So, I'm feeling like I don't want to get pregnant again right away....

[Jessa]

It occurred to me last night that I feel like it wouldn't be a big deal if we didn't get pregnant this month. We've had two miscarriages, the last one was at 17 weeks in February. We've been trying for two cycles now, but I am actually feeling like I want to take a break. Even though that's true, I also really want my baby.

I guess it's just that I'd like to do a couple things first. My periods haven't gone back to normal (random bleeding/spotting all the time) and I'd like to talk to my doctor about having some testing done (I have an appointment on May 8th). I also just started a rigorous fitness routine this week that will take approximately two months, hoping to lose about 20 pounds (from 180 lbs to 160 lbs).

I also feel like I need to work through some more things emotionally to be ready next time. I've got an appointment on Tuesday with a counsellor to talk about things. We'll see whether that helps at all.

Not sure what I wanted you guys to say. Guess I just wondered if anyone else felt like this? Anyone else deciding to take a break and gather themselves before trying again right away?

 

[Sweetie]

Do what feels right to you. Don't worry about what you "should" be wanting

 

[Jessa]

Thanks, Sweetie! AF is supposed to arrive on Monday. It's weird that this time I'm actually hoping that she does!

 

[Jkelmum]

If she doesnt come then u will be blessed and if she does come you can take all the time you need there isnt no right or wrong answer to whats right for you xxx

 

[babytots]

If she doesnt come then u will be blessed and if she does come you can take all the time you need there isnt no right or wrong answer to whats right for you xxx

couldnt put it better myself.

right now i feel like i need to be pg to help ease the pain of losing jessica but then my head tells me its not the sensible thing and i NEED to give my body a rest and wait for any tests to be done as to why we lost our angels. as hard as it is i know i have to wait as i cant bear what happened to jessica happening to any other of my babies if i knew it could of been prevented if we had waited a couple of months and got test results back.

take your time hunni do the things you need to and you will know when the time is right to try again. x

 

[Las78]

Hey hun, you need to do whatever feels right for you.

I'm in two minds all the time it seems, one day I'm desperate to be pregnant, the next I think I'm going on the pill as I can't bear a possible repeat of it all. It's a difficult decision but one that is very personal and only you can make.

Whatever you decide hun will be right for you x

 

[Csunshine013]

So sorry for your losses.
I know how I felt after ours and trust me you are not alone. Take as much time as you need. Hope you find the peace your seeking.

 

[gemsio]

thats exactly what i did, although i desperately wanted to start trying straight away, we had a break and are now trying again, it has been 5 months since my M/C.
So if you feel you need a small break, where all your waking minutes aren't about ovulation and pregnancy, do it. the break really did me the world of good. and i am ready to try.xxxxx

 

[Jessa]

I think we're going to take a break for a couple months. If my doctor will send us for some testing, it would be nice to have an idea whether there's a reason that we keep miscarrying. Of course, that depends on how long it will take to get an appointment and then get the results back. I might not be able to wait that long.

Like I said earlier, AF is due on Monday (two days) and there's no sign of her yet. It's weird that I want her to come, but I guess we'll take things one day at a time. I don't usually get many symptoms ahead of her arrival, so this is nothing new.

Thanks for all your input and support everyone!

 

[mazza2003]

Hi there, sorry for your losses. I so understand how you feel. The dilemma of not wanting it to happen again but to have a bay asap. Its so hard. I felt the pressure was on from the consultant, who asked at the 7 week check up if I was pregnant and friends asking if " i had any news!". I only o'd for the first time since my first AF after my ectopic yesterday, so I am not sure why people have been bugging me about this for weeks!
We did try this month but its been a casual attempt although 1 dpo and I am climbing the walls waiting to test. Its a total rollercoaster and I think the best thing is to do what your body feels is right.
I wish you all the best with the dr's and that a BFP comes your way when you are ready. XXXXXXXXXXX

 

[Jessa]

Thanks, mazza! AF is due tomorrow and there's still no sign of her. I kind of hope that she comes, and I'm totally expecting her to since I've had no pregnancy symptoms, but who knows....Guess I just wait and see.

Good luck to you, too!