
And if it cones to it where his parents are just taking all his money and leaving nothing for our son I may just get child support so that William sees part of those checks.
I feel so shitty and terrible.

I'm at my moms right now.
On top of this I have a drs appt tomorrow and I don't want my mom to drive all the way to OHs house to pick me up in this weather so I'm spending the night here and my OH is having a total bitch fit that I'm over here!
I just am done. I wanna live here again. I miss being home. I miss my family. I miss people not annoying the shit out of me. I miss it.
The only reason I've been putting up with this is because I want us to be a little family living together.
(Did I mention OH is not allowed to spend the night by my house? Not because he's not welcome but because his parents want to be controlling and they know their son won't stick up against them!!!)
But I think I'm done with my little f*coming fantasy. Whenever he wants he is more than welcome to come see William, even spend the night if he wants to or even live here!

So sounds dumb but I need someone to tell me to move back home. Someone tell me to move back.

I have to decide by Friday because Saturday is my baby shower and we'll be setting the crib up this weekend. Once we set up the crib I'm pretty stuck wherever its setup because we can't really move it :/

I just hate being away from OH for even a day and the thought of not sleeping next to him e very night really bothers me.
And also I just don't want my LO strictly around people I don't feel comfortable around.
Someone talk to me :/

 

[Otis]

I'd honestly talk to him about you both living with your mom. It seems like you think it's the best thing, and if his parents are that way about taking his money, it probably is. It may also be easier for him to stand up to his parents if he doesn't have the fear of getting kicked out, or anything. You guys might also want to try talking to his parents, maybe they don't realize exactly the situation they're putting you guys and your LO in? I'm there with you on OH throwing fits when you can't make it somewhere. /: Just something they need to get through their head, really. With weather sometimes it's not worth the risk of hurting yourself or LO for spending time with someone you get to see often. Sorry I'm not much help, but it will get better. And it sounds like you've got a good plan if needed.

 

[teenmommy15]

im going through the same thing! My boyfriend wont stand up to his mother she told him that if i didnt get and abortion he wasnt allowed to see me and i didnt and he is just being ridiculous this is the first time ive seen him in 3 months. i was thrilled he came to my appointment but if he doesnt learn how to stick up for me and his daughter i dont know i can take it anymore. when we told our parents the first thing his mom said was that its not my sons and he didnt say a damn thing like ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? im more important and is his child he needs to learn how to grow up and step up to the plate he hasnt bought a damn thing for our daughter yet!

and you definitely should move back with your mom it may open OH's eyes a little bit. I love having the support of my mom sure i wish i was with my boyfriend everyday but i love staying close to my mom and love having that sort of support since its my first child. and once my daughters born i will never let her meet marcus' parents even if they want to see her. remember this is your child and yes you should discuss things with OH but you know best for your baby. if you need to talk pm me

 

[jozylynn896]

Thanks ladies.
It just makes me sad as I've become accustomed to spending every second with him and I just am do upset but I do want him to man up and open his eyes.
I know it will hurt but I think I'm going to do it. :""(

 

[teenmommy15]

yeah i know it hurts the other day i told marcus that if he doesnt see our daughter over the summer accumatively then were done and that i didnt want him seeing the baby

i know that sounds really harsh but i dont want my daughter having a dad that just pop in her life whenever he feels its convenient for him.

 

[jozylynn896]

I'm sorry :/

I was so worried and even moved in with him do that we could be a little family now I really do.t care if he sees him at all :'(
It makes me so sad that I feel like our relationship is falling apart because of all this and I could just fucking cry. :'(

 

[teenmommy15]

ive cried tons of times i just posted a thread about be stuck between a rock and hard place(you'll have to read the whole thing) but its been really hard our relationship feels like its crumbling one day and couldnt be better the next and its hard having to choose between the father of your baby and your daughter its not hard to decide but its hard to let go when theirs no other options..

 

[jozylynn896]

I sent him a text telling him how I feel and he replied "See u sat"
I fucking hate how inconsiderate he is. I'm definitely moving back

 

[teenmommy15]

yeah i would move back to and all you can do is hope that he steps up to the plate. i know if my boyfriend is around all the time for his daughter over the summer then im done. and im just happy i have the support of my mom.

 

[Abigail8673]

Best advice- get out. Im married and we lived with hubbys parents and they charged us in sane rent, for one tiny rom, complained all the time about us, our dog stayed in their garage and we have to pay out the nose for a storage unit for all our stuff. that lasted about 2 months we moved out and it was a million times better

 

[mybbyboo]

oh girl i thought this was me writing this. i was in the same situation. i moved back home and within two weeks he was like lets get an apartment so we can all be together. i think u should go and he'll follow. my OH is mexican and i know its kind of there culture to take care of there parents, dont know if ur in the same situation.

i would move back to ur moms, he'll come around. Cuz let me just tell u his fam aint eva gunna change

 

[jozylynn896]

Ugh thank you. We're both Mexican so it is tradition but they also need to understand they're still perfectly capable human being and need to be more considerate towards their grandchild.


I'm definitely moving back and I'm gonna stop trying to beg him cause I've been trying all day and he isn't messaging me back and he's ignoring my calls.
He know he is more than welcome here and that's me doing my part.

 

[magic93]

Sorry bout your OH hun. But I definately think you should move back home! It is going to be hard no matter what you do, but you've got to do the best thing for you and your son! I agree with the PP, when you go back home he'll see that you are serious, actions speak louder than words give him a lil bit of space, chances are he'll come around n if he doesn't well it's his loss. You'll be fine girl keep your head up!

 

[thecurlymama]

I feel ya! I'm not in the same situation, let alone similar but I understand feeling like OH's parents/family can be controlling. Also, becoming accustomed to spending lots of time with him. My OH recently moved across town so we only see each other a few times a week which is much different than when he lived across the street and we spend every waking hour that we possibly could with each other. My OH moved out of his mom's to be more independent because she's always done every little thing for him- he's also 19 and finally took responsibility for his own life and started making his own choices. He lives with his older sister now, though... which isn't too much different than when he lived with his mom. I've been trying to steer him towards moving into our own place once our LO is born, but he seems hesitant because of money. It's just a difficult situation all around, so I understand. I'm also worried about his mom because she is over-the-top loud and controlling. She's already been telling us about how the baby is going to be doing work every time he comes to her house blah blah blah all this really weird shit like "oh the baby isn't gonna have fun here! he's going to want to be over at his other grandma's house across the street but OH NO that ain't happenin' I'm keepin him here he needs to learn some goddamn manners" and ooooooh i went over the top! I had to leave her house when she said that it made me so steaming mad.


ANYWAYS now that I've told you MY story (haha sorry), I think that you should do what feels right for you. I don't know you well but judging from advice you've given me and when you've talked to me before, you seem like a really strong independent lady who's gonna do what's right for her son no matter what! I also know that you really love your OH, and knowing that I think that you should do whatever you feel you need to so you and him can stay together happily. It sucks that he's being immature and ignoring your calls, but hopefully he comes around and realizes that you're just trying to do what's best for your guys' family. It was obviously just pissing you off being around his family and that's definitely not healthy for you and LO, let alone you and your man's relationship! So in a way you are saving you guys from breaking up (hopefully). Good luck girl and you know you can always talk to me if you need to xx

 

[jozylynn896]

Thanks guys your feedback helps me a lot. :')
I haven't tales to him since last night I figured I'd just let him cool off.
This is I guess my last attempt to save what we have. I really do love him and this I'd killing me because he's the only one I want and I'm praying that me leaving DOES show him I'm serious. :""(
I'm just really scared.

 

[teenmommy15]

i know exactly how you feel i keep trying and trying but after i see how the summer goes idk if we can hold on. i mean he never wants to break which i love about him were completely and utterly in love and im hoping that once he says our daughter for the first when i give birth that he'll change .