Still haven't told OH I love him...

[EricaH]

I know this sounds strange, considering we're having a baby together. But don't get me wrong, I'm completely head over heels for him, and getting pregnant just further cemented that fact into me.

We've been together since about October/November. It's been kinda rocky. The last relationship I was in was over a year ago, and the guy was a total jerk to me. I lived with him for over a year and a half, miscarried his baby because he had me so stressed out I couldn't even hold food down, I was always throwing up (even when I wasn't pregnant). Fast forward to new relationship. It's been quite a whirlwind romance. I'm 22 and OH is 26, and we just KNOW we're meant for each other. We have the dumbest things in common, everything down to this weird fast heart rate we've been in the hospital for before. I've never been in love like this. Even with my high school sweet heart I was with for around 5 years.

In the beginning, he had not to long before me broken up with his ex of 5 years. (I'm pretty sure he broke up with her for me, but we haven't discussed it yet). After a few of dating, him and I broke it off because he missed his ex and because it was scaring him how fast he fell for me. Even though we broke it off, he didn't want to get back with his ex. I refused to speak to him, until I found out I was pregnant, a day before his birthday. We were inseparable ever since. I ended up miscarrying and we got pregnant again 2 weeks after my MC. Things have been absolutely perfect. I have no doubt in my mind he is no longer talking to the ex.

But I'm still too scared to tell him I love him. This sounds lame, but I haven't been the first to tell anyone that. How do I say it? I wanted to wait till I was drunk (romantic, I know) but now thats not going to be happening for a while. I know he loves me too and we're so alike, I'm sure he's just too scared to tell me as well. I mean, we're having a baby together, he's going to be moving in soon, and he's been soooo phenomenal with taking care of me through all our ordeals and now through the pregnancy.

Any advice ladies? How in the hell do I tell him? Should I even tell him?

Sorry for such the long post!!!

 

[PrayinForBaby]

If you love him you should tell him! What if (heaven forbid) something happens to him before you get to??? My momma raised me with 2 BBBBIIIIGGGG values...1. Never go to bed angry, resolve your issues before you lay down your head and 2. Tell the people you love that you love them everyday, even when you're mad at them!

Get on it girl!! lol

 

[PrayinForBaby]

Oh and as far as how, just say "ya know, I dont know if I've said this or not, but I really do love you." and leave it at that!

 

[EricaH]

Thats what bothers me, I was raised just like that too! So when we're laying on the couch together going through baby names, or just face to face staring each other in the eyes...It's right on the tip of my tongue, but I don't get on with it!

 

[jrc10]

Aww, that's so sweet! You should just do it hun. Do it when you feel like you'll explode if you hold it in any longer...that's how I've always known when to say it.

 

[halas]

i'de just out of the blue say i love you lol but i blurted it outto my oh woth ut even thinking lol when i first told him then was like huh what did i just say we had only just strted dating to

 

[daniellelk]

The only time Iv told my OH I love him is when Iv been drinking :/ and I think my OH as only told me he love's me when we'v had a huge row and he's told me on a text.
Infact he told me once on holiday last year, then the next day told me he didn't mean that he was in love with me just loved me. Nice way to spoil a holiday lol

Anyway im dying to tell him I love him, to his face, but it's so hard, even tho we are having a kid together, have lived together for just under a year and been together aslong as we have, Im still scared of rejection lol

Try and write him a letter?
I keep writing one for my OH with all the reason's why I love him in it....but then I destroy it :/

 

[rainbows_x]

Aww bless
I am normally never the first to say I love someone, I've only ever loved two boyfriends. When I started going out with my OH I knew loved him very ealry on!
He took ages to ask me out though, and when he did we had been seeing eachother for ages. We were laid in bed one night and I almost said it, he noticed and said "what were you going to say, go on say it, if you do I will say it too".
So yeah, that gave me the courage to tell him and he replied straight away.
It's such a nice feeling when you finally tell him, so just say it when you want to

 

[AnnabelsMummy]

i dunno.. my OH said it to me, and it kinda just came naturally.. but you could just grab him and say something like "i've never said it before, but i actually do love you" and whether or not they say it back (which i think is what is the scariest thing) - the look on their face says it all..
sometimes when me and OH are in an arguement and i say it to him - he choses to ignore it cause we're in an arguement, but i can see his facial expression changes, and i know that he really wants to say it back (he's just stubborn)
xxxx

 

[PrayinForBaby]

just do it...i knew from the moment i laid eyes on my DH that I loved him...literally...sounds cheesy but I just knew. And within 3 or 4 weeks of dating I told him that I really wanted to tell him something but I was afraid I would scare him away, and he turned to me and said 'I love you'....so of course this huge sigh of relief came over me and I told him I loved him back and we have said it countless times everyday since then But of course, we did move quick, lived together within a month and a half of dating, engaged at 4 months and married on our 1 year anniversary! And everyone thought it was because I was pregnant then (which I wasn't and never was then), we were just in love and didn't see any point in waiting...Now almost 4 years later, we're still together, still happy as ever, and expecting our lil girl in a few more weeks! Life couldn't be any better!

 

[AngelzTears]

Aww! You should definitely tell him! I tell my OH that multiple times a day, it's so fun to get to say it to someone

 

[kodi]

aww you should do it
i remember when me and my OH were lying on his bed he was staring into my eyes and came out with "i love you...TUBE" LOL but waited a bit to say tube..dick haha
i was like waaaa...idiot.
he went thru as many as he could youkalali however u spell it, then finally said "i love you." and i waited and waited for the next word..and nothing..what a fooll..maybe just mess around with him...im sure he loves u 2 and your both waiting for the other to say it

xxx

 

[Lizzieeeee x]

Aaawww, i tell FOB every day that i love him, every night before i go to sleep. BUT we have been together 2 years

The first time i told FOB i love him was one night i had n agument with my dad and i went to Dannys house, his parents had gone out and i was crying to him and he was cuddling me, I put my head up, he wiped my tears and said "i am always here for you babe" and i just said "I love you"

Tell him at your scan when you both see your baby, look at him and (if he is like my OH) he will probably have tears in his eyes and just tell him that you love him. xxxxx

 

[bbyno1]

it was really weird with me and my OH.i met him for the 1st time and after spending the day together it was like love at 1st sight! its crazyy but i felt like i loved him already! (bearing in mind i was only 15 lol) anyway after the day we spent together (we wernt gf/bf) he was going away for 3months..i come home crying my eyes out tellin my mum this boy i love is moving away n iv only just met him she was like theres not much you can do then but anyway i ended up sending him a text saying please stay in contact i love you! i know its stupid but i just HAD 2 say it!
til this day i love him so so much.now im 21 haha it was the 1st boy i ever told i love x