Sorry another I hate fob thread

[lemontree12]

Sorry if I seem to go on bit this has been niggling at me all day (have to say I'm pretty impressed I haven't cried this time so

Ok had lunch with our mutual friend today I say mutual I met her ecaise she was his friend but from this experience she's stuck by me and refuses to stick by him! Anyway after the little episode at the party where all his friends ignored him my friend said that when she went to work monday he messaged her (they work at same firm) he dtarted the message with

Hey what was going on Saturday night, it's notthe small issue of the baby?
He wanted to know how everyone knew and why they where sticking up for me because they don't no me! He went on to say that he tried to sort this all out at the beginning as he offered to pay for the abortion!! Other things like because I decided to keep it (didn't refer to the baby as her but it) why should it ruin his life! My friend said to him that she had to sit in hospital with me which should of been his place his replied well I didnt ask u to! He even had the cheek to say how do u think my gf felt when she came to met everyone and was ignored!!

This boy never fails to amaze me!! The fact he can say those things to other people makes me believe he generally thinks he's doing the right thing and has no sense of what he was done to his own flesh and blood!!

I by no means every want to see this waste of space again! I actually question myself for staying with someone with morals like him for 4yrs!!

Thanks for reading I feel like I moan on about fob but it's just been bugging me all day! Like I said at the start I'm pretty impressed it hasn't hurt me emotionally because before I would of cried for days for less! So go me

 

[Dezireey]

You are not moaning, dont worry, what you have gone through is very hurtful, I know how it feels. Hugs xx

He is so wrapped up in himself, something a lot of these FOB's have in common with each other. Dont let his childish behaviour get you down. He is the loser in all of this.

 

[SilasLove]

It is truly his loss, and unfortunately if he doesn't want to be in the baby's life he doesn't have to be. Thankfully the courts will make him pay for his child if that is what you want. But unless some miracle occurs it doesn't seem like he will be coming around - especially if he doesn't even think he is in the wrong in the first place! smh

 

[lemontree12]

Yea I think the same! Kinda just resign to the fact my little girl will miss out on something every child should have! I hate what he has done to her!

I guess this is something that will only make me stronger and the bond I feel between me and my baby is amazing! I feel we have been threw so much together already and I ant wait to met her and give her the love plus more!

Thanks ladies, u never fail to give great advice c

 

[Blue_star]

He doesn't sound like a very nice person and doesn't sound like he wants to take any responsibility. Just work on you do things for yourself and your daughter Make yourself feel better. I don't consider his new girlfriend lucky he really sounds like a tool.

 

[dustbunny]

The other ladies have hit the nail on the head, he sounds like an immature prat and you are much better off without him. Stay strong, you are do an amazing thing.

 

[Deanna26]

He sounds like my ex, utterly deluded! Believe me you are ur girl sare mjuch better off without him, stop worrying about all the things she'll miss out on father wise and start thinking about the lucky escape youve both had and how you can concentrate on being a brilliant mum. The less time you spend stressing and being angry at him the better!

 

[lemontree12]

Thanks everyone! Yea I'm over him now! Just can't believe how selfish he is! It's all about him and not once thought about this little girl! I'm so glad I'm not with him anymore can't believe I actually spent 4yrs with a spineless ass like him!

Dustbunny, how things with u and ur little lady? Xx

 

[dustbunny]

Thanks everyone! Yea I'm over him now! Just can't believe how selfish he is! It's all about him and not once thought about this little girl! I'm so glad I'm not with him anymore can't believe I actually spent 4yrs with a spineless ass like him!

Dustbunny, how things with u and ur little lady? Xx

Really good thanks, she is a right little character. I have an appointment with the solicitors tomorrow to see where I stand and where FOB stands because he sent me some nasty letter demanding things and blaming me again and he gave me a deadline on Thursday just gone to get in touch with him which sounds a bit threatening to me so I am expecting some shitty letter from him again tomorrow. Will most likely create a ranting thread or something tomorrow knowing my luck of late.

 

[Laura2919]

He's really not worth it hun. You've been so much and he's not worthy of any attention, I'd simply just forget all about the twat.

 

[jemmie1994]

oh my god amazes me how these men can be so closed minded he just thinking about himself no one else doesn't realize he's just making himself look a complete dick....your well rid hun xx

 

[lemontree12]

Wow dustbunny! I don't get why he's doing this now but had little contact before hand! Keep us updated!

Yes I know it is actually all about him and his gf! When surely he should ask himself how me and this baby feels, after all we have been put threw hell for 6months! He has asked to phone me tomorrow to discuss paying money, but I said there was no need as uv nothing to say to him! If only 2weeks ago he was discussing sorting this problem (referring to my baby) out with an abortion i doubt he has anything positive to say! Il only end up crying down the phone with anger but somehow he will believe I'm crying because I'm in love with him or something! He can have my account details but there's no way I'm talking to him!

Does anymore no of some magic drink I can have to erase 4yrs of my life but keep my little baby!