DLA
1st Time Mom & lovin it!
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MIL has been pressuring us since we were pregnant with our son to use part of her name somehow in our baby's name. We didn't do this with our son. We names him what we wanted. Now we are having a girl and the pressure is even worse. Last night at the dinner table with the WHOLE family there for mother's day she found out we would not be using her at all in our daughter's name either. She was so angry started bitching and being really mean about the whole thing. She found out our daughter's middle name is going to be Lynn and she was like "what is THIS Lynn?? WHY??? Where did this name come from ???" Like the way she said it was in total disgust. She said "WHy can't you use Katherine instead". I said very firmly "Lynn is her middle name and it's not changing, that's what we decided on". SHe kept going on and on about how she will not be remembered. OH is trying uncomfortably (because it was in front of everyone) to say that's the name we liked etc. I finally got so upset and said "what is the big deal? it's a name!" and she said "if it's not a big deal, change it to katherine". By now I was so angry and so emotional and upset I yelled "Well I thought I we could name our own child!" This took everyone back I think because I've never gotten upset like that in front of them. She was like "well you can". and I said "clearly we can't". Then she was like "don't get upset"
Anyways that was the end of it. It was so uncomfortable and I had to hold off tears the rest of the night. It was quite the miserable ending to mother's day. When we got in the car I just burst into tears and I don't even know why. My OH told me to ignore her that she's being ridiculous. I can't even explain why I'm upset. I'm not even angry anymore because I know she is the one who is being so unreasonable.
It's something about like I feel very offended on behalf of my daughter that she's so angry and disgusted with our name. Like I feel like I shouldn't have to defend her name. idk I'm just super emotional now about it....
Anyways that was the end of it. It was so uncomfortable and I had to hold off tears the rest of the night. It was quite the miserable ending to mother's day. When we got in the car I just burst into tears and I don't even know why. My OH told me to ignore her that she's being ridiculous. I can't even explain why I'm upset. I'm not even angry anymore because I know she is the one who is being so unreasonable.
It's something about like I feel very offended on behalf of my daughter that she's so angry and disgusted with our name. Like I feel like I shouldn't have to defend her name. idk I'm just super emotional now about it....