Still not Telling... poor mum!

[sethsmummy]

OH's family would have bullied it out of him tbh! Which is really unfair but they would have. So I'm glad we don't actually know (though I think its a girl lol) xx

i couldnt do the whole not knowing.. lol i have to buy right things pmsl.

My friend said shed bully it out of me.. but shes another thing coming if she thinks ill give in. If she keeps at it ill just tell her if she doesnt pack it in she wont be there when im in labour x

 

[Mummy May]

Hahahaha I would threaten her with that too xx

 

[sethsmummy]

hehe yup i know it will work because she really wants to be there. I had to seriously put my foot down with her coz she wanted to be there right through and wouldnt listen when i said she has to leave at 8cm, or if we miss that when i hit 10cm. or if there is any complications lol x

 

[AP]

We didnt tell our MIL and she was convinced we were having a boy. i think because we already had a girl she assumed we were trying to surprise everyone but indeed we were having a girl too. She used to talk to DD1 saying she'd have a brother and all, and we just stayed tight lipped

 

[sethsmummy]

hahaha im glad my lil guy cant talk properly yet! because i ask him where his brother is.. or if hes got kisses for Ethan before he goes to bed lol... he would spill the beans for sure if he could xx

 

[AP]

Yep theres was a positive for us there too!

 

[sethsmummy]

lol its the one time im thankfull he cant talk.. im buggered when does eventually and to say hes almost 3 it cant be far off that he starts talking properly... i dread it them ... haha bribe him with sweeties

 

[MileyMamma]

I think she is trying to get you to spill the beans, well done for sticking to your guns!

 

[sethsmummy]

Thanks hun. I am determined to make it till i give birth. want my dad to open up the blanket and discover what it is x

 

[MileyMamma]

Thanks hun. I am determined to make it till i give birth. want my dad to open up the blanket and discover what it is x

Aw that's such a lovely way of gender revealing!

 

[sethsmummy]

Thanks hun. I am determined to make it till i give birth. want my dad to open up the blanket and discover what it is x

Aw that's such a lovely way of gender revealing!

Thankyou

my poor dads wanted a surprise with every grandchild but some1 has always spiled the beans (my sis has 4 and i have 1). So with this one i thought id i dont tell anyone theres no chance of it ruining the surprise for him and as long as he comes to the hospital once baby is born he can be the first to find out. x

 

[misspriss]

I don't know how you can keep it a secret! I know we couldn't, we just aren't going to find out!

 

[mrsholmes]

I have to be honest I think you should tell her, she's wasting money and it could spoil the surprise when she finds out its a boy and she's wasted all the money on girls things. You have gender all over your signature here and name so it's not that much of a secret someone could come across this through google.

It also sounds to me like she really wants a grand daughter may be a good way of getting used to it

 

[sethsmummy]

I have to be honest I think you should tell her, she's wasting money and it could spoil the surprise when she finds out its a boy and she's wasted all the money on girls things. You have gender all over your signature here and name so it's not that much of a secret someone could come across this through google.

It also sounds to me like she really wants a grand daughter may be a good way of getting used to it

none of my friends/family are pregnant so i cant see them finding this forum. They'v no reason to look. I use the forum as my way to let off my excitement for a boy so i dont get tempted with friends/family.

as for her wasting money.. it was her choice. She knew fine well i wouldnt tell anyone what the gender is and went and bought clothes anyway.. its not a grand daughter thing as she already has 2, and 1 of those is her favourite grandchild so theres no real excitement for my baby. I dont see why i should tell people just because theyv bought clothes.. my friend was told the same yesterday.. if you wanna buy clothes then its your own problem if its the wrong thing. Iv asked everyone to buy neutral things since before i found out.

At this point in time im wishin i never found out at all... and at points wishing i hadnt gotten pregnant... spent half of early hours last night in tears because everyone is stressing me out telling me and arguing with me about whats happening with MY baby. I'm sick to death of justifying my decisions with people who have no right to butt in with my pregnancy and my baby ( and thats not towards people on here... i ask for opinions on here... i dont from my friends/family) My best friend had a full blown argument with me in a shop last night because i told her there is no way in hell she is staying in my 2 bed apartment from a week before my due date and after baby is born. She had the ordacity to growl at me "so you expect me to try get from mine to yours before the baby pops out" .. at the time i said no ill get a taxi to hospital if need be... now i wish id just said well you damn well want to be there during labour. ARRGGHHHH sending her an e-mail today to ask her nicely to back off a bit since i cant be dealing with this crap.

 

[edigirl82]

Oh sod everyone else, it's YOUR baby, YOUR body, YOUR decisions. I think you're perfectly justified in keeping the gender to yourself, and yes if people don't know the sex and still insist on buying pink/blue clothes then it's on their head if they are wrong! Your friend really needs to tone it down, as if your main concern is how she is going to get there! You have enough to worry about and she should feel honoured that you're allowing her into such a special moment in your life. Big hugs and keep your chin up! X

 

[sethsmummy]

Oh sod everyone else, it's YOUR baby, YOUR body, YOUR decisions. I think you're perfectly justified in keeping the gender to yourself, and yes if people don't know the sex and still insist on buying pink/blue clothes then it's on their head if they are wrong! Your friend really needs to tone it down, as if your main concern is how she is going to get there! You have enough to worry about and she should feel honoured that you're allowing her into such a special moment in your life. Big hugs and keep your chin up! X

Thanks hun. I just hate all this stress, its meant to be a happy time. Everything just seems to be getting to me just now. I now need to try and word a "nice" facebook message to ask my friend nicely to back off a bit and respect what I want like i would if it was her.

She was meant to be taking me to the hospital, she offered i didnt ask. Hense why she has my sons car seat in her car. So for her to say that really annoyed me. But to be honest if she doesnt want to travel to my house thats fine by me.. as it means she might not be there for any of my labour. If i dont test possitive for Strep B this time i can labour at home for most of it... and by the time i get to the hospital and someone actually checks how far gone i am then it might be too late for her. Only other problem i then have to think of is if my mums gna pick my little guy up from the hospital .. and if not... then i labour and birth by myself while hubby looks after him. I will be seriously pissed if that happens though as mum promised shed look after him and my folks dropped everything for my sister for her first 2 labours/births and her 4th one.

All i wanna do is sit and

 

[sethsmummy]

well after keeping it to ourselves... we ended up telling my sister, my mum and his parents.

we were at my sisters and hubby blurts out "your b" to our son before he caught himself.... so since my sister now knew decided to tell my mum under the promise it goes no further and he told his parents under the same promise. will be very peed off if they tell anyone else and my dad ends up finding out.

 

[Mommabrown]

Oh hun. I couldn't imagine how hard it was to keep the secret but then again you want something for you two so it is your own little secret surprise. Well maybe since the cat is out of the bag she can return what she already bought.

 

[sethsmummy]

Oh hun. I couldn't imagine how hard it was to keep the secret but then again you want something for you two so it is your own little secret surprise. Well maybe since the cat is out of the bag she can return what she already bought.

yeah she really had spent a fortune on pink.. was taking it back yesterday in the afternoon (told her in the morning). We had both almost slipped up a few times.. but that was the biggest boo boo Iv decided to still not tell friends or any other family members though so we still have our surprise.. and hopefully FX my dad will be none the wiser x

 

[ChezTunes]

Aww, nooo... I know I would be the one to make the booboo first here! Bless your DH. Well at least she could return her stuff in time and I really hope they keep it to themselves for your dads sake!