Still don't know what to do or think....

[louise85]

I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago after FOB had just split with me. When I told him he thought I was making it up to get back with him and said some nasty things such as I feel nothing for you, I want nothing to do with you or the baby.

A few days later he said sorry it was the shock and maybe we should try again, everything was fine for just over a week (through texting and facebook, we live an hour apart), talking about the baby saying he was excited and would always be there for me and support me no matter what, then he came up to see me and decided the next day he can't be with me.

It's now been a week, and the nastiness has come back, he's hardly text me and when he has its to say its a mistake to bring a baby into this mess, and it's gonna have a shit life. Although he says he will be involved with the baby (at weekends because of the distance) we are not gonna be together which is fine I just wish he would show a bit of caring and support.

I don't know if he's saying these things to guilt me into having a termination (which won't work) and maybe he'll come round once he realises that.

I just don't know what to think or do!! Sorry for the essay!!

 

[purpledahlia]

He sounds very scared, But its no reason to be a dick to you,

If you are planning on keeping the baby i would just get on with planning to do it alone, leave him to come round to the idea which im sure he will and he will learn the hard way. If i were you i would just start to save and sort things out, Ignore any nasty remarks from him and let him carry on with it, hes only gonna regret it later on and feel like an idiot when he sends nasty messages if you dont ever reply.

Id just plan to do it alone get things organised, and see if he comes round, thats the best we can do. x

 

[louise85]

He only texts me if Itext him first so maybe I should just leave him to get in touch with me. It would be nice to be acknowledged though!!!

I just don't understand he's saying he'll be there for the baby, but surely that starts from now and not when their born!! I don't know if I' gonna go through the whole pregnancy by myself and then he's just gonna swan in after the birth!! He won't have a civil converstaion with me about what exactly's gonna happen, maybe he doesn't know himself yet!

He's just hit on the fact the only reason I'm keeping this baby is because I think he'll give us another chance, I just want him to bloody be there!!

I don't know why they think everything revolves around them, its his 1st child too, I thought he'd want to be more involved with everything xx

 

[purpledahlia]

some guys just dont know how to handle it, the FOB in my situ didnt speak to me from 8 weeks till i was 19, and from 19-about 28he was all over the place, wanted to be involved then didnt n stuff, now he does. so id say hes prob really scared just now.

If you just plan to do what you gotta do from now and dont contact him then he will see its def gonna happen and he will have to face up to the reality! Id just leave him to get on with it, x