So many questions

[sambam]

I was told yesterday that I have miscarried, but I have to go back to the hospital tomorrow for more bloods to be taken, as there is a very very small chance that I could still be pregnant, and that im not as far on as i think i am and thats why the baby didn't show up on the scan. They have to check my pregnancy hormone levels to see if they have gone up. I doubt it very much as i've lost a lot of blood we were'nt trying for this baby, and were just getting used to being pregnant again, now we have had to deal with this. It doesn't make it any easier the fact that we weren't trying This has now made me realise that I do want another baby at some point in the near future. Got a few questions that i would like to know the answers to if you ladies could help.
How long should I wait before trying for another baby( when is it safe)? When does the bleeding stop? When is it safe to have sex again ( thats the last thing on my mind right now )? Has anyone ever had treatment for abnormal cells in the cervix.. then went on to have a successful pregnancy?
Just had to get that all out there x

 

[KateC]

I'm so sorry that you've had this bad news. Have you miscarried yet, or are you in limbo (between when they tell you your pregnancy isn't viable and when your womb is actually empty again).

Your doctor should help you out with these questions, too. Write them down so that you don't forget what you wanted to ask. It's going to depend on how things go, whether you miscarry naturally or have a D&C.

I ended up having the D&C, and here is what they told me.

My doc said to wait 2 menstrual cycles after my miscarriage before trying to get pregnant again.

The bleeding was like a medium period for a few days, and has been spotty for two weeks. (You would bleed much heavier if you miscarried naturally, I think.)

I've been told 4 weeks of pelvic rest (read, no sex) after D&C, but I've also read 2 weeks on the internet. The key is that if you have your cervix dilated, you don't want to introduce anything into your vagina (a penis, a tampon, a finger, whatever) that could bring an infection until your cervix is safely closed again. Don't know if there are restrictions after natural miscarriage, but I bet 2 weeks would be okay as long as you weren't showing any signs of infection.

I've never had treatment for HPV or anything else on my cervix, but several of my close friends have. One of them is 32 weeks pregnant right now, and her pregnancy is humming along beautifully. Don't worry! All is not lost! Women definitely go on to have babies after that sort of thing.

Best wishes to you in this difficult time.

 

[sambam]

Thanks so such for the reply, i guess im in limbo at the moment, i will find out more tomorrow after the blood tests confirm what level of hcg there is. Its the waiting thats the worst part ! I will keep you posted when i find out. xxx

 

[KateC]

Limbo is the worst. So confusing and emotional. As if losing your pregnancy isn't hard enough.

Good luck tomorrow.