NavyLadybug
Mom to Magnus & Lyle
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As I stated, we are currently going through a missed miscarriage. We, unknowingly, lost our baby at 5w3d (by gestational sac measurement) but my body didn't realize it. I am supposed to be 8w4d today.
It took 3 agonizing days to figure out what was wrong and we had 5 different Drs telling us 5 different things but yesterday after severe bleeding and a trip to the ER, we got an answer. Our baby had died. It kills me to know that for 3 weeks I was carrying my dead child in my womb and I didn't even know it, it makes me feel like a failure as a mother.
I've had 2 miscarriages before this, one in 2012 and one last Dec. While these were painful beyond belief, in my mind I would rather have had that happen again then have had a missed miscarriage because at least then you know it hasn't been long. The pain is so much worse knowing that I carried around my deceased child for 3 weeks.
As I understand from what my Dr told me (I was in a haze so its a little foggy) all pregnancy has a 15-20% chance of miscarriage, which I knew. But that after a sac is found, it drops to 5% and of that 5%, only 1% of that group suffers a Missed Miscarriage. So I'm just..... shell shocked I guess. (Again, everything was a haze so I may not have heard all that right)
We, with the support of our OB and counselor, decided to "give the baby an identity" as the counselor put it, even though that sounds so cold being said that way. That means though that we decided to give the baby a name. I just couldn't bear for a child that we wanted, tried for and loved so much to pass completely without so much as a name. I didn't want them to be "that baby we miscarried", I wanted them to be the baby they were, not just something that happened.
So, since we didn't know the sex, we decided on the name Robin Leigh. We didn't know before we picked the name that while Robin is obviously like the bird, Leigh meant "Meadow". When we found that out my husband said, "It fits, our Little Robin Egg, who never got to hatch, went back to his own little meadow."
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Anyway, thank you for reading. I wish everyone the best in their own journeys, be they happy or sad.
It took 3 agonizing days to figure out what was wrong and we had 5 different Drs telling us 5 different things but yesterday after severe bleeding and a trip to the ER, we got an answer. Our baby had died. It kills me to know that for 3 weeks I was carrying my dead child in my womb and I didn't even know it, it makes me feel like a failure as a mother.
I've had 2 miscarriages before this, one in 2012 and one last Dec. While these were painful beyond belief, in my mind I would rather have had that happen again then have had a missed miscarriage because at least then you know it hasn't been long. The pain is so much worse knowing that I carried around my deceased child for 3 weeks.
As I understand from what my Dr told me (I was in a haze so its a little foggy) all pregnancy has a 15-20% chance of miscarriage, which I knew. But that after a sac is found, it drops to 5% and of that 5%, only 1% of that group suffers a Missed Miscarriage. So I'm just..... shell shocked I guess. (Again, everything was a haze so I may not have heard all that right)
We, with the support of our OB and counselor, decided to "give the baby an identity" as the counselor put it, even though that sounds so cold being said that way. That means though that we decided to give the baby a name. I just couldn't bear for a child that we wanted, tried for and loved so much to pass completely without so much as a name. I didn't want them to be "that baby we miscarried", I wanted them to be the baby they were, not just something that happened.
So, since we didn't know the sex, we decided on the name Robin Leigh. We didn't know before we picked the name that while Robin is obviously like the bird, Leigh meant "Meadow". When we found that out my husband said, "It fits, our Little Robin Egg, who never got to hatch, went back to his own little meadow."
https://lagf.lilypie.com/hg3tm4.png
Anyway, thank you for reading. I wish everyone the best in their own journeys, be they happy or sad.