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[QuintinsMommy]

hehe, i hope you guys can be friends^-^

 

[Jas029]

well that backfired.. It's a long rant I'll just post it in the other STM section..

 

[Becyboo__x]

Hmm i dont even know what to do.. the health visitor is coming to visit me on wednesday and shes going to ask about fob and i dont know what to say shell ask like his name and just like his background iv been told.. but i dont know what to do cause if i say hes not being involved shell prob still want his name .. and if i say i dno who the dad is i bet shell ask if im having a dna test done im so confused what to do id rather put on his birth certificare unknown for the dad .. i know i dont have to register baby str8 away iv got like 42days after hes born to do it but i just dont know what i can or cant do and i hate explaining my situtation to people just makes me look bad tbh

 

[annawrigley]

jas i know its not really the same thing but i HATE people moving my things. im really OCD about it as well,i notice when anything has been moved.
my best friend stays over at mine pretty much half the week (im not sure why so often, i dont really know how to say no ) and she always goes to get ready before i get up cos i like sleep lol, but then when i go into the bathroom shes like used all my stuff and it does my head in
like yesterday i did all my washing, washed my towels and my face towel so theyd be all nice and clean for today, also bought some new foundation yesterday cos my old one had ran out (now i know why it went so fast ) and went into the bathroom to get ready and my face towel was wet so obv had been used, my foundation had been opened and USED !!! there was a big finger mark in it! she didnt even cover her tracks lol my face wash and stuff had all been moved cos it was all in different places and there was a big foundation mark on the towel which obviously wasnt there before cos i washed the towels last night and havent used them since then.
i was soooo angry!! i just find it really rude..

preggo thats good about your rent

thats so awful about the lady who lost her baby
i might sound naive but i didnt even realise you could lose babies this late on tbh i knew about stillbirths and stuff but kinda thought they were really really rare... will definitely be monitoring movements closely!

birth certificate... hmm it took me a long time to decide but i am gonna put FOB on. mainly because of child support, it will make it alot easier to force him to pay if hes on. also it just seems the right thing to do to put him on
becy, look into this but im pretty sure you can get a DNA free. my FOB went to a solicitor to get his ex to have a DNA done and she had to pay but he got the cost covered because he was the one who instigated it. it might also be because hes still in full time education but make a solicitors appt (dont think it should cost you anything for just a consultation type thing) and im sure theyll be able to explain it all, pretty sure the solicitors fees were all covered too!
or if your health visitor is coming tomorrow you could ask her about it all? like getting fees covered and stuff? cos i know he didnt have to pay a penny and its pretty much the same situation.
either way i really think you should get one its up to you of course but the dates are quite close and itll put your (and FOB's) mind at ease if you do
xx

 

[EmziixBo0o]

Its alright

And hes alright hes started to actually kick me again now he stopped and started with the rolls lol but i got a huge kick yesterday like he was trying to say ''Mummy let me out of here!!!'' iv never had a kick that hard before hes a naughty baby lol.. i feel loads better though no more painful hip thank god! im still getting odd pains though and shooting pains but i dont think its a sign of anything ill be overdue just watch lol!!

Hows your bump! anything new happening? i cant wait still to know what your having to say him/her instead of bump or him/her lmao !!

Awwwww!!!!

bless.. just getting pains in my side of my back, not sure if its becus of that little crash?

Hehe i noo
14 days
i think
well
nearly haha xxxx

 

[Becyboo__x]

Im just worried cause if its not jays whos supported me and everything then i dont want him to know his dad cause i hate him and i would never let him never near a child any child hes got violent and drinking issues ill leave it as that. But aswell jay is 17 in january.. and you have to be 18 to do the dna on your own.. hell have to have parents permission to go ahead with it and he doesnt want his mum knowing hes going for one.. id just go ahead and say hes jays and everything but if he isnt its not fair jay having to pay child support .. i dont have a clue what the health visitor is even going to ask me and im abit worried what to even say to her i can see her being funny and one of them stuck up people im thinking to get my mum to come to mine when she comes just for support cause my mum knows the situation and everything.. im just abit too shy with new people and i think itll be hard to say about i dont know who the dad is .. although i could just make it easier and say jay is the dad to the health visitor cause not like itll mean anything? grr im so confused im so stupid i wish i just knew who the dad was x

 

[Becyboo__x]

Yay not long now! when say it in days it seems closer but then you put it into weeks seems ages away! .. like its 21 days til my due date (22nd january) and thats 3 weeks! lol but i could be 2 weeks if he comes around the 15th .. xx

 

[EmziixBo0o]

what if yu say it was a 1 night stand and u dont know who the dad is?Xx

 

[Becyboo__x]

Cause if babys jays he wants contact but i dont know what the health visitor actually does.. i know she asks things about me and then fob's background but i dont know where the info carries on till or if it does but tbh jay wont even be around much hes guna be working and at college hes only going to see him every now and again as hes not having him at his or anything.. i might just tell her its jays when it comes to the birth certificate i dont know what to do.. god this is such a mess but aswell i had to have it all out with him last night cause he knows about it might not his but its more likly and everythin but i said its pointless him coming to the birth cause he was only going to wait in the waiting room anyway and it will be just the same seeing him after im home and stuff i just dont want him there if hes not the dad but then if he is then its not fair to keep him from it god i just wish i wasnt in this mess x

 

[EmziixBo0o]

say u dnt no hu the dad is bt u want ur best friend on birth certificate.. n say its jay x

 

[Becyboo__x]

I cant do that though cause if hes not the dad its not right putting him down and hes got to pay child support if that makes sense

dont worry its a huge mess i shunt ov even sleept with jay it was a drunken mistake but then again if this baby is jays then i dont regret it lmao cause then baby would never be alive ill have to sort something out might have to tlk to my mum and see what she says im just totally in the blue what to do
x

 

[EmziixBo0o]

bt if ur styl not sure hu the dad is with the 2 lads..
maybe u r best 4 them 2 do dna? 2 no 4 sure?xx

 

[Becyboo__x]

I dont know anything about dnas though people say home kits can be not true results.. and then proper ones cost 150 quid.. and i havent a clue about free dna tests .. cause theres not going to be a solicitor involved with all this i dont think .. i might just say hes jays and fuk it if he dont look like him or anything then its his fault as he wont do a dna test anyway because he needs parents permission as hes not 18 x


Oh and the other lad i dont speak to havent for like 7 months and hes got another gf.. who lives down the road from me!!! and ehs blocked me on facebook hahaha stuipid nob

 

[EmziixBo0o]

=\
awww mayneee .. ohwell jus seehow it goess xx

 

[Becyboo__x]

Tell me about it its all my fault anyway if i never did owt with jay i would either not be preg or id know defo who the dad was spose least jays sticking by me even though were not 100% sure but the only prob with it is jay stil loves me and now im going to be stuck with him having contact with me cause of the baby and hell think something will work out and its just not guna cause i dont feel that way for him and as much as i tell him all this he still keeps telling me he loves me and wont stop annoying me with it and i end up sayin truth that were just mates and it hurts him so its my fault again grr stupid lads! .. x

 

[EmziixBo0o]

tel the truth wen they ask
say u think it may be jay x

 

[Becyboo__x]

I think im just going to say its jay to the health visitor cause tbh she doesnt do anything she dont need to know alot of stuff and even if i lie to her not like its a crime tbh.. its just the birth certificate when i register baby iv got to be truthful there but i can have it as unknown and then have it updated at a later date .. i think cause iv read it on that direct.gov website going to have to find out about it all i think lol

x

 

[QuintinsMommy]

DNA test here are like over 500 dollars! eeek, I'm not sure how much that is in the UK cause our dollar is not worth much ahaha but if I'm right FOB will have to pay for it and if I'm wrong I pay for it, so I pray I'm not wrong

I know here you can just leave it as unknown, I'm starting to get things ready to bring my FOB to court. My little brother has not his "real" dad on his BC but he still has to pay support.

Good luck becy.
How close together was that you were with both guys?
I was with my ex then I had AF then was with "FOB" for 4 weeks, then the week before I took my HPT I was with someone else.lmao.
so I know it can't be my exs and its a very unlikely I got a BFP so soon if it was the other guy.
sorry that it sounds like I sleep around, when I got pregnant I was having a very hard time trying to get over my ex and I was being foolish

 

[Becyboo__x]

Dont worry about thinking you look bad .. weve all done stuff that make us look bad but i dont care anymore people can think what they want of me i dont sleep around tbh.. but these 2 guys i was with one and we split up like january time and then i got with the other guy in march i think and and in april i sleep with the current boyfriend and then week later i sleep with my ex but me and the boyfriend at the time split petty thing .. and i got drunk and met my ex which i wish i never did lol .. so its too close the only thing i know is the boyfriend at the time i sleept with him when i was just fertile but then i sleept with my ex the day i ovulated

 

[QuintinsMommy]

awe that sucks becy
=(