Stupid things people have said to you! (a chance to vent!)

[2Dogs1Cat]

OK, Ladies! Let's here it!

We have all heard stupid stuff said to us about not having kids yet or how to get pregnant... so, let's share so that we can all have a collective giggle and a little understanding from those that have been there!

Let's here those terrible comments, insensitive remarks and horrible home remedies!

So, I'll start!

If you relax and don't think about it it will happen!
Go on vacation!
A friend of mine started adoption and BOOM, she got pregnant!
It'll happen when it it supposed to.
Give it time!
Have you tried acupuncture?
Have you read...
Maybe it's just a timing issue.
You should eat...
You should not eat...
Maybe in the back of your mind you don't really want to...

I think the more of these we have already read from others the more forewarned we are when we really here them out loud!

My standard response to the above? Sometimes to just nod but, sometimes, when it really gets me I just stare at them for an uncomfortable amount of time and then say: Did you really just say that?

With love and hopes of bringing a smile to your face!
Sara

 

[PR&TR13]

Great Idea!!!

So a couple of the ones you said and one I heard the other day.

Don't get your hopes up!

Seriously good luck with that

 

[ineedaseed]

the nurse at my doctor surgery has suggested to me on about 3 occasions now that i get a puppy!!! apparently thats what she did after ttc for 2 years and she got preggers.....
last time she said it i said " you have told me this before, my cats dont like dogs"

 

[ineedaseed]

i dont bite my tongue anymore, when i get someone say something ridiculous, unfortunately i go straight on the defence and shoot them down with the fact i have tried just about every trick in the book, 4.5 years on and never a sniff of a baby!

 

[keyahopes]

After 8 months of TTC when I asked my doc if there is anything I should be doing differently, she said "Just relax, have some wine...".

Hmmm, if that would get me pregnant, I'd happily drink a gallon of wine. And if I wanted to hear this advice, why would I ask a health care professional? I'd rather ask nosy Aunt Jane or my next door neighbor.

Busted Kate (from bustedplumbing.com) has the perfect answer for "relax it will happen" and similar advice.....

Ans: I tried that, it gave me Ebola !!!

 

[keyahopes]

Some other awesome links:

https://www.999reasonstolaugh.com/2010/09/722-just-relax-and-it-wont-happen/

https://www.999reasonstolaugh.com/2010/04/778-please-dont-give-me-pregnancy-advice-if/

 

[lupinerainbow]

Not exactly related but it makes me angry when people are like i have been ttc for 2/ 3/ 4 whole month im so depressed i thought it would happen straight away! And when people say it will happen when the time is right/ your time will come/ just relax and it will happen!
Btw i have just got a dog and been ttc for nearly 2years hopefully it will mean i'm gonna get my bfp this time!


xxxx

 

[Nightnurse]

What are you waiting for? - ummm was I suppose to check with you on a time limit?
Is your man shooting blanks? If so,I'll help you.... - well NO THANKS
Pray? - Been there done that and I doubt god still does the Mary and Jesus thing,I think we still have to put the effort in it

 

[PR&TR13]

My husband has a nasty old co-worker who told him he'd donate his sperm?!?!?! WT.....?!?!?!? My DH told him what makes u think u can keep up with her if u've fallen asleep on ur own wife (something he confessed to the guys).

PS he doesn't even know we r having trouble but u know how men together talk crazy stuff.

 

[MariaF]

Oh, good one!

My Mother has a big mouth so most of her friends know about our troubles So every time they see me they come up with advice, along the lines of:
If you want to get pregnant, use opks - you;ll fall the same month
Try this - take your BBT when you first wake up!
You should put your legs up in the air after sex
Oh, you shouldn't have sex every day - every 2 days is perfect...! etc, etc

I mean, really?! When you've been ttc 15 months surely one should realise that we have tried EVERYTHING! The thermometer has been my best friend for about 12 months and I spent hundreds on opk's. And I don't even want to mention the acrobatics I tried after sex

Trouble is, when you tell them that they look really lost and don't want to believe you because they are convinced that had you done what they told you, you'd be pg in no time......

 

[portablechick]

keyahopes - thanks for the link to 999 reasons! i had come across it ages ago and loved it - then couldn't remember the name of it. Just had a good catch up - she is so refreshing and uplifting!

 

[Reilley]

Heard it just the other day, it was a familymember who told me this: "well if it won´t work it won´t work...be happy that you do not have to spent money on the pill for the next decade"

 

[susan_1981]

What annoys me the most are people with kids when they play up and they say to you: "And you want kids???". It's patronising and a stupid thing to say. I almost want to ask them why they had children in the first place then!

 

[Leila Fae]

What annoys me the most are people with kids when they play up and they say to you: "And you want kids???". It's patronising and a stupid thing to say. I almost want to ask them why they had children in the first place then!

Oh yes, I've had this too - mainly from people at work as few of my friends have kids yet.

 

[chan221]

What windes me up is when people with children just moan all the time and not appreciate what they have.

Oh and one doctor said to me lose weight, I said but i am its slow and so so hard. He replied......well if i locked someone in a cage with just water they would lose weight!!!! This was a couple of years ago when I just started TTC I was 12stone so nothing major, but I wrote the biggeesstt complaint lol.

Or when people try for one month and start screaming and moaning theres something wrong with me, acting like one month is long.....then next month they are pregnant.

Oh I love to vent sometimes hehe x

 

[2Dogs1Cat]

I know! Or, when people get all odd around you:

"You know, having kids is the biggest thrill of my life...oh, umm, sorry, Sara... I forgot...I...umm, how are your dogs?"

Yeah.

Yeah.

Honestly, it's why I don't tell most people, I'd rather them just talk to me normally and I will appreciate the irony of what they have just said!

Like my friend who said, "You know, I love him but we were torn between having another or getting a new car... sometimes I wish I had gone for the car!"

Really? Here are my keys, I'm sure your son will be happy with me!

 

[BABYCAREY]

I know! Or, when people get all odd around you:

"You know, having kids is the biggest thrill of my life...oh, umm, sorry, Sara... I forgot...I...umm, how are your dogs?"
Really? Here are my keys, I'm sure your son will be happy with me!

2Dogs!! That makes me soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo angry!!
I kno a few who wud think like that! My opinion is whatever God gives ya was meant for ya!! Whats meant for ya o wont go by ya
XXBabyC

 

[portablechick]

aaaaahhhhh!!! someone in the ttc board just popped back to give us all her words of wisdom on getting that BFP - - just relax, enjoy bd'ing and try not to symptom spot! how kind and thoughtful to share this knowledge with us all after ttc for a whole entire month!!!!!!

mmh do i sound a tad sarcastic this morning???

 

[zowiey]

aaaaahhhhh!!! someone in the ttc board just popped back to give us all her words of wisdom on getting that BFP - - just relax, enjoy bd'ing and try not to symptom spot! how kind and thoughtful to share this knowledge with us all after ttc for a whole entire month!!!!!!

mmh do i sound a tad sarcastic this morning???

Argh! That winds me up so much! I know they mean well, but seriously??!! I have to use so much restraint to not write a sarcastic reply!

I hate it when I get told to relax, just try not to think about it, and it will happen! Really???!!! Because I was pretty damn relaxed in the first 9 months of this. Seriously, if it was that easy I think I would be pregnant by now! By best friend was a bugger for that one, she doesn't have any children and isn't ttc. I just tell her now, that I'm pretty sure that no amount of relaxing on my behalf will improve my dhs sperm! Usually shuts her up!

Another that winds me up is, maybe you just want it to much. Well, no shit! After 2 years of ttc, if I wasn't all that fussed I think I may have called it quits by now.

 

[urchin]

ok here's mine (3 months after my miscarriage)

I know this is probably the wrong thing to say...
then don't say it! (and I actually did say this but she carried on anyway)
But at least you know you can get pregnant

My reply: There is no second prize here, you either get a take home baby or you don't. All I know is that so far I have been unable to carry a baby - which doesn't make me closer to the end goal does it?