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[QuintinsMommy]

ugh so tired today!
I have my appointment with financial assistance in an hour
my aunt is driving me (thank god! the building is in the city and like the other side!) so it would take me forever to get there. lol (I live in a small town just outside of 2 bigger cities)

2 stone isn't bad at all becy..

I'm up to 45 pounds i think thats like over 3 stone!(if im right)

 

[QuintinsMommy]

11 January babies!!


Well 2 more babies have been born! Tiggercats had a boy on the 11th december but was due 11th january.. and RT&theBean had a boy called Oscar on the 12th december but was due on the 6th january and there will be another one to make it 11 babies tomorrow Hondagirl is being induced she was due on the 7th january.


Everyone seems to be getting induced early lol
im tad jealious​

oh my god.lol
I want my baby to stay in there! I don't feel ready yet

 

[Becyboo__x]

Im not ready but i really want my baby now i just want to hold him and see him and everything lol and everyone popping there babies out early is making me really jealious even thought i really want him to stay in abit longer! I havent weighted my self in a while i think i should probs put like another stone on spesh after christmas!

Good luck at financial place ! glad your aunt is driving you there aswell!

 

[QuintinsMommy]

ya, I'm excited to see my baby and hold him but at the same time, I'm so scared of everything! I'm scared of labour, and being a mom.
maybe I have like end of pregnancy jitters? like cold feet? lol.

 

[Becyboo__x]

Another january baby lol..
Sazzle123 has had a boy called Issac Lee on the 28th december she was due 2nd january

 

[annawrigley]

ive only been measured twice so far, at 25 weeks and 28 weeks xx

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Anna I didn't even start being meaursed till after 30 weeks,

okay so UPDATE
so I had my appointment, and it was so stupid!
they said they can't give me any money for being pregnant because I'm almost not pregnant, but they can't give me money for the baby cause he isn't here yet!
I emailed the landlord to see if she will go any lower with the rent.
My aunt said asstance will pay for my last months rent, so I would just need enough to cover 1st and the cost of start up for electrity I only have... 260 dollars
I have NO idea what im going to do as of right now

 

[Jas029]

ok..
WTF!!!!
So as you guys probably know I moved into a different room since becoming pregnant and we had all the big stuff moved afew weeks back but I still had afew shelves downstairs that was full of china dolls/jewelry boxes and such that I have gotten from special people in my life..
Also had a bunch of little "notes" I had written when I was angry and I don't burn them or throw them away like most people instead I kept them in hidden spots around my room such as underneath one of the dolls and such...
Well.. My dad clears all the shelves off and puts most of it in this one big box and packs my dolls away since we're moving in a few months anyway..
I just went through the box today and one of my little dolls that I got from my great uncle is broken, A jewelry box that's EXTREMELY fragile that I've had since I was little I can't remember which old lady gave me it the lid for it is all broken..
!!!!!
He just had all this extremely fragile stuff thrown into this box to haul upstairs for me to go through.. I'm surprised not more stuff is broken.. It makes me so mad he never even told me he did it and I'm scared to death of the condition my dolls are in.. I really don't even care for the stuff but almost everyone that gave me that stuff has passed away so I still like to hold onto it..
Even worse is I don't know what he did with the notes or if he read them and threw them away I was hoping he maybe put them in the box but he didn't..
Also I had a box wrapped in a little piece of cloth from my first boyfriend and the box made it up in one piece but the cloth is no where in sight and it was wrapped around the box with a rubber band and the rubber bands broken and I'm scared he threw that away to!!

I want to go down and look around but he moved everything in that room and has it set up as his little "man cave" now and I'm scared he threw the notes and cloth away and they meant alot to me and I didn't want to let go of them just yet.. I really hope he didn't read the notes

-Sigh-.. When we moved into this house a few years ago and in the process of moving out of my old house he bumped into my bookshelf and a doll that my cousin gave me fell and her leg broke.. He told me he would fix it and here we are over 3 years later and it's still broken.. My cousin died at the age of 23 in a car crash when I was 10.. She was the first person close to me that had passed away and it was really hard for me to get over her death and that doll meant the world to me..
Now he has all my dolls given to me by like her and my great grandmas shoved away in some tiny box I'm so scared he damaged one again I should have been there when he was moving all that stuff I'm so mad he never mentioned anything to me or asked me about the notes or ANYTHING in that room for that matter..

I'm sorry to rant I'm just so mad and scared I want to cry thanks to the hormones.. I'm nervous to even ask him about any of the stuff because if we get in an argument I'll end up in tears anyway

 

[QuintinsMommy]

awe jas, I'm sorry about your stuff

I have good news! i talk to the landlord and she said she could lower the rent for me by 50 dollars! soo I'm getting closer to have enough money. ahahha.

 

[Becyboo__x]

Jas .. i hate it when anyone goes throw my stuff i absoultly flip if something is missing or been moved! this is why i never let anyone in my room if they want something they ask me but my sister used to take stuff out my room like clothes and makeup and jewerelly and stuff like that and not bring them back! iv lost so many new stuff because shes took them and keept them at uni so i never see them again .. this is why im so glad shes gone back again now wel i hope she has! I know it isnt the same as your situation Jas like all the valuables and stuff but id be so angry if that happened to me!!

Finally doing the babys room friday when my dads off ! and itll get done as well have friday,sat and sunday to do it proper happy and were having a massive clean out over the weekend for when we move houses (wel when my mamars house sells and she buys ours lol!) iv turned into a clean freak now think its nesting though!

Got kinda upset earlier found out Jox on here has lost her baby she was due like 6days after me and she was from same area as me and we was going the same hospital and was going to meet up reduced movement she said and she went to see her midwife and they found no heartbeat so shes taking a tablet and being induced 2nd jan just cant believe it proper shocked me

Preggo glad shes lowering it for you thats good news!

x

 

[QuintinsMommy]

I know I saw her post its soooo sad, I feel so bad for her

 

[Becyboo__x]

iv been talking to her since like start of pregnancy aswell just really got to me

 

[QuintinsMommy]

iv been talking to her since like start of pregnancy aswell just really got to me

 

[Jas029]

Aww that's horrible.. I'm afraid something like that will happen with me..

Also Becy I'm the same way I HATE people going through my things I was the same way I hated having anyone in my room because a couple of my cousins were so nosy and always looked through stuff..
I honestly can't trust anyone completely even with people that trust me so much.. I've always been like that..
Normally I'd never let my dad clear off my shelves atleast before I was able to get things I wouldn't want him to find moved but being pregnant it's way down in the basement down steep steps and I just hated the idea of doing it and figured he'd just let me do it..
Then suddenly he walks upstairs with a box of my things and says to go through it and he cleaned off the shelves and everything and so I kinda panicked..

 

[Becyboo__x]

Wel my dad usually if we move stuff like were going to friday and all weekend he asks me to put stuff in boxes but then leave the boxes when iv done them so he can lift them cause hes very wary of me picking heavy stuff up lol bless him but i think with me its a privacy thing probs is with most people tbh but i just rather handle my own things instead of someone else but my dad wouldnt like me going through his stuff either so same thing really ! .. It just windes me up when someone moves things and dont tell me where theyve moved them to or if theyve thrown them away without asking!

All im going to say now is if any of you have reduced movement or notice anything different get in touch with doctor/midwife cause i really dont want anyone else to go through a loss of a baby theres been too many i just want my LO out now so hes safe and could be monitored if he had to be instead of in my belly where i dont have a clue whats going to happen next if that makes sense

 

[Becyboo__x]

Right question for anyone or everyone..

What are you doing about the birth certificate are you putting FOB on it ??
i dont even know how it works here tbh.. i actually now dont want FOB on it as all the past is coming back up where stupid things happen i was with a guy who i had sex with and it was at the start of when i was fertile and we didnt use anything.. and then we split up petty arguement and my ex before him(jay) i ended up sleeping with him drunk mistake used protection but it split .. was a stupid mistake but that was on the day i ovulated! so like everyones told me have a dna to be sure but i cant afford one tbh and he looks more like jay so iv been going by that both guys knew from the start i told them.. but i dont have a clue what to do about the birth certifcate tbh i dont know if we are even allowed to leave it blank cause in my notes it says father is jay ..

Im confused about what happens with it all i dont know if the laws have changed either that you have to have a father on it ?

 

[QuintinsMommy]

well I'm not sure how it works there
but here I can put "unknown" even if I do know him, and my doctor has his name,
so I'm putting unknown, but I am still taking FOB to court for child support
his name doesnt have to be on there.

I found out today that FOB moved like 5 hours away....so I guess he wont come to the birth.

 

[Jas029]

He never even told you he just moved away?

I'll probably put FOB name on there just because he wants to be involved in Riley's life..
Speaking of him I talked to him today and he's actually over me now and isn't so totally crazy about me since I haven't seen him in so long and he even claims that he wouldn't have his hands all over me if we were around each other in person yay!

 

[QuintinsMommy]

ya, he never even said anything about moving away, i didnt know.


he claims he wont have your hands jas.. lol but you never know.

 

[Jas029]

Yeah I know..
When I do see him I'll have to watch him