Ive seen this repeatedly, especially with women who's DH's have issues and they refuse to admit it ...
My DH got a SA before we were even married. We have discussed in detail TTC and ALL that it entails, we have discussed the moving from "trying" to "TRYING" and he nods and smiles and totally agrees
And THEN all the sudden he seems to look at me like i have three heads when i start talking about this and he smiles and he nods and he agrees but i feel like hes just attempting to placate me because he thinks THAT is best !
I get is, i have zero infertility, he has issues with his SA but it's not impossible. We've been TTC for 14 months BUT we haven't REALLY been trying, it seems to me we've been more like NTNP than "trying" and im all geared up fir the next months, and i thought WE were geared up for everything.
I admit it means more for me. I have to temp, and chart, and OPK, and take the meds, and watch everything, and we are technically "newlyweds" and frankly we DTD ALL the time, and he is NOT opposed to "having" to do me when necessary and he's more sensitive to my ovulation than i am. He knows, he can tell based upon my actions, my smell, my demeanor, my voice and everything else.. he is SO sensitive he knows before or when i do
But tonight i feel like im being placated. Maybe it's just POMS and anxiety, but it's for HIM we do all of this !!! My oldest is 5, and i want more kids, i want to give him everything he desires but at the same time i feel like im not totally convinced i should have to deal with pregnancy, and middle of the night wake ups and diaper changes and being puked on all the time ( i tend to have projectile vomiters), and having kids who dont fuss when they crap all up their backs which means we have a pile of towels next to the swing, because it's the only way the baby will sleep and dealing with the comments about diapering and breastfeeding (or in my case, lack of) and on and on and on...
I love my husband, he is truly my soul mate and the love of my life. If HE wants to spend the time and money on IVF, i will. I will risk the chance of, and frankly i'd rather have twins at once and just be done ( i know it's not fair to say, but i detest pregnancy, it does every terrible, horrible symptom to me, plus !) and have it over with. It's also better to have 2 at once than be like his sister who will have a baby, with sensory disorders, urnng 2 right around the time she's due to deliver, or another friend ofmine who discovered she's 10 weeks along with an 8 month old. It's better to have twins than to have these situations, and i'd rather be pregnant than not... but still
Hes not doing all this research to find out the best options, he's not pressuring me into various techniques or diets or trying for one sex versus the other (all threads i have seen posted) or anything of the sort. He happily did his SA and all testing that was requested and required without a single second thought. But sometimes, just sometimes, i still feel like im the one putting forth all the effort ....
Am i the only one?
My DH got a SA before we were even married. We have discussed in detail TTC and ALL that it entails, we have discussed the moving from "trying" to "TRYING" and he nods and smiles and totally agrees
And THEN all the sudden he seems to look at me like i have three heads when i start talking about this and he smiles and he nods and he agrees but i feel like hes just attempting to placate me because he thinks THAT is best !
I get is, i have zero infertility, he has issues with his SA but it's not impossible. We've been TTC for 14 months BUT we haven't REALLY been trying, it seems to me we've been more like NTNP than "trying" and im all geared up fir the next months, and i thought WE were geared up for everything.
I admit it means more for me. I have to temp, and chart, and OPK, and take the meds, and watch everything, and we are technically "newlyweds" and frankly we DTD ALL the time, and he is NOT opposed to "having" to do me when necessary and he's more sensitive to my ovulation than i am. He knows, he can tell based upon my actions, my smell, my demeanor, my voice and everything else.. he is SO sensitive he knows before or when i do
But tonight i feel like im being placated. Maybe it's just POMS and anxiety, but it's for HIM we do all of this !!! My oldest is 5, and i want more kids, i want to give him everything he desires but at the same time i feel like im not totally convinced i should have to deal with pregnancy, and middle of the night wake ups and diaper changes and being puked on all the time ( i tend to have projectile vomiters), and having kids who dont fuss when they crap all up their backs which means we have a pile of towels next to the swing, because it's the only way the baby will sleep and dealing with the comments about diapering and breastfeeding (or in my case, lack of) and on and on and on...
I love my husband, he is truly my soul mate and the love of my life. If HE wants to spend the time and money on IVF, i will. I will risk the chance of, and frankly i'd rather have twins at once and just be done ( i know it's not fair to say, but i detest pregnancy, it does every terrible, horrible symptom to me, plus !) and have it over with. It's also better to have 2 at once than be like his sister who will have a baby, with sensory disorders, urnng 2 right around the time she's due to deliver, or another friend ofmine who discovered she's 10 weeks along with an 8 month old. It's better to have twins than to have these situations, and i'd rather be pregnant than not... but still
Hes not doing all this research to find out the best options, he's not pressuring me into various techniques or diets or trying for one sex versus the other (all threads i have seen posted) or anything of the sort. He happily did his SA and all testing that was requested and required without a single second thought. But sometimes, just sometimes, i still feel like im the one putting forth all the effort ....
Am i the only one?
