Starting to sink in....

[amitootold]

I got my BFP 11 days ago. Its been a long journey to get here and please don't slate me for this but when I found out, I felt very resentful. I am 41 and had been told I had a 1% chance of conceiving naturally in September 2010. Me and DH accepted this and to be honest, got on with our lives as we could not afford IVF and were only given a 5% success rate anyway. We had made plans and were settled. It was such a curveball to be pregnant that its really only just hitting me I might be a mum by the end of the year!!! I'm worried about m/c as I already had one in 2009 and birth defects/downs because of my age. I have only told my DH so far and have decided to tell my best friend tomorrow so it now feels exciting and for the first time since I found out, I am feeling positive and hopeful Anyone else shocked and unsure how they felt when they found out?

 

[henrysmumkaz]

Oh wow, I can't at all imagine how you're feeling. I just wanted to stop by and say MASSIVE congratulations and I wish you a very happy and healthy 9 months

 

[MissDimity]

congratulations !!!!
I have my fingers crossed for you for a healthy 34 + weeks ahead

 

[cantwaitforu]

Hi amitootold,

I just got my BFP this morning after being told this past Monday that my hormones are so inadequate my doctor doesn't understand how I'm even ovulating and have a 'regular" period. I spot approx 4 - 5 days before AF arrives. I learned that my FSH and LH are not ever at the proper levels they should be throughout my cycle. this concerned him and he wants to send me for an MRI to make sure I don't have a pituitary tumour (very common with LH and FSH dysfunction).

He also decided that I would be in better hands with a Fertility Specialist. By Wednesday of this week, I had an appointment already set up.

I didn't get my regular spotting this month. AF was due today and there is zero sign of her showing up. My temps was still up this morning, no spotting, so I took out my hpt, and got a bfp.

I don't feel resentful. more confused, shocked, scared, excited and almost in denial. I can't believe it happened just like that after this crazy journey I've had.

I'm only 30, and have been ttc for 9months, but it has been a very stressful, emotional and depressing journey.

DH and I are thrilled that this has finally happened, but neither of us fully understands!

 

[MissyBee]

I found out because I'd missed my period, I have an irregular cycle though so I thought nothing of it. A week later with no AF still, and I was worried, so was my boyfriend. So we bought a HPT and sure enough... My initial reaction was screaming profanities and crying. A lot. I'm only 20 and I wasn't ready for this to happen. I'm happy now, though. I quickly decided I want to keep my baby. I've thought about it a lot and my boyfriend and I, although young, are financially stable and have our own home already. I realized that a baby will be a blessing, so I am really excited now

 

[babyhopes2010]

when got bfp after mc i didnt feel excited

but im soooo happy now xx

 

[GemBaxter]

I can totally relate.

I was told it was unlikely I would conceive naturally due to endometriosis and I lost an ovary at 19 due to a cyst. Periods were painful and the best thing to do was to stop them all together.

We got married in March and decided to come off all contraception for as long as I could handle the pain. In September I found out I was pregnant and felt dreadful about it. I had started a part time uni course the day before I found out and we had booked the most amazing holiday. All of a sudden I was angry that my life had been turned upside down when I had spent so long believing I would not have children. We too could never have afforded IVF.

By 12 weeks I was diagnosed with a serious case of antenatal depression and it was a daily occurance for me to be begging my husband to let me have an abortion - I am totally against this too.

I never really connected with my son and hated my pregnancy for it all. The first few months I then went on to develop PND and took me going back to work to feel like me again.

We decided to ntnp after our son and in December we were blessed with our second BFP. I feel completely different this time because I was not being fed a line.

I would definitely advise writing down how you are feeling each day and do not feel embarrassed or ashamed to talk about it. Take it one day at a time and make changes - try not to focus on all the "changes" that now have to happen because a baby is on the way.

Not sure if any of this helps but please do msg me if I can help in any way. Or if you just want a chat.

and finally.....CONGRATUALTIONS!!

xxx

 

[Sweet_Mama]

I was in complete and utter shock to be pregnant. I already have 3 kids, and 3 surrogate babies... this was SO not planned. I had just moved to a new area for a new job in a new career and was driving back and forth every weekend to see my family (who had not yet moved with me--didn't want to uproot the kids yet)... this was just the topper on the cake as far as stress... I really think it took me about 5 months to come around. I only recently started planning on what I need and I'm 31 weeks now. Don't get me wrong, she is a very loved baby, just the shock and timing really threw me off, you know. I was done. Factory closed. NO MORE BABIES... guess there was a bigger plan.

 

[MissyBee]

Duplicate post, sorry

 

[miss cakes]

just popped in from third tri and want to say congratulations!!!

 

[padbrat]

Hiya.... i can so relate to you!!

After many years if TTC we had given up... I have a translocated chromosome and was told that pregancy would be unlikely and complicated. So in 2006 we moved to Germany with hubby's job. During a standard check up they discovered my thyroid was dead and put me on thyroxine... told me it would take 6 months to work....exactly 6 months later to my shock I was pregnant!! I also got pregnant in Nov 07 and May 10 and lost all 4 babies (middle one was twins).

So, I went to see a horrible RMC and he told me I would probably not be able to carry a baby and give up. What an ass!!!!! (sorry)

In Sep 10 we moved and I went and cried to my new GP and she sent me to see an Obs and RMC Specialist in a new hospital...more tests!!! So my new genetic specialist said that my eggs were completely duff.... Hubby's sperm (cos of all his cycling - he is a triathlete) need a bloomin map to figure out where to go!! They said we need egg donantion..... SHOCK!

Eventually we book our appt for a consultation for ED.... 1 month before we are due to go..... I randomly POAS.... and get a BFP!!!!!!!!!!!

I am 38 and like you scared to death of my age... my genetic issue means boys are not good for me... am crapping myself... am on a cocktail of drugs to help this baby courtesy of my lovely Obs and weekly scans and meetings with her...

We are not saying anything to anyone until we get the all clear at 12 weeks... praying we get the all clear...

Sorry this is along ramble, but thought you should hear the whole story to know you are not all alone in all this....

My Battle Bud Minty Peas is 41 and just about to have her second baby girl in 9 weeks who is perfectly healthy....... there is hope for us.

 

[amitootold]

Thanks so much for your replies ladies. I have felt so guilty reading how over-the-moon everyone is on here to be pregnant and wondered if anyone was having to 'take a breath' like me to take it in. I am really coming round to it now, as is my DH who was totally speechless when I told him (a first) and I sometimes still think he wonders if I am being serious lol