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My daughter's father and I were never married.
To put it blatantly, it was a fling.
He's been married to another woman since my daughter was 6 months old and now she's 5 years.
I have zero resentment as far as that is concerned.
My issue here is that I feel like this woman is overstepping her boundaries.
She has my daughter refer to her as mommy.
She broadcasts whenever she can about how my daughter is one of her children.
Her father takes a backseat and step mom pretty well handles most everything.
She takes visitation time often when I've found out my daughter's father was not even home.
They speak terribly of me. They threaten to take me to court to get full custody. They have been a source of so much resentment when I just want to raise my daughter.
I have never denied visitation. I have taken care of my daughter completely by myself for 5 years other than the visitation here and there.
I am livid about this woman blatantly owning the title of my daughters mommy.
She may have married my daughter's father but she did not birth my daughter or raise her.
I have been more than civil and I have not outwardly voiced these feelings to anyone but my SO.
But I am fuming.
My SO doesn't have her call him daddy and I have never ever even tried to force it.
I never called my step parents mom or dad naturally or by being told to.
And I don't feel like this is naturally coming from her. I feel like she is coached.
She has said things like "(name) is my other mom." like she was told this.
And talking to her dad would get me no where as they don't much care what I have to think.
I feel like I'm going to be told that I'm being selfish and that "more love is better" or that I'm overreacting.
But my heart hurts so much because I've busted my ass as a single mom with no help and she can just waltz into that role.
Anyone else have any experience or advice?
As of right now, I'm brushing it off while seething inside.
For the record, I have not said anything to my daughter about it or tried to discourage any relationships.
I just want the respect I feel I deserve.
*rant over.. for now*
To put it blatantly, it was a fling.
He's been married to another woman since my daughter was 6 months old and now she's 5 years.
I have zero resentment as far as that is concerned.
My issue here is that I feel like this woman is overstepping her boundaries.
She has my daughter refer to her as mommy.
She broadcasts whenever she can about how my daughter is one of her children.
Her father takes a backseat and step mom pretty well handles most everything.
She takes visitation time often when I've found out my daughter's father was not even home.
They speak terribly of me. They threaten to take me to court to get full custody. They have been a source of so much resentment when I just want to raise my daughter.
I have never denied visitation. I have taken care of my daughter completely by myself for 5 years other than the visitation here and there.
I am livid about this woman blatantly owning the title of my daughters mommy.
She may have married my daughter's father but she did not birth my daughter or raise her.
I have been more than civil and I have not outwardly voiced these feelings to anyone but my SO.
But I am fuming.
My SO doesn't have her call him daddy and I have never ever even tried to force it.
I never called my step parents mom or dad naturally or by being told to.
And I don't feel like this is naturally coming from her. I feel like she is coached.
She has said things like "(name) is my other mom." like she was told this.
And talking to her dad would get me no where as they don't much care what I have to think.
I feel like I'm going to be told that I'm being selfish and that "more love is better" or that I'm overreacting.
But my heart hurts so much because I've busted my ass as a single mom with no help and she can just waltz into that role.
Anyone else have any experience or advice?
As of right now, I'm brushing it off while seething inside.
For the record, I have not said anything to my daughter about it or tried to discourage any relationships.
I just want the respect I feel I deserve.
*rant over.. for now*