Abz1982
Mum to 2 nutters!
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Since the 27th of March my child has been the toddler from hell and I do not know why, or what to do .
She used to go to bed bang at 8pm, she knew it was bed time, she would kiss everyone night night, but now, now she will not go near her room. She screams, throws herself about so much that she hurts herself and I am sure our neighbours are going to think we are hurting her as she screams No mummy, or nOOO daddy so so loud (we have wooden floors so they muse hear as I can hear upstairs and downstairs!). She will only sometimes try to get to sleep in our b ed, but even then I have to pretend to be asleep so that she will sleep. Or she just wants mummy cuddles in a certain chair in the living room.
At nursery she eats ALL her food - even has seconds, yet sat - Tues she hardly will eat a thing here - she has like 2/3 bites and thats is it - maybe one morning she will eat her breakfast plus a banana or something, but she just will not eat here - or even out or at my parents or when we are all sat round the table. she wants on my lap and to mess with my food - not eat it , just mess with it.
She has started throwing and hitting when she doesn't get her own way as well. Or going for things that she knows are breakable - like threatening to take a knife(one of the metal kids ones, so not sharp) to the settee and the tv!
And then this morning..............she went into a unit she is not allowed in, pulled stuff our so she could get at A pen and proceeded to draw all over my drawings I had done, that I have had for over 15 years and mean a lot to me.
I dunno what to do. I am knackered, I am up at 6am, then asleep at about 11pm - and usually she will be up at about 3am and want juice/water/milk or just refuse to go to bed again. I work 40 hours a week..............I may not like my job, but I need it and this last week I have hardly been able to concentrate as I have had like 3-4 hours a night sleep - and as I have a bad back, once I lie down I practically need helped up so I am in agony when she is in the bed with is as I cannot sleep how I need to sleep .
I cannot think why she is suddenly like this. It is not an issue with me and her always wanting me as when her grandma is here she ONLY wants her and if I go to cuddle her she goes mental. I do know her gran is too lax on her, and gives her sweets and stuff, but I wouldnt think they would cause such a change in behaviour.
The only break through has been tonight, she is JUST staying in her room - with the door open, and I can hear her whining and moaning, and coughing. She coughs a lot - so much so that she makes herself sick, but the doctor has said her breathing and lungs are ok, so I dunno what to do!! My mates son was the same (but he is 12) and it turns out its Asthma.
I just not know what to do. People say just leave her to scream, but she follows you - she is out of bed and by your side before you even are out her room! and she WILL scream for hours and hours - 3 hours is the best so far.
She used to go to bed bang at 8pm, she knew it was bed time, she would kiss everyone night night, but now, now she will not go near her room. She screams, throws herself about so much that she hurts herself and I am sure our neighbours are going to think we are hurting her as she screams No mummy, or nOOO daddy so so loud (we have wooden floors so they muse hear as I can hear upstairs and downstairs!). She will only sometimes try to get to sleep in our b ed, but even then I have to pretend to be asleep so that she will sleep. Or she just wants mummy cuddles in a certain chair in the living room.
At nursery she eats ALL her food - even has seconds, yet sat - Tues she hardly will eat a thing here - she has like 2/3 bites and thats is it - maybe one morning she will eat her breakfast plus a banana or something, but she just will not eat here - or even out or at my parents or when we are all sat round the table. she wants on my lap and to mess with my food - not eat it , just mess with it.
She has started throwing and hitting when she doesn't get her own way as well. Or going for things that she knows are breakable - like threatening to take a knife(one of the metal kids ones, so not sharp) to the settee and the tv!
And then this morning..............she went into a unit she is not allowed in, pulled stuff our so she could get at A pen and proceeded to draw all over my drawings I had done, that I have had for over 15 years and mean a lot to me.
I dunno what to do. I am knackered, I am up at 6am, then asleep at about 11pm - and usually she will be up at about 3am and want juice/water/milk or just refuse to go to bed again. I work 40 hours a week..............I may not like my job, but I need it and this last week I have hardly been able to concentrate as I have had like 3-4 hours a night sleep - and as I have a bad back, once I lie down I practically need helped up so I am in agony when she is in the bed with is as I cannot sleep how I need to sleep .
I cannot think why she is suddenly like this. It is not an issue with me and her always wanting me as when her grandma is here she ONLY wants her and if I go to cuddle her she goes mental. I do know her gran is too lax on her, and gives her sweets and stuff, but I wouldnt think they would cause such a change in behaviour.
The only break through has been tonight, she is JUST staying in her room - with the door open, and I can hear her whining and moaning, and coughing. She coughs a lot - so much so that she makes herself sick, but the doctor has said her breathing and lungs are ok, so I dunno what to do!! My mates son was the same (but he is 12) and it turns out its Asthma.
I just not know what to do. People say just leave her to scream, but she follows you - she is out of bed and by your side before you even are out her room! and she WILL scream for hours and hours - 3 hours is the best so far.