Starting to lose hope..

[Leannxo]

Me and OH haven't been trying very long my periods are irregular. i have a doctors appointment the 26th i recently was convinced i was pregnant the test even said i was and i went to the emergency room today cramping and they said there was no way i was pregnant or have even been pregnant in the last couple weeks. OH doesn't understand how fustrating this is he keeps saying its ok baby it'll be our turn soon enough. Then as soon as they tell us were not pregnant the nursery rhyme comes on cause a baby was born. sorry for the rant

 

[Pamcakes]

I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles, it's horrible and tough and no woman sholud have to go through it. It's hard to find the strength to keep going and not lose hope but we have no other option so you need to keep going because the end is worth it!

I was told at 17 I would never have kids, saw every gynaecologist in the area and even outwith, several operations later and they're now saying there is a slim chance, only been trying a few months (since I got married) and this month I too convinced myself I was pregnant. The mind can be a cruel thing at times! I sobbed for hours when I took my period on Friday.. but your partner is right you can't lose hope and you can't give in so take a while to get your head around it all, relax, pamper yourself a little then try again.

I felt my husband didn't understand either, and it may sound a little pathetic but we have the "baby diary" now, where if I'm having a really bad day and can't get what's in my head out of it in a way he can understand (I tend to speak very quickly when stressed and my poor english husband can't keep up with my scottish tongue) I write it in the book. It's also proven we taken in the written word easier than spoken so as Mark reads it he can really appreciate all that I'm saying and then we can sit down and talk about it.

I'll be praying for you and partner, and hope that one day soon you get that long awaited good news!

 

[redrose89]

I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles, it's horrible and tough and no woman sholud have to go through it. It's hard to find the strength to keep going and not lose hope but we have no other option so you need to keep going because the end is worth it!

I was told at 17 I would never have kids, saw every gynaecologist in the area and even outwith, several operations later and they're now saying there is a slim chance, only been trying a few months (since I got married) and this month I too convinced myself I was pregnant. The mind can be a cruel thing at times! I sobbed for hours when I took my period on Friday.. but your partner is right you can't lose hope and you can't give in so take a while to get your head around it all, relax, pamper yourself a little then try again.

I felt my husband didn't understand either, and it may sound a little pathetic but we have the "baby diary" now, where if I'm having a really bad day and can't get what's in my head out of it in a way he can understand (I tend to speak very quickly when stressed and my poor english husband can't keep up with my scottish tongue) I write it in the book. It's also proven we taken in the written word easier than spoken so as Mark reads it he can really appreciate all that I'm saying and then we can sit down and talk about it.

I'll be praying for you and partner, and hope that one day soon you get that long awaited good news!

I like that you do that, with the diary. Thats really cool.

I know the feeling about losing hope. I had a miscarriage in March, been trying ever since. Everytime I get AF I go into a depression. It's hard, but we all will get through it.

 

[Pamcakes]

The diary was hubby's idea actually. I was going from one extreme to the other, ranting to sobbing poor boy was getting whiplash! It really has helped, not just with ttc but other thing too

Really sorry to hear about your loss, I've never been through it so can't begin to imagine how tough that must be.. knowing how upset I get over periods, well you must be super stong to be here and sharing so well done! Keeping fingers and toes crossed that you get the news your looking for soon and all goes well! x

 

[Leannxo]

thank you both im sorry to hear about your loss.. the mind is very cruel at times.. i feel like i've let everyone down but its more my self then anyone but the good news is OH is buying me a ovulation moniter which im excited about lol

 

[Stinas]

Im sorry to hear how frustrated you are. I know exactly how you feel! I have irregular periods as well.
Its super annoying and upsetting! You just need to keep your head up!
Good luck!

 

[RosePetal29]

thank you both im sorry to hear about your loss.. the mind is very cruel at times.. i feel like i've let everyone down but its more my self then anyone but the good news is OH is buying me a ovulation moniter which im excited about lol

My OH is looking at me wierdly because I'm tearing up over the computer. Just wanted to say you have NOT let anyone down. Really, really hoping that the fertility monitor works for you.




xx

 

[Pamcakes]

I just want to echo what RosePetal said.. You have not let any one down! Try to stop those thoughts because they lead to a horrible road! Lets hope the ovulation monitor is a grand help and your sharing good news with us before you know it!

Take care
P-x

 

[silvershadow]

pamcakes - i just wanted to say how pretty you look in your d/p.
and i totally get how frustrating it all gets, i'm all over the place and just dont know what to do anymore.