Stupid things people have said to you! (a chance to vent!)

[portablechick]

o and another one

johnson's baby wipe commerical on home and health channel (i know sadomasochism)

Johnson's baby knows how it feels to be a mum it's magic!

It's like- ok i get it everyone know's except me!

and also after a friend gave birth recently my other friend commented to the new mummy - 'it's so great.. now u know the true meaning of life' !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[zowiey]

o and another one

johnson's baby wipe commerical on home and health channel (i know sadomasochism)

Johnson's baby knows how it feels to be a mum it's magic!

It's like- ok i get it everyone know's except me!

and also after a friend gave birth recently my other friend commented to the new mummy - 'it's so great.. now u know the trye meaning of life' !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I hate that too!
And I had to cancel our cable tv, I was watching home and health far to much!!

Xxx

 

[2Dogs1Cat]

Yeah, advice from folks that it only took one or two months to get pregnant...

Kind'a like walking up to the guy in a wheel chair and saying, "Just walk up the steps! You know you can if you really try!"

Really? Umm, would have done that a while ago, thanks!

And, we can get there, but we have to find another way, 'cause the stairs ain't working for us! But, there are other ways!

Keep them coming, Ladies! This way when we hear them in real life they are not a shock, just something to make us laugh and say, "Did you really just say that?" Then laugh again....

Laughter is the best medicine!

 

[floofymad]

Someone I work with, who knows how hard everything has been for me lately, was working nearby, turned round to me and said "I love being a mum, it's the best job ever!"

I was like but just walked away, wondering why I'd shared our horrible journey so far with her.

 

[floofymad]

Oh and another from work............ No wonder I'd rather be a housewife...

Was sitting in yet another baby shower, finding it hard not to run to the door, when a male co-worker turned to me and said " When's it going to be my turn, it's not fair. Do you think I'll get a baby shower, being a man?" This was at the end of his first month ttc!


Nearly punched him!

 

[1hopefull]

the ones that bug me the most are probably the most common ones listed on this thread.

just relax and it will happen

it will happen when the time is right (really? when would be the right time? and it just happens to be the right time for you to be pregnant? that's the best when i comes from someone with a swollen belly)

it will happen when you least expect it (so no one that ever tries to plan a family succeeds? really?)

when you stop trying, it will happen

right after so and so adopted, they got pregnant. must be cause you are stressing about it.

 

[DaisyJump]

ahh god i just hate that
Just as my husband had told his dad about us doing IVF, my father in law said to husband 'you know whats going to happen, you'll go through all this and you'll get pregnant naturally'
I just think this is so insensitive. Like all our heartache we've already been through trying for 2.5 yrs and the all the stress of IVF is worth nothing cos i'll just get preggers anyway!
I was close to tears when he said this I was so upset.

AND why do people with children feel the need to offer their advice?! x

 

[LisaBananaman]

Loving this thread!!

The most annoying things for me are -
A) Being asked EVERY month by people who know we're haing trouble TTC - "so how's it going then?" Like the big glass of wine in my hand means I might somehow secretly be pregnant and I'm not telling her. When it works, I will tell people when I'm ready!!
B) When friend's child is playing up - either "are you sure you actually want one of these" or "you can have one of mine"! How insensitive! Like the fundamental drive to bear your own child would somehow be sorted by taking on thir snotty little brat (I'm not bitter, really)!
C) When mentioning the possibility of IVF - " have you considered adoption"? Like, thanks! I'm already petrified we will never have our own child, and that's really put my mind at rest!!

And all these from people who know our situation and I regard my friends! All I can think is that people with kids sometime have NO IDEA of how difficult this journey can be for some people!

Rant over
xxxx

 

[Chloe1]

So you have been trying nearly 2 years? Thats not long really. (that was a doctor and my SIL) Couldnt even reply to that one! x

 

[LisaBananaman]

And totally with portablechick on the person from TTC who popped over to wish all us "poor" LTTTC ladies some babydust . . . . . grrrrr

 

[2Dogs1Cat]

LisaBananaman:
Yeah, I totally agree. Unless she said "I tried for 2 years and this is what worked..." then I'd be glad she popped over. Though, I am sure it was done with kind intent.
And I kindly have an intent to kick her in the shins!
(Kidding!)
(Mostly!)


Chloe1:
Yeah, that one's a gem. Especially since usually it's from the same folks who say, "Don't wait too long, the clock is ticking!"

I'd really like to find that clock and smash it... or at least kick it in the shins, too!

Hey, all you UK folks? Isn't there a UK shin-kicking festive? We should go take it over! We'd all win if we just imagined our opponent to be one of the folks that said some of these things! NO ONE COULD STOP US!

Love you, Ladies! Keep them coming!

 

[floofymad]

And totally with portablechick on the person from TTC who popped over to wish all us "poor" LTTTC ladies some babydust . . . . . grrrrr

Yep, I found that yesterday and it made me REALLY mad! I'm sure she didn't mean any harm, but how can you sympathise and offer advice to people who are trying for ages, when you get preggers first month.

 

[Nightnurse]

Some years ago I had a so called "friend" and she had had her first kid a few months when I called her to see how she was getting on and she would tell me she'd call me back.this happened about 20 or so times,when I asked her how come she never returned my calls not even called once to see how I was,she shouted at be at told me"You'd never understand cause you dont have a child",I was so hurt to this day I still remember this and vow never to call her so often,(she now has 3 kids and is in an abusive relationship with the same guy and now doesnt have a phone,who'll call her now,lol)