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MamaToLilyLucyAndLila<3
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so, lilys father was (and still is) in the military.. and i've known him all my life.. every remembrance day has been important to me because to me, he was the face of our military..
he left us... wanted her aborted. and since her death hasn't contacted me at all, in fact we stopped talking 2 or more months ago..
i'm struggling.. it's stupid.. because i have other military friends.. and i support our troops.. and i love the military (i even planned to join before i got pregnant) but right now.. all this day is doing is making me angry.. why did he leave us? how could he fake our love? how could he not care about his own child? how could he throw away 17 years of friendship? why would my baby die when i can't ttc again? it's not FAIR that he doesnt have to feel the pain i felt.. he wasnt there when the doctor told me she had no heartbeat.. he wasnt there when my contractions started... he wasnt there when that awful popping feeling happened..(i can only assume this was her sac breaking as it came out in pieces)... he wasnt there while i squatted over a bucket in my bathtub having contractions and bleeding.. he didnt hold my hand in the ambulance.. he didnt hold my hair when the morphine reacted badly.. nothing.. he hasnt laid her to rest. he hardly acknowledged her life...
i dont want to hear about how "all of our soldiers are brave and honorable men" because some.. (or one at least) are cowards... and theyre souless heartless creatures.. i support our troops.. i support my army buddies, but wearing a uniform does not MAKE you a hero..your character does.. and he doesnt deserve the thanks that is being given to him today..
sorry if i offended anyone.. not intending to, i understand what it means to love a uniformed man.. and to the wives and families, you are all heroes for standing by them..
he left us... wanted her aborted. and since her death hasn't contacted me at all, in fact we stopped talking 2 or more months ago..
i'm struggling.. it's stupid.. because i have other military friends.. and i support our troops.. and i love the military (i even planned to join before i got pregnant) but right now.. all this day is doing is making me angry.. why did he leave us? how could he fake our love? how could he not care about his own child? how could he throw away 17 years of friendship? why would my baby die when i can't ttc again? it's not FAIR that he doesnt have to feel the pain i felt.. he wasnt there when the doctor told me she had no heartbeat.. he wasnt there when my contractions started... he wasnt there when that awful popping feeling happened..(i can only assume this was her sac breaking as it came out in pieces)... he wasnt there while i squatted over a bucket in my bathtub having contractions and bleeding.. he didnt hold my hand in the ambulance.. he didnt hold my hair when the morphine reacted badly.. nothing.. he hasnt laid her to rest. he hardly acknowledged her life...
i dont want to hear about how "all of our soldiers are brave and honorable men" because some.. (or one at least) are cowards... and theyre souless heartless creatures.. i support our troops.. i support my army buddies, but wearing a uniform does not MAKE you a hero..your character does.. and he doesnt deserve the thanks that is being given to him today..
sorry if i offended anyone.. not intending to, i understand what it means to love a uniformed man.. and to the wives and families, you are all heroes for standing by them..