So many questions,so many "answers"

[21yrsurvivor]

Here's a good question for all you TTC #1. How many of you have done SO much research via the web and found out that when you're trying to find an answer to an important question you get so many different answers?

For example "Is this a IB or my period?" (I can't begin to tell you how many times I have asked that question from different angles and got mixed answers)

I would love hear if you have had the same experience. What questions have you asked and got mixed answers that made you go crazy and feel like a detective?

 

[gennifaire]

every question lol...all the questions >.<

 

[21yrsurvivor]

every question lol...all the questions >.<

Well said girl, I completely agree.

 

[TCooper]

"Is this a IB or my period?"
I think I've read about 23 articles on this. I got AF a week early last month and honestly I was obsessed.
I started feeling sick and dizzy, honestly it was pretty much all in my head, it was just an early AF.
'What at the earliest signs or pregnancy' is also something I've obsessed about.

What it's taught me though is to hang back, let whatever is happening happen, and not to obsess.
I don't want to lose the enjoyment of trying for a baby. So I'm now just watching for ovulation signs and letting whatever happens happen.

 

[21yrsurvivor]

"Is this a IB or my period?"
I think I've read about 23 articles on this. I got AF a week early last month and honestly I was obsessed.
I started feeling sick and dizzy, honestly it was pretty much all in my head, it was just an early AF.
'What at the earliest signs or pregnancy' is also something I've obsessed about.

What it's taught me though is to hang back, let whatever is happening happen, and not to obsess.
I don't want to lose the enjoyment of trying for a baby. So I'm now just watching for ovulation signs and letting whatever happens happen.

I think I learned this pretty quick with this TTC #1 in the first month of trying (which was this month) I kept asking myself,"Is this in my head? Am I really feeling like this?" It was a constant fight in my head between la la land and reality.

I was reading SO much and seeing all this different answers made me even more bonkers. I agree with you, just sit back and keep taking your BBT and see where it goes (of course easier said then done LOL)

 

[gennifaire]

I even CONVINCED my body I was preggers and I wasnt. I was having all the signs...exhaustion, etc.

nope. just an hysterical reaction. so now this month im trying to take things calmer

 

[21yrsurvivor]

I even CONVINCED my body I was preggers and I wasnt. I was having all the signs...exhaustion, etc.

nope. just an hysterical reaction. so now this month im trying to take things calmer

Same here, but you can't help but to get revved up and excited about getting a BFP. Omg when I was was "having" the symptoms I really thought I was pregnant, then I found out quickly with a BFN. I got so emotional, I was crying and felt like a failed. I feel for those that have been trying for so long. My heart goes out to them for maintaining a strong attitude. I hope I can get pregnant soon.

 

[gennifaire]

I even CONVINCED my body I was preggers and I wasnt. I was having all the signs...exhaustion, etc.

nope. just an hysterical reaction. so now this month im trying to take things calmer

Same here, but you can't help but to get revved up and excited about getting a BFP. Omg when I was was "having" the symptoms I really thought I was pregnant, then I found out quickly with a BFN. I got so emotional, I was crying and felt like a failed. I feel for those that have been trying for so long. My heart goes out to them for maintaining a strong attitude. I hope I can get pregnant soon.

I feel the same way. I know people whove been trying a lot longer then me, and I can only hope they get their BFP soon. I hope I do too. I have a goal lifeline in mind and im already irriated its taken this long to get my DH (this case damn husband not dear!) to be onboard. I wanted to try a few years ago. I want two, and didnt want to wait til I was almost 30. lol

 

[sarah2211]

Those different answers are probably because we all have different bodies, different cycles and different hormones. What's normal for me isn't normal for you. What's normal for me this cycle isn't normal every other cycle. Plus when we are just describing our symptoms online, it can be hard to portray them. Plus, I think even if you asked a OB/GYN the questions you have they'd too say they couldn't be completely sure. Often the only way to tell if it's IB or your period is in the few weeks following when you get your BFP.

As for the symptoms and thinking your pregnant. That's normal. I'm on my 8th cycle now and there have been months where I thought I had all the symptoms and it was my month for sure. Then other months with no symptoms. Either way, BFN.

It's a real rollercoaster. I think for me, I've had to accept that there's going to be a lot of waiting for this to happen. There's going to be a lot of sadness and frustration and other emotions. Up until the 6 month mark I was feeling pretty positive, 80% of under 35s get pregnant within that time. After that it got tougher.

Don't be too hard on yourselves after 1-2 months. If I felt the way I do now at 8 months back then, I wouldn't have lasted this long. Good luck and I hope you get your BFPs soon

 

[21yrsurvivor]

Those different answers are probably because we all have different bodies, different cycles and different hormones. What's normal for me isn't normal for you. What's normal for me this cycle isn't normal every other cycle. Plus when we are just describing our symptoms online, it can be hard to portray them. Plus, I think even if you asked a OB/GYN the questions you have they'd too say they couldn't be completely sure. Often the only way to tell if it's IB or your period is in the few weeks following when you get your BFP.

As for the symptoms and thinking your pregnant. That's normal. I'm on my 8th cycle now and there have been months where I thought I had all the symptoms and it was my month for sure. Then other months with no symptoms. Either way, BFN.

It's a real rollercoaster. I think for me, I've had to accept that there's going to be a lot of waiting for this to happen. There's going to be a lot of sadness and frustration and other emotions. Up until the 6 month mark I was feeling pretty positive, 80% of under 35s get pregnant within that time. After that it got tougher.

Don't be too hard on yourselves after 1-2 months. If I felt the way I do now at 8 months back then, I wouldn't have lasted this long. Good luck and I hope you get your BFPs soon

Thank you so much for the kind words of encouragement, I needed that. I have accepted the fact to just kick back and let nature take its course, that way it doesn't hit me so hard. When I did the HPT before and during my "period" I got a BFN. But I'm pretty sure it was my period because the bleeding got really heavy and had clots like I normally do *sigh*

My period comes right on time, day 26-30, most of the time at the 28 mark. My periods last 10 days, but this one lasted 9 *sarcastic woo hoo* LOL. The weird part is that the apps on my phone have fertile the last two days of my period because my cycle is long. Still getting used to FF app. Started using a BBT thermometer today, it's definitely better than a standard thermometer.

 

[sarah2211]

I think regardless of what you do, a BFN hits you hard when you're TTC.

I find with temping, I know when AF is coming because my temp drops. AF usually comes the next day. So I know whether it's worth testing or not based on that. For some reason, this is slightly less devastating than get a BFN.

It sounds like AF is here. It sucks, but just thinking of it as a new, fresh start and it might be your month. FF just goes off averages. If you don't have any previous cycles, it'll just go off the standard 'ovulate CD14'. As you temp and put in more data it'll give a clearer picture. Mine is still predicting O a week before I know I'll O. My cycles are getting slightly longer each month, but FF isn't keeping up.

AF is almost finished for me and this is my first cycle using metformin. I've read lots of success stories and my GP said it can work a treat. Some people got their BFP their first cycle. But again, trying to keep the hopes low so I'm not disappointed.

TTC is tricky in ways that I never thought it would be. When you are having trouble doing something that us women are just meant to be able to do, that others do accidentally, it's a kick in the guts. I could cry every day if I let myself

 

[mama.mouse]

I am absolutely sure that my body makes up symptoms as I read up about them! haha I have had everything from nose bleeds to bloating to AF cramps to brown spotting to nausea to food aversions. My AF has been one day early, one day late, lighter, heavier... YOU NAME IT. Your mind is such a powerful thing and your body can be influenced by things you read. I think it comes down to just wanting something so bad.

Our bodies are douche bags. Rather as us ladies for advice than Google xx