Sooo.....

[Novbaby08]

I had given in and talked to Harley's biological dad. Claiming he wants to be in her life. Though I was basically told that i can't keep bringing up all the shit ive suffered through in the past because of him. I also cant yell at him. if i have a problem with him i need to be nice about it...so I gave in, after his parents harrassed me to give him another chance. He was suppose to come over today to discuss things, but was too "busy" so he is suppose to tomorrow and saturday, but he cant saturday unless he comes over tomorrow to work something out. Anyways I mentioned child support and he got mad, he doesn't think he should have to pay child support yet I should put up with his shit and finnancially support Harley all by myself, despite him visiting.But get this.
For child support all I was asking for.......200 dollars!
And he was mad and after ignoring me all day today pissed off I sent his sister this text:

"I've decided, tell tyler to forget about it, if he's going to act like a baby he doesnt need to see mine "

lol I'm glad I wrote it too!! I shouldn't have to put up with him at all. I dont know why im so stupid i keep falling back into considering him. Well here and now Im saying it
NEVER AGAIN!
And girls (and guys) if you ever hear me talking about him again, anything that even suggests im going to talk to him. Remind me of this. Remind me of all the shit. and how he's never really changed. im tired of being his doormat. nobody deserves to be treated the way ive been treated by him and his family.

 

[Lilaala]

Sorry to butt in but I honestly thing regardless of what happens in the future between the two of you you ought to get the government involved in making sure you receive the child support. He doesn't have a choice on that, he is 50% responsible for her being here and he's required to help support her.

 

[Novbaby08]

Yeah but the problem is....he's isn't even on her birth certificate...and he called. I told him he couldnt come. and he responded with...
"Goodnight see you tomorrow Ally! Give Harley a kiss for me too" *Click*
...now what?

 

[purpledahlia]

im not sure how the law works on child support over there? here the CSA can do it regardless of the father being on the birth certificate or not,

you should just tell him, if you wanna be involved in your daughters life, then your involved fully 110 percent, that includes finacically. if you cant step up to the mark then forget it. you cant call the shots is ALL or NOTHING. you let me know when you have decided to either be a man or a baby!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Just trying to catch up lol...So you sent a message telling him to forget it and then he phoned saying see you tomorrow? Is he deliberately trying to annoy you?? I mean you say just forget it you're not worth the shit your putting me and my daughter through and then he decides he's coming around anyway??!! I'd leave him outside the door and ignore him. Sorry but he really should be making more of an effort instead of you constantly giving into him through pressure from his family because hun, its just going to continue if he knows he can get his family to pressurise you and make you give him another chance then he's just gonna keep messing you and your daughter around knowing he's getting away with it.

I would put my foot down now...I would stop all contact with your daughter and mean it. Dont let him anywhere near you or her until he wises up, shows up when he says he will and when he starts providing financially for his daughter. He cant just see his child when he wants and not provide for her in any way!

Btw this is just my opinion! xx

 

[Novbaby08]

Well he didnt come over, I made it very clear to his family. I sent his dad this message:

"Look, I know you want things to work out for your son, but I'm sick of the bullshit. Everytime I get on the phone with him I have to hear a bunch of lies and bullshit. I'm not going to play his games. I was very nice to him, and yet it didn't keep him for telling me how stupid and crazy he thinks I am. I don't need to take that from him. I mentioned child support and he gets pissed off. Why is it fair only I am supporting her. He's lucky I don't demand back pay for the last year. I've been alot kinder towards him on that alone. I only was asking for 200 a month once he got a job. If he went through the court it would be 500-600 a month. Also he would have to back pay. I don't get how it is I'm the bad one with this. I really have been doing just fine without him around. I've adapted to being a single parent. Its not up to me to chase him down and try and get him into her life. Its his job now. I look forward to seeing you guys on Saturday but Tyler is not welcome here. I tried once again more then I should've I've given him so many chances, more then he deserves with the way he's treated me. And he walked away once again I will never give him another chance. At this point he's the one who has to live with the fact that someday Harley might be calling another man "daddy"
I hope to meet a guy who can give her everything Tyler wouldn't.
You sherry tristian and the girls will always be welcome in her life and I will always keep you up to date and let you see harley, but tyler is done. i'm going to move on with my life away from him."

 

[purpledahlia]

Good message, did he reply? i bet he feels ashamed at his sons behaviour!

 

[Novbaby08]

No he didn't reply. But he still is talking to me. Not about it though.