Soon to be 39 and still TTC #1

[tigerlilly]

Hi ladies so i'll soon be 39 and still trying to get pg and it sucks big time! Hows everyone else doing?

 

[ButGoodie]

Hiya! I've just turned 41 and am TTC #1 as well. Had a m/c in November 2010 and a variety of problems (fibroids, ovarian cysts and endometriosis) since then, so it's been quite a year.

This is our first month ttc in earnest. I'm 7 dpo and just taking it one day at a time. AF is due on the 30th, plus or minus 2 days, so I'm hoping for a New Year's miracle ...or two

 

[dachsundmom]

Still infertile...except, now my DH is too!

 

[NorthStar]

Still trying, but looking at IVF in the New Year.

TTC sucks, that's for sure.

 

[crystal443]

Yep..I'm still infertile too..IVF in January I think other then that I'm doing great How long have you been TTC?

 

[nutsforbaby]

I will be 39 next month and ttc#1. Had a mc in June and I never realize how hard TTC would be

 

[Sus09]

Just going through my 3rd loss Yes, TTC sucks Big time!
OH and I cosidering IVF in 2012 to catch the good eggies.

 

[bubbaloo2011]

Turned 39 in sept, trying to conceive #2 lost my first in 2002 at 20wks due to an incompetent cervix, since then got divorced and now I'm remarried to the most wonderful husband this august who not only understands my fear that the clock is ticking but also understands that even "after" I get pregnant the fear of trying to keep the baby inside of me. Mr dr already told me that I will have to get a cerclage at 12 weeks, but I'm stressing over just getting a BFP to even start this journey! Ugggh!!

 

[threebirds]

Obsessing too much with ttc. NY resolution is to try to be more zen about it all - but no idwa how to get to that point. Desperate to see a bfp. Had mmc in Aug so that proves that even with my v low ovarian reserve and his v low count & morphology we can get there. But can we do it again??? Going to need some assisted help in 2012.
Good luck ladies xxxxx

 

[Citrus]

Hi, I just turned 39 in November and got a bfp the day after Christmas. I've been trying for over a year and then found out that my partner was not producing enough sperm for it to be feasible on our own (he had been for testing a few years ago and was fine then). It was decided that I would try with donor sperm and I conceived the first time I tried with different sperm. We had tried two months ago with his sperm but they said that it was a low sample so we were concerned and it didn't end up happening for us. I'm now just taking it day by day and hoping I make it all the way to the end with the little bean. Good luck to all of you and keep the faith. I know it's hard but at least we have each other.

 

[hockey24]

Obsessing too much with ttc. NY resolution is to try to be more zen about it all - but no idwa how to get to that point. Desperate to see a bfp. Had mmc in Aug so that proves that even with my v low ovarian reserve and his v low count & morphology we can get there. But can we do it again??? Going to need some assisted help in 2012.
Good luck ladies xxxxx

Let me know if you figure out how to be more zen Threebirds! I could use some of that!

 

[Jax41]

Tigerlilly, back for more? You're a glutton for punishment!

I'm still here, still trying, still no BFP, still got AF as my best friend uggh, when will this ever end?

xXx

 

[creatingpeace]

Hi Ladies

I am 41 and my one and only was born 5 weeks ago.
I write this to encourage you. I was very discouraged when I finally conceived after 2 years of trying. Eventually conceived using clomid and timed intercourse, visiting a fertility Specialist for 10 months...not fun as many of you know. When we finally conceived I had given up and it was my last month on the meds and I had no more faith. Thank goodness we were successful. I had a yucky pregnancy and ended up on bedrest for a few months due to placenta issues. However, I now have a very healthy little boy born at 7.9.
It is easy to get lost in newborn motherhood and forget my journey, I came on this part of the forum to remind myself. When I think about it WOW what a journey...when I look at my beautiful baby boy, every step, every tear, every moment of doubt was WORTH it.
I write this to let you know it can and will happen. Hang in there stay strong and take good care of you. The sacrifices you are making now will pay off.

 

[etetbobx]

Had a mc in June and I never realize how hard TTC would be

 

[sarahincanada]

Im already 39 and trying for my first as well :wave:
its been 2 years now since we stopped preventing and had 3 failed IUIs and 1 failed IVF but somehow I still keep going.
luckily I have 8 blastocysts frozen, but its still hard to feel confident that they will give me a child.
and even when you get a bfp thats only the beginning. seen too many people on here having mc's or no heartbeats at scans and each one gets to me.
wow this post sounds so negative but Im not really, just realistic.
Ive started acupuncture and I do feel generally calmer about ttcing and life in general so highly recommend it! she says that if your nervous system is not functioning well its very difficult to get pregnant.
good luck to us all

 

[tigerlilly]

Ladies sorry i haven't been back for a while . To all those who have had births and bfp's wonderful news. To all those having a though time or still trying bug hugs. Here's where we are at:

First SA 5% normal forms. second sa 5 wks later 3% normal forms dh has poor morphology. A suspected mc in march 2011 and waiting for a referall to fs. Waiting on my blood results it's tool her this long to agree. Been trying for 2 yrs in march 2012. I have to get my bmi down to at least 30 it's 38.42. Dh's family still not interested or supportive esp MIL what can you do?

 

[dachsundmom]

Tigerlilly, I am not one for the "hope" stories, but I will tell you my situation...

DH had an SA done and the results were awful. 10 million/ML and only 3 million of those moved...but, very, very few of them showed any forward movement. My doctor called to tell me there was nothing else we could do and referred me to a specilaist for IVF.

I somehow managed a BFP this same cycle. I cannot tell you how, bc everything was stacked against us and I still don't belive it at all.

My DH's volume and morphology were good, but without the count and movement, I didn't care. Morph is a number that not a lot of clinics even use anymore and I wouldn't put too much stock into it; some clinics won't even test for it, including the IVF clinic I had picked.

We have woman on here who got her natural BFP at 2%. I think there are many other factors that go into it.

I am not trying to fill you with hope or give you the "it can happen speech." Those have always bothered me, what I am saying, is to not focus on that one number, but look at the bigger picture and see if there is somehwere you can compensate for it.

 

[tigerlilly]

OMG! hey hun. When did this happen? Thank you

 

[dachsundmom]

This week, lol.

My doc called me right before his holiday vacation to tell me the jizz was shot and to pay for IVF, lol.

We got the report, right in my fertile period.

 

[threebirds]

Wow daschund CONGRATS xx