Struggling...

[FLU77ERBYE]

Hi Ladies, I have been split up from my Ex since I was 7 weeks pregnant. We've spoken on a couple of occasions, but it's always ended up the same way a massive row and him leaving. I am 34+4 and I'm really starting to feel the strain of being a single mummy to my DD and being pregnant and suffering with SPD.

I have seen him a couple of times, we've past each other on the same side of the street and looked at each other like we didn't know each other. Last time we spoke face to face he told me he never wanted the baby, that the baby wasn't even his but the final straw was when he called my son 'That thing in your guts' I was heart broken that his own dad called him that. But I have been strong for so long, and now I'm closing in on my EDD I'm starting to crumble. I keep looking at my 4D scan and all I see is his dad and it wrenches my heart every single time.

Jorja's dad has been a total life saver, he has been my rock and we've spoken about getting back together but he's told me he can't because he's scared of the baby because he's not his, I think he's scared to love him incase the other gobshite shows his face. I have made my choice I want the baby to have nothing to do with him, I want no money nothing. I know it's going to be difficult. But how do you ladies manage? I am over an hour away from my family, No car since some divvy crashed into me last August, I'm just feeling so isolated and alone. Sorry about this depressing post.

I'll share the picture that I send to his dad. I just don't know what to do. I know I'm going to have to cope. But how?? xxxx

 

[angelpkj]

you will do it
it is managable
my fob said similiar things about LO
it cuts like a knife i know just keep your eyes on the light at the end of the tunnel when you have LO in your arms take every day as it comes and it gets easier emotionally mainly

 

[teal]

You will manage just fine Sounds like you're much better off without someone like that. When I was pregnant with my son I was worried about him being a mini version of my ex/fob but you honestly won't care when he's here xx

 

[Dezireey]

You will have a wonderful son who will love you so much and you will reap the rewards of all of that in the future e. g extended family when he grows up, the fun times and the bond, being a grandma etc, etc. The poor excuses for FOB's that a lot of us have are the ones who will lose out big time. Family and having people to love and love you back keeps you sane in life and grounded. Deprive yourself of that and end up lonely and old with no-one to love you or take care of you and they only have themselves to blame. You will be far happier in life than he will ever be, that is a fact. I say let them lie in the beds they made for themselves. You will be fine hun and you will love your little one and he will worship you too I'm looking forward to having my boy.... if only he hurries up and arrives!!

 

[Fraggles]

You will do it. I have 2 young children 14 months apart. I work 30 hours a week and dont drive. I love my kids and yes it is bloomin hard sometimes and yes I sometimes think I wont manage but I do. You'll surprise yourself when your inner strength comes out.