so sad poor babies :(

[babytots]

after jessicas funeral me,my mum and my auntie took a walk to the baby garden as we have never been in before and thought it would be nice to pop in and say hello to the other angel babies who will be with my jessica in the sky.

they have 2 parts one where the babies ashes are buried and the others where they have proper graves and headstones.

the garden with the babys ashes was a sight for sorry eyes i'm so glad i decided not to have jessica placed there.(we were orignally going to get her ashes scattered there til my mum said we can have her buried with my auntie as she owns that plot where she is).

there were broken statues everywhere from where the wind has blown ratty old teddys that no has removed from their babies plot and most of the graves and plaques looked like they hadn't been tended to in a longggg time! so were covered in mud and moss and god knows what else. there were only about 3 or 4 that were immaculate.

i felt so sad for those poor babies. not only because they had been forgotten about by family but the council cant even be bothered to try and keep it looking nice. really made me well up how can someone foget about their baby?. i honestly felt like tidying it up myself to make it look pretty and peaceful for them but it wasn't my place to so i left it.

the other section however was beautiful lots of tiny headstones with various windmills,butterflies,teddys and toys everywhere. my eldest was mesmerized by it all and once jessica has been buried with my auntie i cant wait for her to be involved in choosing things for jessicas grave she'll have the brightest one around when hollies finished with it lol. x

 

[v2007]

Our local baby garden is the same, families have 'forgotten'.

Its a sorry state, Taylor was cremated and i scattered her ashes in Scotland last year when we on our holiday, im so glad i did as the baby garden we have TBH is in a sad state of disrepair and it would have broke my heart to leave 'her' there.

Last time i was there, there was a half eaten pigeon on the soil covered in blood and the gardeners said they would move it, i asked them who tidied the baby garden, they said the parents. I said trust me no1 has tidied this place in ages, and TBH the last thing parents want to do when they visit this place is clean up!!!!

They want a place to reflect not mow the grass.

V xxxxx

 

[NickyT75]

I agree it really is so sad to see that

there is a baby near Sophie and its grave is so overgrown and messy that I feel terrible

I was also thinking about cutting the grass there next time im doing Sophies - its such a shame that nobody has bothered xx

 

[maddiwatts19]

aw hun..not the kind of thing you'd want to see on a day like today.
its horrible to see it like that.. maybe write a letter to your coucil suggesting that its kept and tended to. those little angels deserve respect.
i hope everything went ok with Jessicas funeral
your so strong xx

 

[babytots]

thanks ladies its so sad isnt it even more so that its not the only baby cemetery like it. i know no matter how many years pass i will never forget jessica nor leave her resting place in such a state like those poor babies had and if for some reason i cant i know another member of my family would for me.

i think i might write to the council about it as i know i definitely wouldnt want my baby in there looking like it is. i am so tempted to go back and do it myself those babies deserve better. i can't imagine any parent who have lost a baby going in there and seeing thats where there baby will be laid to rest it nearly had me in tears and jessicas not even going to be buried there.

maddi thanks hunni for your lovely message i'm noyl as strong as the next lady in this forum i'm strong as i have to be. not only for myself and my partner but for the 2 girls that need me too they the ones getting me through this each day. x

 

[dan-o]

That is so sad

 

[rachjim98]

I can honestly say that I have never been to a baby gardens resting place and seen it in a mess. I wont know what to do if I ever will either. This is so very sad to hear. I am sorry you had to see that and feel as if those parents didnt care enough to tend to their babies.
We still have Rebecca's ashes haven't wanted to part with them just yet. We are going to Hawaii over the summer and I had intended on taking them and spreading them their, if I am ready??
So sad to think they have been forgotten.
Hope your doing ok today!

 

[babytots]

thanks rach it really shocked me to see it in such a state its such a shame.

i like your idea of spreading rebeccas ashes in hawaii. you'll know then no matter where you go as long as there is a beach and the sea rebecca will always be there in each wave iykwim.

my partners grandad had his ashes scattered at sea and i did think of taking jessicas there too as i know jason would love it but since we dont get there much once or twice a year i decided not to as i need somewhere i can go to see when i need to talk to her iykwim.

i'm doing ok ta hunni thanks for asking how are you? x