Sorry, another porty training one- should i let her get on with it?

[DCS]

Dd is 2.5. A while back she was interested in the potty and following us into the bathroom. So i got her a potty and explained what it was for and just left it at that. She sat on it and used it a few times for a week. Then forgot about it. I should add, she only started talking about august time. A couome weeks ago i was out shopping and saw a peppa pig toulet seat so picked on up in preperation. She was very excited about it and insisted on trying it straight away.

Now my problem. The last couple days she has been asking to go on the peppa seat. She takes her trousers off, nappy of anf pops it in the bin, uses her steps to climb up to the toilet seat and sits for about a minute Before being " done". This last couple days she has been getting off and then asking to use the potty. Most of the day is spent doing this. She eventaully asks for a nappy. She says she needs a poo, but struggles to go . Luckily we have a bathroom downstairs so we keep the door open and she can just go as she pleases. She doesnt actually fo anything on the potty, she may wee on the toilet, but its hard to tell. She doesnt say anything. She has also started " wiping" and flushing today, so i figured id get her washing her hands aswell.
Should i leave her to it? We try to keep it casual, no pressure and just say its ok she can try again later. She obviously wants yo use the toilet so should i be giving her more of a push or do i just leave it and let her go at her own pace. Ds who is 5 now, just decided he was sick of his nappy being changed when he was 2 and 9 months and that was the end of it. Dd seems to be wanting to practice alot before actually getting it.

 

[CaptainMummy]

My dd2 was like this and dd3 is exactly the same. She tells me when she needs a wee or a poo. She will happily sit on the toilet but apart from the odd wee, she never does anything until her nappy is on (I am not training her yet, she just has her nappy off sometimes)
I don't say much about it to her, if she wants her nappy she gets it. If she wants to try the toilet then i let her.
Like I said, my dd2 was the same and when I decided it was time to get rid of the nappies (2y 4m) she was dry and totally reliable in 2 days. I think she got 'stage fright' the first day, because although she needed it, it took forever for her to 'let it go' but once she figured out how to pee on demand, so to speak, there was no stopping her.

Dd3 starts nursery this Thursday (5 mornings a week) so I am going to give her a few weeks to settle in and once she is comfortable there, I plan on ditching the nappies. I know she is capable, and nursery were absolutely brilliant with dd2 when we potty trained so I like to think they will help dd3 too.

Also, when I decide its time, I don't go back. I ditch nappies completely. Outside, naptime, trips etc we just take lots of changes just in case. Bedtime nappies yes but other than that its straight to pants (I haven't done the whole bare bottom thing, both dd1&2 have been fine with pants right away)

Basically, I think its worth giving it a proper go. Your dd is clearly happy to try, so maybe she just needs that extra push and hopefully it will click! Sounds like it might! x

 

[DCS]

Thank you. I did think ut could be stage fright. I did try suggesting she sit on the potty with her tablet( to help her relax. ) she ended up sitting for ages and still nothing. She had her nappy off for ages today going back and forth between the potty and toilet for about 3 hours, she just had a pair of trousers on ( her choice) and she didnt wee on the floor or anything. Iv also tried the pink sweeties ( one for wee 2 for poo) today. I think she was struggleing to poo so i thought that might help give her a reason to do it. She completely refused a nappy though for the whole 3 hours ish. I may suggest we go puck some big girl pants. She is desperate to go to school like her brother so i might try something along the lines of you have to wear pants to go to school ( actually true at our school) and maybe bribe her with a treat if she cracks it.

 

[dovkav123]

Your girl is ready for a potty train, she just need some encouragement. You must be very proud of her.
Before my boy turned 2, he sat on the toilet for 10 or 15 min each time and did nothing, played with toilet treats, smelled shampoos...and he had his diaper on all day. Just 2 months ago, I gave him a sticker every time he went potty and he glued them on his pot. It was a marathon, for a little drip he got his reward and it was every 10 min. Now I can say he is almost potty trained, he has his diaper on when we go out or at bedtime. He doesn't need stickers anymore.
I let him do his own game. I never pushed him to go potty, just reminded if he needs to go.

 

[adrie]

My daughter was like this as well. She started the process on her own at 28-29 mo, and I just guided her rather than trained her, if that makes sense. Initially she had issues w pooping, but then I just let her know that if she needed to poop she could do so on the potty and didn't actually need her diaper. I should mention that she initiated the naked training method herself and we did that initially and then switched to pants afterward. I really just took her queues with all of it in the beginning and then guided her as it seemed she was ready to keep going.

I took a very relaxed approach initially, still using cloth nappies when out of the house, but then got rid of them. Honestly, a no-stress approach is best in my opinion, an accident is just an accident. No big deal. She had maybe 3 wet accidents and no soiled accidents outside the home. She has been 100% trained day and night aside from a handful of accidents since July and was 3 in Oct. I remember when I was still using a diaper at night and if she had to pee she would say so and didn't even want to pee in her diaper. So that was a queue for me to try night training. She was about 32-33 months when I just went for it overnight and it's never been a huge deal. In fact, she was the one who would be distressed about waking up wet on the occasions it did happen. She would be upset and tell me to change her and the bed because of it. I would just clean her up, change any and all bedding needed, and she would go right back to bed. There have also been about 2 or 3 accidents where she actually woke up mid-accident and then used the potty for the remainder. I just never made a big deal either way but validated her feelings ("I know it's uncomfortable to wake up wet," etc., and got on with it).

 

[DCS]

Thank you. We have just been going at her pace still. She did a poo on the toilet the otherday. Like actually on the toilet seat. We said how that was almost inside and showed her where it should go and celebrated the fact that she was so close. She seemed encouraged. And has been trying regularly. She is teething her last tooth atm. So number poos are a bit random so have kept the nappy when she hasnt asked for it off. I might try and wait till halfterm week before going completely nappy free.