sorry zoe that you're going through this. i'm in the same boat, but "luckily" in that sense, i'm single, so have not too worry about it too much right now... although i miss a man on my side, but with THAT downstairs, i'm very much afraid to even consider dating.
my daughter is 14.5 weeks old now and i noticed after 8 weeks that something wasn't right. yesterday i sat down in front of my big mirror and looked at it more closely.
YES, i've been stitched too tight. there is tissue where there shouldn't be any, as i can still see the perineal area from before and instead of it being flat, the new tissue makes a little "hill", so it went too far. if i stretch it with my fingers, there's nothing to be stretched. the skin left is just not enough to stretch and it is an uncomfortable feeling. i have no clue how there ever should a male organ fit inside of me
i also have two skin tags that look like new skin close to the perineum that i have no clue where they are coming from. it looks like (sorry way TMI) another clitoris just on the wrong side
since i'm over in the USA and not insured, there's no way that is going to get fixed anytime soon, but from my point of view it will require some kind of surgery.
sucks!!!!! i guess that's what i get for having such an amazing birth experience!