Sorry, rant!

[schnoodle]

sorry i advance i just dont know what to do.

im sat here crying like a baby again!

story is, hubby won some money at work £500. So as we havnt had a holiday in years we thiought we would have a look and see if we can get a cheap ish holiday abroad.

so i found a good deal, for about a grand to teneriefe for a week, lovely hoteland everything, have spenthours looking at dates and flight etc, hubby has been at work and he came home and i excitedly showed himwhere i had found and the prices etc andhejjust turned round andsaid, oh, i dontwant to go on holiday anymore i think we should wait and save it and just go away in this country for a weekend.

now due to my disability i cant walk far etc and a holiday relaxing in the sun is just what we both need as we have been through some right shit since we got married.

my grandad died while i was on honeymoon
while on honeymoon i got ill and havnt been able to work since
my uncle passed away very suddenlty aged 43 who i was v close to
my dad lost his job
his dad lost hisjob
10 weeks after honeymoon hubby almost died and needed tohave a colostomy bag
we had to move house to a crap place as imnit getting any money in and we are living on his wage
i am living on 40 popund a week benefits till i get it all sorted

thats just a brief summary lol!

so anyway,we thought a hol would be lovely but now he doesnt want to go buthe doesnt understand i cant walk around like he likes to on holiday so all we can do is go on a relaxing hol and do nothing for aweek.


but now he doesnt want to go. its just really upset me, im so lonely on my own i have lost a lot of friends through not being able to see them etc.

im just so upset i so need a break im cryiong my heart out and i cant stop.

i just want something nice to happen for us.


sorry.

 

[Mrs-C]

I haven't got any advice but didn't want to r&r.

Hope you feel better.

 

[honeysuede]

Hi sweet,

I am sorry to hear about your troubles, you sound like you do need a break. I hope it all works out ok for you
XX

 

[schnoodle]

thanks.

 

[Gemstar785]

Hello
Why don't you try talking to him about it and expressing how it would make you feel to have an escape from everything after all you have been through. Explain that it's the least the both of you deserve and you would get some nice quality time together, after all isn't life all about making memories? Chin up hun x

 

[schnoodle]

thankyou hun i have tried but he is so stubborn. he actually turned around and said that it was HIS money!

erm, ta love thanks for that, arent we married????

god whats up with me im so emotional!

 

[Minno]

I know it might sound odd - but have you thought about writing it all down to him in a letter? Trust me - I'm a doctor xx

 

[Gemstar785]

That sounds just like my partner! Never listen then turn round and basically call you selfish for wanting something for the both of you. Try and keep yourself busy, less time to think and be upset xx

 

[schnoodle]

i havnt thought about writing a letter actually! hed prob just say im being silly as usual!

 

[capricorn1]

 

[schnoodle]

to top it off i have nob burny my arm real bad on the oven!!!

someone shoot me!!!

 

[faerieprozac]

*hugs* hunny... men are stubborn xx

 

[BabiNo2]

sorry schnoodle, sounds like you have had a really rough time!! Hope you get your holiday away and can have some nice time relax. Good luck x

 

[Barbiebaby]

Perhaps you could say you'll compromise with him on a holiday here but stay in a hotel that has a spa or pampering bit to it! Let him go walking whilst you have a nice relaxing massage or facial. Sounds like you deserve it Hun!! I hope it all works out.

 

[schnoodle]

thanks hun x i would quite gladly give up all hope of a hol for a pregnancy but it doesnt look like thats happening either!

 

[Sumaspikey]

Men are so exasperating sometimes aren't they - mine will do that, say yes one day to something, I get my hopes up then he changes his mind and wonders why I'm annoyed!

Could you not compromise, like go on a cheapy holiday abroad for you (Teletext do some great deals) and then you'll still have some cash left over a country holiday if he still wants it.

That whole "It's my money" thing is a bit mean though, yeah, you guys are married therefore you're in it together! We used to have arguments like that, he'd spend money on himself, so I'd spend money on myself then we'd argue about it, then realise oops we now have no money to pay bills! When you live together it all goes the same way.

Sorry you're feeling down honey, hope you feel better soon xx

 

[schnoodle]

thanks hun, god it sounds like all we do is argue, we dont at all we love each other to bits!

 

[mummy_blues]

so sorry hunny. but you know what, think positive!
try to close your eyes and imagine that you are on vacation next year with a little baby in your hand and your dh. that would be your first vacation as a family.

if you ever come down to switzerland - lodging is on me

 

[schnoodle]

aww! thanks honey!

 

[ellieb31]

My DH is so similar! He won some vouchers through work and could pick what shop they were for. I was like THOMAS COOK!!! And first he said yes, then well it's my money, not sure if that's how I want to spend it.

We're going to Tunisia in two weeks.

Have another chat with him about it when you're both nice and relaxed. Explain why you need a beach holiday and I'm sure he'll understand. The problem is we think about these things so much that you tend to start the conversation half way through if you know what I mean. So you probably think that he knows exactly how you feel when actually you've not explained it very well. Although that might just be me!!