So much going on. Just need to vent!

[Pulirula]

I have no much on my plate right now.
1. We are putting our house on the market this weekend and looking for a new house. That alone is scary. I'm terrified we won't like where we live or my family won't be happy.
2. The baby coming is 24 weeks.
3. My 7 yr old daughter is having health problems. Hopefully nothing major but she has REALLY bad Acid reflux to the point she throws up a lot during the day. We have an appt with a specialist at the end on the month. This of course scares the hell out of me. I see surgery in her future for this. SHE ALso has a lazy eye that we have been doing eye therapy to fix and it doesn't seem to be helping. So possible surgery on that also.
4. My daughter had been dealing with all these issues she's very down and upset and embarrassed with her reflux. I think it's getting in the way of her making new friends.
5. I'm having fears that this new baby will have the same or worse issues.

There's a few other minor things that alone would be fine but they are just added on to the pile of these huge things. I have no idea what to do or how to deal with these things. Especially with my daughter. I just want to hug her and keep her happy and safe.

 

[SonnyH]

That does all sound very stressful a lot on your plate! I think take a big deep breath and take a bit of time each day to remember all the positives in your life too!

I guess with your house move, there is a reason you looking to move so close to having a baby? Try to use whatever that reason is to look forwards to a new house and the benefits that will bring you! While you worry you might not like the house or area, you have the choice to pick where you live and you may find it's the opposite and you absolutely love it!

Your daughter sounds a lot like me! I've had a lazy eye since I was born and I only have around 80% vision in my right eye (and the vision I have is long sighted). Honestly, it's not held me back from a single thing. I've worn glasses my whole life but it's been no big deal. And they are thankfully fashionable these days my squint used to be very pronounced but it's actually improved as I've got older and now it's only noticeable to other people if I'm tired. I don't notice it at all! I was offered surgery to correct the squint but decided against it.

I also have suffered from terrible reflux my whole life. I really sympathise with your daughter so much, it's really painful and I've had times in my life where I've felt absoloute you miserable and missed a lot of school. There is a lot of help out there though. I've never had surgery and again, as I've got older, it's improved to an extent. I get flare ups these days, rather than it being all the time. There's a lot to be done with diet and there are an increasing number of very safe medications which make a huge difference. And if she does need surgery, it will be for the best and she'll most likely bounce back within a week as kids seem to do!

Head up lovely lady, you sound like a wonderful Mum to your daughter. Must be horrible to see her suffering but it won't last forever, you are seeing specialists who will hopefully be able to help and make her feel much better soon. It's impossible to say how your baby will be in terms of reflux or a lazy eye but neither are genetic I don't think. So don't worry about that for now. Baby will probably be totally fine. Take each day as it comes and get through it with all the support you can get!

 

[Pulirula]

Thank you! I needed to hear that. We have tried diets with her. No gluten, no diary no sugar( whixh is nearly impossible btw) she's been on a few meds but they don't stop her throwing up. I just hope that if they do need to do surgery it's asap before the baby is born. When she is in the hospital I plan to be there the entire time with her because the hospital is An hour away. Idk what I would do if we had an infant to take. Are of.
It's not a lazy eye with her lids, it's her actual eyeball tha Wanders and goes on vacation. The surgery for that is minor and only takes a morning. No hospital stays on that.
Well she is also a nail biter. So I bought some of that nail polish that taste horrible and I set it on the shelf in the living room and told her not to touch it. But when I wasn't looking she took the polish and dumped the whole bottle in her garbage in her room. She has also been doing other bad things like that. Tearing pages out of books, coloring on things etc. hubs thinks this is just her acting out from stress. He could be right ( pleas don't tell him that!) but she's part of the family and she's dealing with all this stuff too. When she gets home from school I'm going to talk to her and figure it out.
We want to move because our house is just to small for a baby. We can do it for a little while but once she/he would need their own room we would need to be in a new home.
Thanks again for the reply. I need to just let all these things play out and handle them the best I can.