Struggling with DD being behind at the moment

[RachA]

I kind of feed stupid posting this when I know so many of you have lo's with proper issues but I'm feeling a little low at the moment.
Esther is 4 in 2 months time and at her last assessment was put at around 12-18 behind so currently her 'age' is 2 1/2 - 3 years-give or take.
She is definitely improving-she is very chatty but we still don't have sentences. During her last half term at pre-school she was getting much more involved which we are really pleased about.

However I am just feeling generally down about her. I guess it's highlighted by friends who have lo's who are only 18-24 months who are talking better than Esther etc. And also general threads in the toddler section about children's progress - obviously I don't expect people not to share how well their lo's are doing as I know it's my issue and bit theirs but it does make me feel bad - especially when their 3 / 4 year olds know more than my 6 year old who isn't behind at all.

Sorry for the rant - just really needed to get this off my chest.

 

[mummy2o]

I use to think like that. My son is about 12 months to 2 years behind on different skills. He's 6 and just about on the same level as reception children and he'll be in year 2 next term. But then I thought about it and decided if I had a child who didn't have all these delays we wouldn't celebrate each achievement he makes like we do now. In the last 12 months he's learned how to go to the toilet, read level 1 books, can say words you spell out to him even if you have a big pause between letters (other kids his age can't so its nice he's ahead on something!), how to under dress and redress himself with a lot less help (only getting trousers in the right legs now to work on), he knows his home number if he gets lost and he's currently learning to write his name.

I think as we don't automatically expect him to know how a child his age should be despite seeing it all the time I think each milestone is more important and he gets more praise, love and attention, not just by us but his TA and speech therapist also. DS has a friend who's 4 I think and she's more advanced than him in certain areas, but see him on a computer and he's ahead of the class there! Could be as its been his special interest since he was 18 months or so >.<

 

[sequeena]

Hey she has a genuine problem the severity doesn't come into it. This section if for all special needs there's no test to make sure you have enough problems so don't feel stupid

I completely understand. T is developmentally around 10 months old. It sucks. I get angry, guilty etc. Sometimes I can't bear to read threads where los are doing well other times I love reading them.

It's all up and down some days are better than others. One day our los will do what other kids of their age do. Until then we're all here to support each other when we are having a rough time xx

 

[mummy2o]

I saw this and thought of this post.

 

[RachA]

Thank you all
We all have good days and bad days. I guess for me it's all been building up over a few weeks until I really needed to get it out last night. Thanks again.

 

[angelae36]

I hope you feel a little better soon.
I know exactly how you are feeling and of course we all have bad days - mine are more bad than good lately.
You're doing an amazing job and Esther is a beautiful happy little girl.
You have all the help that you can in place for her. With that and you helping her together, hopefully she will blossom over the next few months.
xxxxxxxx

 

[sequeena]

I feel like that too. The last few weeks have been bad especially with T being an awful sleeper but I am more relaxed now. We're human, things get on top of us and special needs kids aren't easy

 

[essie0828]

You are normal in feeling a bit overwhelmed. It's hard to cope with all the specialist and educators.

 

[sparkle_1979]

I understand I have a little girl the same age. Nursery told me just this morning she's very young for her age. I see all the other children writing their names, she can't do it at all.

My little girl does not really attempt to play with the other kids, she's super shy.

It's hard I know xx