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AbbynChloe
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I always ask myself "what the hell is it going to achieve?" always come to the same conclusion - Sweet F**k All
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I decided it was on him to check on me. He didn't. I was so hurt/angry that I had no problem not contacting him once I realized that. Even now with the baby here, I don't contact him 1st, ever. He made me feel like a piece of sh!+ when I was pregnant with his child, I won't give him the chance to make me feel that rejected ever again.
Thank youYou know, I might start a journal to force myself to stay strong...x
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Oh I know what your going thru. I saw my FOB when I was 7 weeks, that was the LAST TIME. FYI Obviously, we weren't officially a couple but pretty damn close. and afterwards I knew he was pretty shocked and floored so I had this feeling that that would be the last time I saw him on my way driving home. So I texted him a week later saying "Whats up? Do you wanna watch a movie" because he told me we were still on okay terms. I waited a week because I figured he needed space. but he never texted me replied back or called. So I told myself to just wait until he gets ready to contact me.
One week went by. Then 2 weeks went by. One month went by. Then 2 months went by. Then 4, 5, 6, 7 months went by and I literally WAITED. Lol. Through TEARS, PAIN, ANGER, HEARTBREAK, YELLING at myself, praying to GOD...I waited through ALL THAT. I can't tell you how hard it was not to go to his house and knock on his door or text him or facebook him..lol..I can't tell you! but it was HARD and PAINFUL.
But now 8 months later I can honestly say it does get easier. Day by Day. You just STOP. Even when your fighting tears and loneliness..Just don't do it. Took me 6 months to finally stop crying, and thinking about him so much. I'm still hurt but I've learned to accept that it is what it is.
Sorry I can't give you an easy pain free answer. lol. Nope, it hurts like hell until you learn to let it go.
One week went by. Then 2 weeks went by. One month went by. Then 2 months went by. Then 4, 5, 6, 7 months went by and I literally WAITED. Lol. Through TEARS, PAIN, ANGER, HEARTBREAK, YELLING at myself, praying to GOD...I waited through ALL THAT. I can't tell you how hard it was not to go to his house and knock on his door or text him or facebook him..lol..I can't tell you! but it was HARD and PAINFUL.
But now 8 months later I can honestly say it does get easier. Day by Day. You just STOP. Even when your fighting tears and loneliness..Just don't do it. Took me 6 months to finally stop crying, and thinking about him so much. I'm still hurt but I've learned to accept that it is what it is.
Sorry I can't give you an easy pain free answer. lol. Nope, it hurts like hell until you learn to let it go.
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I deleted everything, but I had memorised his number way before that, so I still gave in time to time. I tried changing his name on my phone to all sorts, but that rarely helped either. I put notes up around my room reminding mysel not to contact him and all the reasons why... While I was PG, I rarely contacted him because I knew I wouldn't get a response, I was right which obviously upset me and eventually I didn't want to contact him anymore.
In the end, I realised that he needed to get involved of his own accord, and me contacting him would either scare him even more or make him feel obliged to be involved, which would probably just make him feel trapped or forced, and he wouldn't enjoy it.
I think until you can get to the stage where you don't want to contact him, it's gonna be hard to resist. I'd like to hear from FOB, but I'm not pushing him into anything.
In the end, I realised that he needed to get involved of his own accord, and me contacting him would either scare him even more or make him feel obliged to be involved, which would probably just make him feel trapped or forced, and he wouldn't enjoy it.
I think until you can get to the stage where you don't want to contact him, it's gonna be hard to resist. I'd like to hear from FOB, but I'm not pushing him into anything.
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My LO is 6 months old and it's finally getting easier. We won't talk for weeks on end, then he will start blowing up my phone, calling 10+ times a day, but the second I call or text him, he won't answer, won't respond and disappears off the radar again for a few weeks. I can't put myself through that anymore, so I finally blocked him on FB and didn't give him my new number. If he calls on my parents land line, I answer, but I never initiate contact anymore. Really, once you get a week or two of no contact under your belt, it's much easier to avoid from there. If he's anything like mine, he has a lot of drama and chaos in his life and it's rather peaceful to take a break from all his BS.
I've had months and months on end of crying and pain and heartbreak, but it's finally getting through to me that he's not going to change and he's never going to care the way I want him too. Give it time....and if you DO slip up and contact him, just reset the no contact clock and try for a better record next time!
I've had months and months on end of crying and pain and heartbreak, but it's finally getting through to me that he's not going to change and he's never going to care the way I want him too. Give it time....and if you DO slip up and contact him, just reset the no contact clock and try for a better record next time!
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