So much anger and sadness today

[Molae06]

Sorry to get off topic, I know you said your not sure about spending so much on ivf, but if it was me I would NEED to know I did everything in my power to get what I wanted, and have no regrets. You don't want to wake up one day and say "I'm sad we didn't have kids but I didn't want to spend 15,000 on ivf"
I guarantee you a child is worth more than that. I would pay that 10x over for my baby. And living life without regret is priceless! My SIL had 6 rounds ($5,000 each in Australia) and they all failed but she says at least she can live with herself everyday knowing she tried everything.
And I don't know what country your in but that price seems pretty high, I think if u looked into it its not that much.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post and reply. Just wanted to say that it's not that I don't want to spend the money on IVF, it's that I don't think it is financially possible within our means. Technically it is, but we have just enough in savings for one try. If it fails we sit there devastated, broken hearted, hating life more than before, and broke. Don't get me wrong, we both have jobs and can pay the bills, but I don't know if I could personally handle that amount of sadness if it didn't work. I have a pretty good ability to judge what I think I would do in a certain situation, but that one is too iffy for me. I think if we spent our entire savings to only end up in a darker place than before, I don't know what I would do or what would happen to me. I am well aware a child is worth more than that and I would as well pay ten million dollars if I had to, but the sad reality of financial obstacles is the true reality.

Also, I am in the United States and in my area, and most areas that is the cost. The cheapest clinic in my area which is 4 hours away is $14,000, that's just standard IVF using my eggs and dh sperm, the anesthesia isn't included in that price and is paid to a separate place and is $1500. And the pricing just gets high from there for the clinics that are in my area, most about 3.5 to 5.5 hours away. Believe me if I had an endless income I would do IVF everyday if I could! (not literally obviously).

I am happy for you that you managed to conceive and have a precious little one. I wish you the best in life

 

[uwa_amanda]

Sorry to get off topic, I know you said your not sure about spending so much on ivf, but if it was me I would NEED to know I did everything in my power to get what I wanted, and have no regrets. You don't want to wake up one day and say "I'm sad we didn't have kids but I didn't want to spend 15,000 on ivf"
I guarantee you a child is worth more than that. I would pay that 10x over for my baby. And living life without regret is priceless! My SIL had 6 rounds ($5,000 each in Australia) and they all failed but she says at least she can live with herself everyday knowing she tried everything.
And I don't know what country your in but that price seems pretty high, I think if u looked into it its not that much.

Thank you for taking the time to read my post and reply. Just wanted to say that it's not that I don't want to spend the money on IVF, it's that I don't think it is financially possible within our means. Technically it is, but we have just enough in savings for one try. If it fails we sit there devastated, broken hearted, hating life more than before, and broke. Don't get me wrong, we both have jobs and can pay the bills, but I don't know if I could personally handle that amount of sadness if it didn't work. I have a pretty good ability to judge what I think I would do in a certain situation, but that one is too iffy for me. I think if we spent our entire savings to only end up in a darker place than before, I don't know what I would do or what would happen to me. I am well aware a child is worth more than that and I would as well pay ten million dollars if I had to, but the sad reality of financial obstacles is the true reality.

Also, I am in the United States and in my area, and most areas that is the cost. The cheapest clinic in my area which is 4 hours away is $14,000, that's just standard IVF using my eggs and dh sperm, the anesthesia isn't included in that price and is paid to a separate place and is $1500. And the pricing just gets high from there for the clinics that are in my area, most about 3.5 to 5.5 hours away. Believe me if I had an endless income I would do IVF everyday if I could! (not literally obviously).

I am happy for you that you managed to conceive and have a precious little one. I wish you the best in life

I could not have explained that any better myself. I have wanted to reply to that post for several days but haven't because I couldn't figure out how to word it.

Finances and the lack of insurance that covers fertility treatments is the main reason why my husband and I decided to forgo our dreams of parenthood.

 

[Molae06]

Thank you. Simply put, finances suck. I wish I lived somewhere where it was cheaper, or that our gov't had some kind of program. I wish I could find a job where I had insurance to cover IVF. I have a friend, so sadly isn't a friend anymore, who worked for a bank and she had all fertility treatments and testing paid for up to $100,000. She did IVF once and it failed, and so she had enough to go for it again and now has a precious baby girl who will be one in just a few months. After she conceived she kept pressuring me to just go for it and not worry about the money because it is "so worth it" as she would say. She told me how happy she was the first time she got morning sickness, etc. I realized that she had been trying to a long time, just like all of us, but when she started rubbing it in my face like that and making me feel guilty for not being able to afford what her insurance gave her for free, we discontinued our friendship to put it lightly.

Anyway, just wanted to say thank you for your support.

 

[popchick75]

There are only 15 states right now that require insurance companies to cover infertility diagnosis and treatment. Trust me....we have toyed around with the idea of moving to one of them for quite some time! That just shows you what a mess the US insurance system is!