Sorry am venting !!!!

[spidergirl]

Hi ladies i am sorry about this but am so fed up i just want to cry . The reason is me and my DP have been trying for our for 3 years now and went for tests after 2 years of trying and found that my DP has a low sperm count so we where told icsi is our only hope of having a child. We where so happy when we got the phone call to say we could start are first cycle of treatment and i just started to cry down the phone was so happy could not hold my excitement in . I have found out the week i have my egg collection and embryo transfer is the week of my dads wedding i don't really get along with my dad as he is a bully and has been all my life. I told my DP that i didn't want to go as this treatment and the chance of our dream coming true means more than my dad and his wedding. Only my mum who hates my dad and my brothers have been on at me about it saying i should go i'll only upset everyone if i don't go my mum only wants me to go and spy on my dad. I don't know what to do as i feel they are all putting my chance of a new life at risk with all the stress i even locked my self away in the house as they wouldn't take no for an answer . I have told everyone that i didn't go through all this with the injections as they made me ill and all the heart ache of trying and getting a every month to go throw it down the toilet now just so everyone else is happy . My dad has had that may chances off me and ruined everyone so why should i put him before the chance of having a child. Any ways will leave it there i think sorry so long and thank you if made it this far xxxx

 

[LizzB]

Hi Spidergirl,

You poor thing, life has a habit of chucking everything at you at once doesn’t it?

The one thing I would say is that sometimes the dates do change. On my first attempt my EC dates moved back 5 days and on this one by 2 days (due to have it on Friday). Sometimes they can also get you to down reg by a few extra days before you start stimming, in order to avoid certain dates if you need to.

I was due to start stimming in November last year and the night before my mum broke her hip and I had to rush 250 miles to be with her. I went to the clinic before I left and they worked out a schedule that would fit around my holiday/christmas and being back home. They were brilliant, so perhaps if you ask them if you can down reg for an extra couple of days that might work? That is of course if you want to go to the wedding.

Also, bear in mind as to whether your cycles are always bang on time, my day 21(to start down regging) was later than I expected because my cycle jumped to a 32 day (not sure what protocol you’re on though). So obviously this put things back again by a few days. I am a complete control freak and love lists and things like that, so found it really difficult during our first time when dates changed. This time I’m more relaxed about it, and you know what, when you embark on this crazy journey there is nothing you can do about it, just follow what the docs recommend and when things change accept it and go with it.

It’s such an emotional time, so work out what you really want before anyone puts any pressure on you, then go with your decision.

Liz x

 

[MrsW2B]

Hiya Hun,

Sorry you are feeling this way, if I was in your situation then I think I would go ahead and have your treatment, life is not all about making other people happy, as you say your dad has had so many chances, you go ahead and take the chance in getting your BFP, I wish you all the best for the future

 

[puddycats]

as i known u personally, (sil to be) id tell ur dad that ur not going, simply as, as everything he has put u through, and if this is a chance of bein a mummy or going to a wedding you dont really wanna go and sit there bein a spy for people who have nothing to do with ur father anymore and havent for a long time and (have a new person in the life so ur father shud be no more concern of theirs), or a chance at getting one thing in ur life you want the most in ur life i sure as hell no which one i chose.

you was told to treat ur body like u r pregnant so in that case you dont need the stress and dont act false for the sake of others.

tell ur dad you cant make the wedding but if possible you will make the evening do if your well. and if u dont tough titties xx

PUT UR SELF FIRST for once, when u have ur and my brothers baby ur gunna have to get used to tellin ur family no (well apart from me lol ) as you will have your own family.

love u xx

(ohh i sound like a right bitch......horomones lol) sorry xx