Super bad morning. So emotional. :(

[debsxhim]

I just need to rant. I've been crying for the past half an hour.
My OH's brother hates me. Mostly because I was 15 and he was 18 when we first started dating. He sent my OH a letter saying I was jail bait, I was going to get him sent to prison, that I was just a piece of ass.
I forgave him for that. Were having financial issues right now. His mom told his brother and now his brother went and just let loose on me.
He comented on my facebook about my puppy group and said "People who think pets are a hobby need to get a life, just saying!!!"
I thought nothing of it but then saw a message he sent me about my dogs vaccinations. He said " Deborah, my brother is in a whole lot of financial problems, maybe even jail time and you're thinking about vaccinating your pet. I mean, that's just wrong the way I look at it. Hmmmm. makes u think? "
Then he commented on a picture of my cat saying how digusting she was, and on a picture of my engagement ring saying "Wonder where he got the money for that!!!"

I feel so crappy because half of his family hates me. I love him so much but sometimes I dont wana deal with any of them and I have to if I want to be with him. Im trying to figure out our financial problems but its so hard when people get involved...

Ugh.

 

[Sophiiie]

wow.. he really needs to get a grip! he sounds absolutely pathetic. have you spoken to your OH about the things his brother has said? big x

 

[debsxhim]

Yeah. He said he'll talk to him about it. He denies theres anything wrong which bothers me wrong because that means ONE of them is lying and I dont know why his brother would jeprodize their relationship for nothing, you know? Its just lame.

 

[debsxhim]

He says he doesnt know why Im getting so worked up when he never called me names. This is what he said:

You know what Deborah, I never judged u and no I never said i hated u, I just know that my brother is barely making ends meet and now he has a case thats probably going to be pending. And here u are talking about some vaccination, and doggy club. Is it my business, hell ya, as long as he's my blood its always going to be like that.

So I replied with:
Don't know why im getting upset? Yet your commenting calling my cat ugly, telling me I need to get a life? This doggy "club" is free. Does it say anywhere on there that were paying ANY sort of money? There you go jumping to conclusions. You really think they're going to send him to jail over medical bills? You must be living in a different world. The jails/prisons have enough people as is. If they send in all the people with medical debts they'd be even MORE overloaded. Im not going to bother wasting my time with you. It shouldn't bother me that you act the way you do, but obviously it does and your wasting my time and energy. We have shit under control without you waltzing in telling me what we can and cant spend money on. MAYBE if you talked to Tom about this stuff instead of believing every single word your mom says then this never would have happened. I get it hes family. But get this, were engaged. Were going to get married. That should practically make me family too. If you want to ruin a relationship with me that barely even started then so be it. Ive never judged you despite the crap you did, I never took a second thought to pass a judgement on you because your toms brother and I dont want to ruin anything between you guys. But whats done is done, if your passing judgements and going to try to get me worked up then you win! Im done talking to you because I dont need to try to fix something between us that never existed because you didnt let it. Bye!

Long...sorry

 

[Moomins]

He sounds really immature i'd just block him on facebook that way he can't message you, do you have to see him face to face ever? If my OH's siblings were like that i'd make sure i never had to see them but i'm really stubborn lol, i wouldn't give him the time of day by replying either

 

[pinkribbon]

I'd just block him too, he sounds like a waste of time. Let him believe what he wants to believe he's pathetic.